June 2008 Weddings
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FFFC

In honor of WCIB's one year anniversary ... make it juicy. :)

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  • Hmm, you want juicy?

     Me and my H are splitting up.

    I was wondering how and when to share this info with the board. So....now is as good a time as any, right?

    Horrible timing, obviously, since I am pregnant. But, we've had some ongoing issues, that I thought we would work through. This summer it became obvious that we will not be able to work through them. Throw in a couple other not-so-great things that happened this summer, and.....we're done. No, we are not going to counseling or anything like that. The not-so-great things that happened kind of solidified the fact that no counseling or anything like that is going to get things to where they need to be. So it's best that we just move on. It sucks for the kids, but it will be better in the end for everyone. We are getting along and working through everything just fine. No nastiness or fighting. He moved out of the house earlier this month, and I am going to end up keeping the house. (eek!!! owning a house on my own is sort of scary!) He is going to come stay at the house right after I have Carter, to help me out. Hmm I think that about covers everything.

    However, I am not leaving the board. Y'all can't get rid of me that easily!!!

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  • katie, I am sorry to hear this and glad you won't be leaving--hopefully you will find support and love here!
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  • Wow Katie, that's a lot to go through. T&P that everything stays as smooth as you made it sound like it is going.

  • I'm sorry Katie! I'm glad you'll stick around too!

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  • T&P to you Katie.  I am glad you aren't trying to skip out on us. :)
  • Katie - sorry to hear that - that's a lot to deal with for anyone, let alone pregnant (and with a toddler at home!) I also am really glad you're not leaving us :) 
  • Oh my goodness Katie... I'm so sorry to hear that. I'm glad you aren't leaving us, and you know we're all here for you should you need anything. *hugs*
  • I'm so sorry Katie that you're going through this. It can't be easy for anyone, let alone someone who's pregnant with a toddler at home. I hope everything works out for you and your family. Good for you on sticking around here, you'll get a lot of support here!
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  • Oh, Katie. I'm so sorry. Sounds like you've got a good handle on things though. Glad you aren't leaving us! Big hugs to you.
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  • Wow, Katie. My heart just sank!

    I'm so sorry. :(  I wish there was something more to say. I am glad that you guys are able to at least be civil and remain partners when it comes to parenting. It seems like you have a positive attitude about getting through this. Do you have a strong support system in place with your family?

    I'm glad you're planning to stick around. It sounds kinda dumb, but let us know if there's anything we can do.

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    Hmm, you want juicy?

     Me and my H are splitting up.

    I was wondering how and when to share this info with the board. So....now is as good a time as any, right?

    Horrible timing, obviously, since I am pregnant. But, we've had some ongoing issues, that I thought we would work through. This summer it became obvious that we will not be able to work through them. Throw in a couple other not-so-great things that happened this summer, and.....we're done. No, we are not going to counseling or anything like that. The not-so-great things that happened kind of solidified the fact that no counseling or anything like that is going to get things to where they need to be. So it's best that we just move on. It sucks for the kids, but it will be better in the end for everyone. We are getting along and working through everything just fine. No nastiness or fighting. He moved out of the house earlier this month, and I am going to end up keeping the house. (eek!!! owning a house on my own is sort of scary!) He is going to come stay at the house right after I have Carter, to help me out. Hmm I think that about covers everything.

    However, I am not leaving the board. Y'all can't get rid of me that easily!!!



    I'm secretly hoping you are kidding, because I totally didn't expect you to drop this kind of news on us. I am sorry to hear this, however, at least you two are working through things like adults, people change, sometimes we can't help that.
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  • So sorry to hear this news.  Kudos to you for being so positive about the whole situation, though.  I can't imagine what a tough time you must be having, but to echo what everyone else has said, we're all here for support & help as you need it.  ((Hugs))
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  • Man, I'm so sorry Katie.. I hate this for you but it sounds like you're in a good place now.

    Like others said, I'm glad you are staying around though. You couldn't cheat us out of new baby pictures :)

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  • Katie, I am so sorry to hear this news. Please let us know if there is anything we can do to help. You'll be in my thoughts.
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  • Wow! I'm new here but am so sorry! You seem to be really strong though who will pull through this!
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  • Thank you for all the kind words ladies. In addition to all of you, I am very lucky to have very supportive family and friends. So far, this whole sitation has been a lot less painful and a lot less messy then it could have been. It is sad, for sure, and certainly not what either me or my H expected to happen - but it is what it is, and we are just trying to make the best of it.

    Trickey, sorry for hijacking your thread!!!

    And seriously, thanks for all the support, it means a lot.

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    Trickey, sorry for hijacking your thread!!!



    Katie, it's not a big deal. I'm just happy that you were comfortable telling us and you don't have plans to leave. We like you, and we are here for you if you need us! :)
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  • Oh Katie. I'm so very sorry. Will keep you in my prayers.
  • Katie I am very sorry to hear this! Like others have said, it sounds like you're in a good place and are comfortable with the decision you and your H are making. I am also very glad that you and your H are going to be able to both be supportive parents - that will mean the world to your kids!
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  • Oh Katie, I am so sorry to hear this.  I am happy to hear that you have a wonderful support system, and that you and H are working through this amicably.  Many prayers coming to you!
  • I'm sorry to hear that, Katie.  As evidence of this post - we are all thinking about you and are definitely here for you if you need us.  Best of luck to you through this process.
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    Trickey, sorry for hijacking your thread!!!



    Katie, it's not a big deal. I'm just happy that you were comfortable telling us and you don't have plans to leave. We like you, and we are here for you if you need us! :)

    This exactly. I'm so sorry you are going through this. Hang in there and like Heather said, let us know if there is anything we can do!

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  • Wow, Katie I'm so sorry you're going through this. I admire your strength and courage.  You're in my thoughts.
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  • Katie, I'm so sorry to hear what you are dealing with.  I am glad that he is remaining cooperative about parenting and is willing to help you out with Carter when he arrives.  I hope the transition to the next chapter of your life goes as smoothly as possible.  You're in my thoughts.  
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  • Oh no, I am so sorry Katie.  You're in my thoughts.  Hugs.
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  • ((hugs)) Katie!

    My mom and dad separated while my mom was pg with my younger sister.  So my mom had a 2.5 year old and was pg.  SHe moved back in with my grandparents.  In the end things turned out fine.  I had friends who's parents divorced when they were older and it was so much harder for them.  I don't remember my parents ever living together so all I ever knew was living with my mom.  And you are right, it will be better in the end for Jack and Carter to grow up in a positive environment! 

  • The other ladies have already said it all Katie... I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through this, especially while pregnant & chasing Jack around :(  So glad to hear that you're sticking around though- you'd be missed!!!  Sending thoughts & prayers your way...

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    The other ladies have already said it all Katie... I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through this, especially while pregnant & chasing Jack around :(  So glad to hear that you're sticking around though- you'd be missed!!!  Sending thoughts & prayers your way...

    Ditto this.  Definitely glad you're sticking around. 

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    ((hugs)) Katie!

    My mom and dad separated while my mom was pg with my younger sister.  So my mom had a 2.5 year old and was pg.  SHe moved back in with my grandparents.  In the end things turned out fine.  I had friends who's parents divorced when they were older and it was so much harder for them.  I don't remember my parents ever living together so all I ever knew was living with my mom.  And you are right, it will be better in the end for Jack and Carter to grow up in a positive environment! 



    I agree with this. I never knew what it was like to live with my dad and people think I should be damaged but at the end of the day my husband is more damaged having seen his parents married for 20 some years hating each other. I never knew any different.

    It will be so much better for the boys.
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    ((hugs)) Katie!

    My mom and dad separated while my mom was pg with my younger sister.  So my mom had a 2.5 year old and was pg.  SHe moved back in with my grandparents.  In the end things turned out fine.  I had friends who's parents divorced when they were older and it was so much harder for them.  I don't remember my parents ever living together so all I ever knew was living with my mom.  And you are right, it will be better in the end for Jack and Carter to grow up in a positive environment! 



    I agree with this. I never knew what it was like to live with my dad and people think I should be damaged but at the end of the day my husband is more damaged having seen his parents married for 20 some years hating each other. I never knew any different.

    It will be so much better for the boys.

     

    Thanks Ranger, and Trickey, for sharing. This is my line of thinking too. Carter will never live with both of us together, and Jack will not remember living with us both. To me, if we know this is over, it seems smarter to just move on and get the boys to their new "normal" as soon as possible. I figure it will be much, much easier for them to adjust now rather than later. The nice thing is that I will have primary custody of the boys (with Dad seeing them as often as he wants) and I am keeping the house, so they will have a "home base" so to speak - this will be their constant. Which I think is important. And nice for Jack, since he is already used to this being "his house" with "his room" and everything else. 

    And thank you to everyone else who left a comment - again, all the support means a lot =) You girls really are the best!! 

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