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randoms/vents/confessions/whatever...
*H took my kitty to the vet last night and I had a hard ugly cry. So bad that my neighbor heard me and brought me flowers...which was very sweet. I feel that I am not handling it so well. I mean it was "just a cat" right? Ugh. I didn't realize it would be so hard. *I am way too addicted to LMN channel. I watch more stupid movies than I'll ever admit. * I always thought the Beach Boys song they were just saying bop bop bop ba ran. I had no clue until recently it was actually Barbara Ann. *my kid had a taste of hot dog and marshmallow in the last 2 weeks. I am sure that is a mom fail somewhere but he loved it!s
Re: randoms/vents/confessions/whatever...
First, it is totally ok and normal to react that way to the loss of a pet. I was a DISASTER when we had to put Picasso down last summer. Sorry, C, that sucks big time
Also, the Barbara Ann thing....hilarious.
Mine:
I am using the "I just had a baby" card to keep my brother and his 16 and pregnant drama family out of my house for BOTH Thanksgiving and Christmas...
My inlaws have decided to come for Thanksgiving and the thought of my FIL at my house with his case of corona and me with a new baby makes me want to break out in {more} hives. We've never spent a holiday with them (their choice) and this might not be the best one to spend together.
Jude has more 0-6 month clothes than his sisters ever did, I think. Luckily it is all second hand but wow...I thought I would have a hard time finding boy clothes that I liked, guess not.
Good luck with the IL's. Mine still think that we will all be cramming into their house this year for Christmas. Nope. I'm having C's first Christmas at our house, with or without them!!
I was unpacking the next size of clothes from TANKC this morning and realized that I *may* have overbought a little. At least I didn't buy full price....
Mine:
I am so excited for our trip to Denver this weekend. We are flying and C gets to meet my dad, aunts, uncles, cousins and Grammy for the first time. There is no way that we will be able to fit everything into 3.5 days, but I am sure going to try.
I could use some jobsearchingjuju or something. Why is this process so hard?
C started solids this week at the recommendation of our pediatrician and is loving every bite. How fun it is to watch him grow and change every day. I am a little nervous about how this will impact my diaper/wash routine...
What kind of job are you looking for??
Married the love of my life 6/3/06
Became a family of three 8/25/09
So sorry about your cat, C.
*My FIL is dying. We all visited him in the hospital last night and it gave MIL a break from thinking about it all- she got to hold Ian and he was talking up a storm with her, adorable. I hope it goes quickly for FIL, he's gone through so much this year with pneumonia, breaking his legs, cancer, chemo, etc.
*We talked to Elsie about Papa and how he has an owwie inside of him. This talk was a lot easier than I thought and dh was glad we did (I even got a little laugh out of him trying to explain this stuff so a 4-year old would understand, you have to be a little silly and simple). And she thinks that you take an airplane to heaven.. .. .. this one wasn't from me, it cracked me up.
*This is embarrassing (and anyone that sees me is going to look now). One of my boobs is bigger than the other. I don't know if this is from nursing or not. I'd always and still do alternate boobs. I think it's very noticable.
*Ian is getting so big. I wish time would slow down. He loves daycare! SIL said he talked up a storm yesterday and loves just looking around. This makes coming back to work soooo much better.
*DH and I work at the same company and are both job hunting - shows how good this place is! I'm soo irritated with my position and supervisor and hoping some of these places I've applied at will call back already! DH has an interview next week at a very good local company. I'm praying he gets this job because it will be a huge pay raise, benefits, and a company he could have a long career with.
*I'm repainting our kitchen including cabinets. It sux! Not gonna lie I didn't think it would be this bad. It looks great though. Went from nasty wood ones to white. OF course MIL has to be all "those are nice wood cabinets...." um no they are gross and I didn't ask for your 2 cents.
*I need to be good about money but really want to shop at Express this weekend. Maybe check out Younkers to see if they have purses on sale
*I have had baby fever really bad lately, but DH isn't ready. He told me the other day that I should just "make it happen" (i.e.: stop taking my pills) because he will never "be ready" Well....he is AT this week and is spending a lot of time with his friends son, so he told me that we can do the kid thing ASAP if I want. So...now that it is a real possibilty, I am getting nervous! Is that weird or normal?
*DH told me the other day that once I finish my Master's (still at least a year or two away at this rate), maybe I should look for a new job. I actually love the job itself (most days), but the bureaucracy, politics and high school gossip are enough to drive me to drink
*DH is gone for two weeks, and I am really lonely. Even though we work opposite shifts and barely see each other, I am so sad that I dont have that time with him
*My sister is coming in town tomorrow night and I am stoked! Wish I had time off when she was here though
*I had a terrible migraine last night and called in sick and because of a delay in text messages and confusion, I really thought my boss was denying me the night off. There was no way I wuold have survived work last night.
*My Droid X is a piece of sh*t and I really hope we only signed a 1 year contract because I am over it
I'm so sorry for your kitty! Big hugs today.
Mine:
* I'm so sick of needing to diet. Why is losing weight not easier? It consumes me and not in a good way
* When is my 2 yr old going to like me again? I'm sick of him being an angel for Dad/daycare/whoever and starting a screaming fit whenever I walk into the room. He randomly gave my neighbor a kiss last night. Huh, where's my kisses??
* I'm excited for the Nighthawks game! Why can't it be on a Friday.
* And please let it be nice enough for pictures this weekend so my kids can wear the outfits I picked out for them. I do not want to put them in jeans, again.
thanks to jennied
Umm totally normal. I'm pretty sure that the first time we had unprotected sex for the purpose of baby making, I had a full blown panic attack. And then when we started fertility and actually got pregnant... ohhh man. I ugly cried for a good hour when I saw the positive on that test. It's a crazy feeling when something you think about for your whole life actually becomes a reality. It's SO exciting, but SO terrifying all at the same time.
I think things are finally starting to come together...we sold our house, bought one in Omaha, and I found a daycare lady last night that I LOVE. Of course she had to be the most expensive in-home on my list, but I think we can make it work, and I feel 100% confident that she will be amazing, and that's worth that extra $$ to me. I feel like the sick feeling in my stomach that I've had for the last 6 months is finally dwindling. I can't stop feeling like something is going to blow up in our face and ruin everything though. I wish I could be positive, but it's so hard.
I'm going to 4 consignment sales, and 4 consignment stores on Saturday to shop for A's fall wardrobe. I've been extremely picky with consignment clothes lately, so I'm hoping that I'm able to get some really awesome deals and find things that are in good shape! I'm excited!
Nursing
-I am wearing maternity jeggings today. And I love them.
-A spent all day in his jammies yesterday and probably will again today.
-We officially need to find a "mother's helper" or part time nanny for this winter and I am way too overwhelmed to know where to start.
-If my MIL starts in on us coming to Florida for Thanksgiving one more time I'm going to snap. Sorry, I'm not flying at 36 weeks pregnant with a 17 month old....just not happening. And stop telling me "we would come to you, but Omaha is boring." Seriously?
So at my ILs this weekend and they have a wall of pictures (btw they stole this idea from me shortly after my husband took a picture and sent to them of ours) and they have a Our Family quote with about 15 pictures around it on one side and I am not in a single one and my husband is in maybe 2? My bil/sil have at least 6 up there (4 engagement) and nieces/nephews dominate the rest...makes me kind of sad b/c I have been in their lives for over 10 years and we have never really fought as I am nonconfrontational but I kept their hubby in NE instead of back where they are at(or so they assume). On the rest of their wall they have all sorts of other pictures in frames but the only two that are of us are ones we have given them (i.e. family picture, one wedding picture and picture that we did at portrait people this spring). I don't want to fight with hubby about it by even bringing it up and we rarely see them as they are 7hrs away so I am trying not to let it upset me...but I told h we are getting fall pictures taken and I am sending them to her in frames for xmas
see if they make the wall.....
C- I'm so sorry about your kitty, I lost it big time when our pug died a few years ago.
Mine:
I hate the words "ugly cry". I guess I get that they imply a very hard core sob fest, I just don't understand why it has to be ugly (because then I think of Farrah crying- ha ha). I don't care if people use it, just saying I don't like it.
B is sick today with diahrrea. I feel awful that he's sick, but I'm secretly glad my dad is watching him and changing his diapers all day. And I'm likely getting a touch of something because I could vomit at any second.
I need a break from work... it's just so hectic and overwhelming. Not talking Nest break, like I need a few days away. Or just some help would relieve some of this craziness.
- I'm trying to talk to E about the baby and all I hear is "no mommy....no baby." Someone's in for a rude awakening
- While I really like our dog (he's calmed down a lot lately too!) I wonder if we rushed into it just a bit. Having another thing to take care of might be too much once the baby is here. DH and DS love him to pieces though (and I do too). This too shall pass.
- I suggested the name Eddie to DH today for the baby and he said "no, that name sucks." Guess it's better than his reaction to Ezra....which I admit is a little out there.
- I'm feeling really guilty about this pregnancy after finding out that, short of a miracle or IVF which they can't afford, SIL and BIL won't be able to have kids. They haven't talked about it openly with us but I'm sure seeing us with E and me being pg will sting. How could it not? It would for me if the roles were reversed.
love is for every her, love is for every him, love is for everyone
Yep, this is exactly what you do. H's family has way more pictures of DS than anyone else in the family and to be honest, I always feel sort of weird about it or hope that other fam members aren't offended by it, BUT we are always sending them and giving them pictures when the others are not. And, they love it when they're framed.
cats - I'm so sorry about your cat.
sroby - I've been thinking about your family a lot. Please let me know if there's anything you (will) need help with. Seriously!
Mine:
* I hate feeling jealous of others. Or, I guess this one person, in particular. I don't want to, it's just so hard not to! Ugh.
* I'm having super anxiety about these next 2 months (and the ones that will follow). It's bad.
* I have been feeding my kid and myself McDonald's way (way way) too much lately. It makes me feel awful and guilty and like a big, 'ole hypocrite.
Hmm, so basically, I'm not feeling so hot.
* I am a widow to DH and his race car and I'm getting really sick of it.
* My mind is consumed with thoughts of TTC #2
* My SIL is 18 weeks pregnant and she has only gained 5 lbs! 5 LBS! I was a blimp by then!
My DH has been SOOOO cute since I've gotten pregnant. I was joking one night when I had a migraine that I may be a "One and Done" and he said...well thats fine...however then I want a girl so I can spoil my princess. We will take whatever we can get, but we both think its a boy.
He keeps joking with me that he wants to name the baby Franklin. Its kinda a long back story, but I've basically put a big fat NO on that. Well today we were joking around with it and he took a sharpie and wrote Franklin with a big arrow on my belly.....lol.
I can't wait til March so I can start looking for a job again. Nothing came up before I got pregnant so now I'm waiting til after.
I graduate in 3 MONTHS with my Bachelors degree!! WHOO HOO!
* It is beautiful outside! If you haven't been outdoors in the last couple hours, just go stand outside for a minute. I'm glad I travel between schools today and was able to enjoy the fresh air for a bit.
* I stopped at Arby's for lunch, and they got rid of their pecan chicken salad sandwich! Boo! That was my favorite thing there.
* It took DH a good year to figure out how to be a real dad with E, but now that he is comfortable in his role, I can't wait to see him with the baby. Last time I just think he had no clue what to do, so I'm hoping this time will be easier for me because I'll actually have help.
* I can't decide how I want to spell baby girl's name: Isla or Ila. I really like Isla, but I don't want it to always be mispronounced. We'll probably stick with Isla, I'm just over thinking this!
* I am constantly sore from this little girl, but she is so active I can't help but smile throughout the day as she kicks and punches away. I am a little worried with how painful it can be to walk sometimes, and I have 4 more months to go. Hopefully she will move up higher sometime soon and give my lower region a break!
Because I love you.
Never say never
Our friends that have been married over 10 years were told they would NEVER have a baby together.... well after adopting a little guy around the same time C was born.... they just welcomed their baby boy on Sunday night! Miracles DO happen! 
Married the love of my life 6/3/06
Became a family of three 8/25/09
Do you want it to sound like Isla? I didn't know how "Ila" is pronounced.
So sorry about your Father-in-Law.
My right boob is a whole size smaller than my left & the only think I can think of is from nursing. My daughter did so much better on that side (even though I alternated). I can fit my hand in between my bra & by boob on that side!
But they DID have a baby together. Who was/is absolutely a miracle. And then they also welcomed a biological child. Who happens to be their first child's sibling. Just sayin'...
Positive adoption language is *very* important to use, particularly around the family who is directly impacted by it. What may seem insignificant to you greatly impacts how that child feels about his/her status in the family, their self-worth, etc. You can learn more positive adoption language here: http://www.adoptivefamilies.com/pdf/PositiveLanguage.pdf
You will have people not know how to pronounce it either way, especially if you spell it "Ila". Go with Isla, it will become more commonly used and people will know it's pronounced Eye-La.
HOLD THE PHONE.
Kendra. EDDIE!? I thought we were friends! What is this??! I feel like I dont even know you.
Bryn - I'd go with Isla. For sure.
I'm only saying this because it is my absolute favorite girl name (and I secretly want another kid just to use the damn name) please go with Isla. Ila will still get mispronounced.
Dying! I will fully admit Eddie is a guilty pleasure of mine. So is Graeme but Dan's response is "like the cracker?"
Sigh.
love is for every her, love is for every him, love is for everyone
This happened to a friend of mine recently as well! So now they have a 13 month old and an infant!!
Hey...I'm a nurse. Are you looking for anything specific? PM me if you want.
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I know success stories as well but I also know the harsh reality of the other side. I'm sure they are not thinking positively right now (having just found out a few weeks ago). They have lots of options but I doubt the future looks bright to them at the moment. I hope she opens up a bit this weekend.
love is for every her, love is for every him, love is for everyone
Brynn,
Not to throw another wrench in it for you, but DD has a friend at daycare named Iyla, pronounced Eye-la. Just another option for you!