F/U $ Issues

Kendra Rose · October 2011

We had a good discussion last night and are going to work on things together.

DH has never been good with money, and I've been trying to help him learn over the years we've been together. This situation we're in certainly isn't entirely his fault. I should have jumped in sooner. Much sooner.

We got down to the root of some of the issues last night, and they centered mostly around DH's pride and not wanting to admit he needed help. As a husband he feels that he shoudl be able to provide for our family and look after things, so the fact that he wasn't able to do that devestated him. He admitted there have been a few late payments, but nothing major. Our rent, car and credit card payments (the biggest bills) have never been late and he made arrangements with companies when utilities had to be split up. We checked where we're at with all of our utilities last night, and they are all 100% paid and on time as of the end of September. That was a big relief.

DH has agreed to review/pay bills WITH me each month for the next few months, and once we have been able to do that with consistency, we'll move things to automatic payments. I think that this way, he can really see how our budget is affected when things are paid at "inconvenient" times and what that leaves for the rest of our household budget. I certainly do set a budget, DH just has not really paid attention to it.

It's going to take some work, some hard work, but we're in this together, and that's what's most important.

Kasi80 · October 2011

Glad to hear he is willing to work on it.

xojo1 · October 2011

I'm glad you were able to talk it through and come up with a plan where you are going to play a more active role. Stick to it and you will be fine.

abvernon · October 2011

Glad to hear you are both working it out. Keep us updated. Know we are here for you!!

PrettyInPearls23 · October 2011

It sounds like you had a very productive conversation with your DH -- so glad to hear it! I'm also happy to hear the two of you will be working on this together over the coming months to make sure everything gets straightened out.