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How often does your DH bug you for sex?
Thats my question, how often does your DH bug you for sex? Well, I suppose compared to how often you actually have sex.
Don't answer if you feel that the question is too personal. I expect that the title of this post might get quite a few lurkers. Lurkers feel free to post as well.
Re: How often does your DH bug you for sex?
If there's something wrong with your H, then there's something wrong with mine too.
We have sex 3-5 times a week and he wishes it was 3-5 times a day. I'm kind of dreading M starting school cause then we will be alone at home together all the time (he works from home) and I'll never have M as an excuse! Ha Ha!
I wish. I have offered to buy him the magazines or even just watch porn with him (in hope that he could use that for self satisfaction), but he is not interested. I encourage masterbation all the way!
I do not envy you.
I encourage it too! I'm not into watching porn with him though, I don't want him to get any crazy ideas!
Maybe they need some sex toys like:
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http://sexuality.about.com/od/malesextoys/a/male_sex_toys.htm
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My H never seems to want sex very much. Fine with me right now because at this point in my pregnancy I'm pretty sure it would hurt. He also has said that he thinks it would be "weird" to have sex when I'm pregnant now that the baby is moving around and stuff, like the baby would know we are having sex (I've tried to tell him this is impossible but he still is uncomfortable with the idea).
When I wasn't pg though he has not had a big interest in it for a while. I think it may have had to do with him being unemployed and feeling depressed and not "manly" or something. But it made me feel terrible, like I was completely unattractive.
me too.
Not very often. DH has a low libido, so most of the initiation is done by me. I'd love to go 2-3 times per week, but most of the time it's maybe once a week. I knew this when we married, so it's not a new issue.
We had to have a discussion in the beginning of our marriage about frequency and my expectations. I thought he didn't find me attractive (quite the opposite), but I didn't know how he really felt. I think his job has lot to do with it, since when he was in MI with me for three months, we were a lot more frequent (five or six times a week).
I WISH dh bugged me for sex! I'm the one always bugging him and 7 times out of 10 I'm shot down.
On average we do it 1-2x a week. It used to be more like 4-5x a week, but that was before kids
Sad times.
I'm jealous of you ladies! STBXH rarely initiated sex. First it was the stress of the job, then not having a job, then the move, then the job again, then the drugs...a lot of it was the drugs. I had to beg him to sleep with me 2x times a month! It's no wonder we were unsuccessful at TTC...
I hope to find someone like your husbands who can't keep their hands off of me!
I'm with a couple of you girls in that he's as turned on now as he was at 18. I really thought his libido would have settled with age. Meh. I guess not.
We don't do it often enough - not that he doesn't want to, but I'm overweight ( I sometimes think that I was really meant to have triplets and that the third is still in there) and thanks to the twins not only am I overweight, but I have flaps. Yes, like a flying squirrel. I haven't shaved my legs in some time now, so my mongolian monkey legs aren't helping me to feel sexy. Plus, having the twins in the next room and the nanny across the hall doesn't help. Plus I'm tired at the end of each day and just don't want to do it.
However, we had sex 2 nights ago - I'm still a bit sore (it was the really good kind of sex! ) and I'm walking a bit funny but I slept like a freaking log that night! I still feel well rested from it!
Chronically hilarious - you'll split your stitches!
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Well I'm not married, and we've only been dating for a few months, but we've done it at least once a day since last Monday.
We don't live together, so I'm sure that's the difference, but our expectation is that we'll do it every time we hang out. If I don't want to, he never minds. If he doesn't want to, it's because he's upset about something.
Meggers, I love you, so please don't take this the wrong way, but you are still in the lovely Honeymoon period. We were doing it sometimes 5 times a day at that stage, in lots of naughty places. By now I was hoping that he would have settled down, it has been 8 years and 1 kid later. You know why the Bride smiles on her wedding day?
I thought this would happen too.
M just went down for his nap and right away H started talking about it. I had a giggle and thought about this post.
Me three!
I'm the one bugging for it to be honest. About two months ago my hormones shot through the roof and I swear I want sex all the time. I pretty much want it every day, but try not to bug DH too much when he comes home exhausted from work.
(TMI) I even just invested in my first ever vibrator to help myself out and not ask for it so much. His drive is a bit lower than mine and while he usually won't say no I can tell when he's too tired. He'd be fine with once or twice a week...sometimes even more sporadic if I don't initiate.
I'm guessing my drive will decrease once the baby's born too so I'm kind of trying to take advantage of it while it lasts and we have the time!
Haha oh I know! Sorry that's what I meant when I said we've only been dating a few months. So I know my experience isn't too relevant here, I just wanted to share.
But yes, I am aware that we only do it so much because it's new.
To keep it up for a lifetime would be exhausting I think.
Thank you for not taking that the wrong way.
DH used to always be the initiator, though it wasn't too hard because I was always game. We were long distance for awhile, so those weekends together used to be marathons (sigh). Then we fell into a very predictable pattern of every other day when we lived in Canada. I wasn't working and we didn't have much of a social life. Easy routine.
But ever since we've been in SA, DH rarely initiates. At most it's once a week. And every time I initiate I get shot down. It's been a real sore point these last few months. I bring it up, but he never has much to say. Though now it's gotten to the point that when I get crabby, he says he needs to shag me because I'm pissed about being rejected too much. Whatever works!
I tried to post before my iPhone, but that didn't work.
Anyway, we have sex 2-3x/week. DH wants it 2-3x/day though. We recently started having more sex, for a few months (year) we were down to 1x/week, due to my ED (too low of weight, lost my period and my libido died... apparently my underweight body wasn't thinking about reproduction...) and I had an IUD which gave me a lot of pain. I had the IUD removed and I've gained around 15lbs which have helped my libido significantly. When I gained around 10lbs, my libido started to increase.
DH is happy to say the least
I get that by 'bugging you' you could mean that the other person is just kind of getting the fire lit by being a little bit naughty, pushing your mind in that direction, etc. But Blushing, I really feel like there is a limit and a point where it's not just suggestion to the person you love to have sex, but harassment. If it really bothers you, please put your foot down. For me, waking up to being fondled is not ok. If it's a cheeky way DH is initiating sex once in a while, sure. But regularly? No. You're married, sex is a part of marriage, but it's still your decision how often you want to have sex and your right to put limits on how you want to be approached in that regard.
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