June 2008 Weddings
MrsJaay
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Poll: Nest Normal
What are some things that you do or stances that you have that aren't normal by nest standards? I guess this is along the same lines as a confession post.
We usually have dishes in our sink (I didn't realize this was appalling until a D&R thread a few days ago).
We have debt left from college (not student loans).
I don't think I wash things nearly as much as the rest of the Nest world does (sheets, towels, etc.). I think I'm kind of a clean freak so I always question my thoughts about myself when I see threads about how people use different pillow cases every night or wash their bath rugs once a week.
I know this is a very unpopular Nest stance but I think it would bother me if my DH had a big porn habit that I didn't know about.
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Haha...yes! I'm glad I'm not the only one who finds myself not stacking up...
DH and I have credit card debt we are slowly paying off and we still pay for cable, not to mention we have a big, expensive apartment even though we could make do with something smaller...simply because we want to. We enjoy the little luxuries. (MM)
We dont' really travel much. (Everyone with tickers)
I will go more than a week without washing my sheets. (MM)
I have leather, reclining furniture that is ugly but so comfortable (D&R)
DH and I don't have near the standard amount you "should" have in retirement savings (last I heard, it was the amount of your salary at age 30...yeah, nowhere near). (MM)
I'm sure I'll think of more later but to start off-
I believe in spanking.
I couldn't imagine giving up my dog for any reason but I think it's actually pretty normal and common and sometimes it is for the best. Comparing giving a dog to giving away a kid ( or whatever the analogy) is in no way the same thing.
Eta- Our retirement is not up to snuff either. H just got into his plan and I have a pension/Teachers Retirement plan. I have an old 401k but the balance is a joke. I've been planning to roll it into a Roth IRA but...
I think there are very few Nesties out there that would be comfortable with my level of cleaning. It just isn't where I want to spend my time or energy. I hit the highlights less often than they would like, but frequently enough to be hygienic, yet there's a lot that gets left undone for long periods of time. This is partially due to the fact that DH and I are both horrid with clutter.
D&R would likely attack me like rabid dogs if they saw my house's decoration (is there any?!). Lol.
I don't love Target. 'nuff said
umm almost everything..
we don't save enough
we live in an apartment that is really undecorated
we have debt
we don't wash anything nearly enough apparently
we leave dishes in the sink
Elle was formula fed
Elle goes to daycare
I didn't do a cute gender reveal, maternity pictures, and didn't go team green
And Jaay I agree about the porn habit
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Wait wait wait - are you saying that by age 30 you should have what you make in salary in that one year in retirement savings already (like, as a starting point). OR are you saying that you should have what you make at age 30 in your retirement savings like for your ENTIRE retirement. I am hoping it's the former, because the latter just seems wrong. That can't be enough to retire on.
Oh, where do I start?
I don't have curtains on all of my windows. Do I care? No. I think some of them look nicer naked...whatev. (D&R)
I don't make my bed everyday. Heck, we don't make our bed ever really. If it gets made - it's because someone is coming over, I just randomly felt like it, or DH is trying to surprise me. (D&R)
My sheets don't get washed every week. And the laundry definitely doesn't always get folded and put away. (C&O)
Dusting? Vacuuming? Cleaning the bathroom so good you could eat off the floor? Ugh....what? (C&O)
Dishes in the sink. Dirty pot on the stove. Mail and papers everywhere! ZOMG! (D&R)
You should see my dining room. Wow. I think I'll take some pictures tonight and share with you ladies if you promise not to judge me. There is: fermenting beer (at least 5 gallons), fermenting wine (2 carboys - 3 gallons each), fermented & bottled wine (50+ bottles), bottled beer, a mini fridge, empty wine and beer bottles, and in the corner - the huge box that my husband's air compressor goes in... just hanging out. Why's it's empty? Because the air compressor is in my kitchen acting as a wine degasser.
The kitchen has all of his home brew stuff in the corner. I haven't swept or mopped that area of the kitchen in AT LEAST 6 months because his crap is everywhere.
I don't get 3+ mile runs in everyday and hit yoga on the way home and eat "clean" and treat my body like the mecca that it is (HF)
We haven't been on a "real" vacation since our honeymoon. Neither of us are big planners.
I definitely don't wash stuff anywhere near as much as people do.
I don't have a schedule by which to clean my house (I have a cleaning lady that comes in and does it much better than I would anyway....).
I work FT by choice.
Jane was formula fed.
Jane gets time-outs.
Etc aaaaaaaaaaaaand, I don't care, because difference is what makes the world go 'round
The standard I read about at MM shows you should have one year's salary put away in retirement. Like, if at age 30 your salary is 30k, you should have 30k in retirement.
That made me feel so pathetic. Dh and I are nowhere near that, and we are not on track to be.
I want to come live with you.
I'm sorry, but if these women have all the time in the world to white glove clean, all the money to put aside for retirement, designer decorated homes, no credit card debt and perfect children, then they have no time to go online and brag about it.
My normal is cat hair on the furniture, a kid who spits up on all of her clothes, staying in pjs til afternoon feeding, dishes from this morning in the sink and a comforter I hate from my MIL on my unmade bed. I'm okay with that.
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I think it's just the mood of each specific board. In my head I'm thinking the D&R people have really nice homes but with all of their house projects they must not save money and I bet they never cook homemade organic meals. The What's Cooking people are so busy cooking and blogging that I bet they never work out or have time to clean.
These things make me feel better about myself even though they're probably not true lol.
SOMETHINGS gotta give here people.
Also, my decorating is probably tacky or too country for most on D&R's taste. I'd love a big, spacious, flowy modern room, but it wouldn't fit into our lifestyle at all. Our decor is either handmade artsy pieces, or rustic "junk." There is a lot of wood & stone in our house, and it just "fits." Also, my bedroom looks like a dumping ground for everything that doesn't fit in the rest of the house. Old piles of clothes waiting (for, um, months) to go to Goodwill? Random sheets that don't match the comforter? Dog beds and even a kennel? Ugly paint color? Got 'em all.
Also, I love the idea of a lot of the stuff on F&B, but I could never justify spending that kind of money on an Anthro/JCrew/designer wardrobe. I'd also love to look "put together" every day, but the reality is that most days, I wear old jeans and some random tiedyed festival t-shirt with a ponytail & flip flops. I guess I'm more in the cheap & easy crowd.
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So true!!!
I have dishes in the sink, a dishwasher full of clean dishes (because I HATE unloading it and DH hasn't done it yet), sheets on my bed that were not recently washed, a bathroom that needs to be cleaned, a dining room table you can't see underneath my scrapbook and craft stuff, and a kitchen table you can't see due to our crap and some mail. I'm okay with it all, because I'd rather spend my time with my daughter.
Yeah...there are lots of things that I do not do.... There are dishes from a week ago on the counter because H and I are in a standoff about cleaning. I refuse to pick up his dirty shiz and will let it sit out until he does.
I definitely don't wash the sheets weekly.
I let my dogs sit on the couch and def. don't vaccuum every day.
We have debt and did not pay for a new car in cash.
I rarely cook dinner, and when I do it's something that takes 20 minutes.
I never take my shoes off in the house.
I think that most people on the national boards lie. If not, I want whatever they are taking because there are definitely not enough hours in the day!
I'm sure lots of nesties would find our house horrifying! I'm the world's worst house keeper and I'm okay with that.
I'm not organized at all.
Our house looks like two college-aged people live in it. The decor is tapestries, books, and cheap picture frames.
My child is always dirty.
I'm not crafty.
I don't work out very often.
We drive old cars. I love them.
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"A baby nursing at a mother's breast is an undeniable affirmation of our rootedness in nature." - David Suzuki
Good point! I guess I'm a little Nest Normal after all. :-)
Neena Mae. 1/7/10
"A baby nursing at a mother's breast is an undeniable affirmation of our rootedness in nature." - David Suzuki
Whenever you're ready to crack some of that open, just let me know and I'll be right over.
I don't clean as often as I should.
There are dirty dishes in my sink.
I have clean, folded laundry sitting in baskets in my living room...they have been there for at least a week.
I love to cook, but I only get the opportunity to make dinner 2 nights a week. So, we eat out or eat a lot of frozen foods (that's what DH can manage).
My kid watches TV and movies everyday.
I never exercise.
Both of my kids were formula fed by choice.
We have credit card debt.
We don't have nearly enough put away in savings or retirement.
I could probably go on. But, I don't think some of these women are being completely honest about all of the things they get done. I honestly would rather spend quality time with my children then wasting my day away scrubbing down my house from top to bottom or cooking completely homemade, organic meals. We are happy, my kids are happy, and that's all that matters to me. I would definitely never have time to myself to come on the computer if I did all of these things that most of these people are claiming they do.
So, what you're all saying is, you're not perfect? (audible gasp). I don't think I can be friends with you anymore. Because, as you all know, I am practically perfect in every way.
Seriously, though, I think Jaay is right - if you're even close to perfect on one thing, you're sucking at pretty much everything else in life. I never venture off this board, so I don't see it on all the other boards you're talking about. Everyone here is very accepting of being not perfect, which is awesome.
Same here! I don't venture too far from this board. Even the Dec 2011 Bump Board sometimes gets me thinking I'm going to be a terrible parent.
I guess I'm not Nest Normal either then!
We have some credit card debt (that we are paying off)
We don't save enough, especially according to Nest standards
We don't vacuum every night
We have ugly leather (reclining) furniture
We gave up a dog, but with good reason and a happy ending. But it still really sucked (I have never mentioned that on the Nest before because I knew I'd get slammed for it - yikes)
Oh, and we have dishes in the sink most of the time
There are probably a bunch more things we do that are not up to Nest standards...oh well. Glad I'm not alone
Based on some of those posts, I'm a terrible parent. Oh well, Alex seems to be okay with how we do things.
This exactly! I also don't really like the bump board because it is a LOT of people new to the community boards - it's not that I don't like them on a personal level, but there is a lot of people just not understanding how things work on a community level. Does that make sense? Maybe I've just gotten too used to how awesome this board is....
MM would hop all over the fact that we lease two brand new vehicles every 24-36 months. We have family discount and love getting new cars every other year.
I let Natalie watch tv or a movie most every day.
I don't work by choice.
We take vacations instead of doing long-lasting home improvements.
My basement is a disorganized maze.
But, I'm ok with all of it... except the basement, lol. I'm sure there are more things I do that are nest-horrific. Do they all live in Stepford?
This post makes me feel more normal than ever, really.
The armchair in my living room is almost always covered in clean laundry that sometimes takes a week or two to make to the bedroom.
We rarely eat at the dining room table because it's covered in stuff.
My dog owns, and has basically ruined, the couch. And I don't care.
I've never cleaned my baseboards or washed windows.
We only make our bed when we have people coming over who will want to see our bedroom. Otherwise we just close the door.
Our basement is like Breaux's dining room... beer bottles and wine making stuff everywhere. Oh well.
We don't mow our lawn or scoop dog poop often enough.