Trouble in Paradise
EastCoastBride
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I'm not usually a C&Per, but I have to:
http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/58919707.aspx
It makes my head hurt a little!
"Beer is living proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy."
~Benjamin Franklin
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Re: I'm not usually a C&Per, but I have to:
Seriously. Two weeks with his family? And then her family gets Thanksgiving, but the rest of the weekend will be with his family. And that's the compromise?
This response to her post made me
. It seems really selfish:
However, you are not married yet. I am of the mindset that, until I was married, I spent the holidays with my family. My boyfriend/fiance (now DH) could do whatever he wanted, which was to spend the holidays with my family. We still spend all holidays with my family, though.
When my sister was engaged, her fiance (now-DH of many years) asked her, "what are we going to do for Christmas?" to which she replied, "I don't know what you're doing, but I'm spending it with my family." She and I are a lot alike.
We (DH and me) didn't spend holidays together necessarily until we were married. He'd do Christmas with his and I would do with mine. That was much less dramatic than trying to split time between my parents and his divorced parents who live far away. Sometimes he'd spend Thanksgiving with mine though.
mortomo - I dont' get those responses myself. If for THEM, that works, great. Have at it. But the poster specifically said her FI wants them to be together, and SHE seems to want to be together. So.... how does that 'advice' help? Oy.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I understand that, but her reply of 'well I don't know what you're doing, but I'm spending it with my family' just seems like a selfish attitude. It doesn't sound like her or her sister were willing to even entertain the thought of spending a holiday with their future spouses families. She even said they still spend all holidays with her family.
While I like the traditions of my family and the memories of holidays with my family, I am willing to compromise. Last year we spent all of the holidays with my family, but it's only because his family didn't have anything planned. If they had, we would have split up the days and spent time with both families.