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I need some advice pls......
I have another screen name but want to go under this one so no one cause bring my name up, made fake names and all!
So I am just not sure how to handle this, I am a mother of two been married 5 yrs and thought that life was pretty good until this past weekend....
I went to my class reunion and had so much fun, Dh couldnt come with me because he had to work but I did have to take the kids out of town with me like always, never get to go with out them ever! ( I do love being a mother but never get any free time to my self or anything!)
When I got home DH had done absoulutly nothing around the house all weekend! I am the one that cooks and cleans and takes care of the kids, he stays after work everynight to have a few beers with the guys then on fridays goes to the bar to cash he check and have more beers with the guys! I on the other hand cant even go to the store with out one or both my kids! He wont go to the park with us cause its not fun.....
Am I crazy for having a talk with him and seeing nothing change with in a week, or are my feelings just out of wack and should still work on it?
I have talked to him and not one thing has changed and I really dont think it will... We have one other issue too but I am not posting it ( no he isnt or has not cheated on me!) Should I just get out now or keep working at it?
Re: I need some advice pls......
Why can't you tell us the other issue?
How long has your H been living like a college boy?
That's a big problem. Have you suggested (or attended) counseling?
I'm wondering how you thought life was good before now - you're married to an inattentive husband/father who spends a ton of money on alcohol. He cashes his paycheck at a bar?!?! Are you schitting me?
So, uh, get out now.
Did he want kids or did you have them because that's what you wanted? It doesn't sound like he wants to be a father or a husband.
How old are the two of you?
Well that's your answer. He's happy with things the way they are and doesn't plan on changing. Unfortunately it's up to you now whether you want to live like this or not.
Of course he doesn't...he's doing nothing, getting everything, and content. With NO CONSEQUENCES--I mean, you're still there, right?
So you go to counseling with or without him (because it's good for you regardless) and you let him know that continuing NOT to go = choosing to have you leave/end the marriage
Of course he doesn't...he's doing nothing, getting everything, and content. With NO CONSEQUENCES--I mean, you're still there, right?
So you go to counseling with or without him (because it's good for you regardless) and you let him know that continuing NOT to go = choosing to have you leave/end the marriage
Yeah, this part right here... that sounds exactly like me and my ex. Except they were his kids (3 of them) and we weren't married. And I mean it's freakishly exact. If ya'll had one more kid, I'd ask if his name were Josh.
I finally opened my eyes, cut bait and moved on.
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*head desk*
of course he doesnt see a friggin problem...WHY would he? He likes things as they are and youve put up with them for 5 years...WHY would he change now?
DO something about it!
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