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For safekeeping
stupid jealousy
I have been married for about a month but dated my husband for 10 years before we married and lived together for 3 years. For all who ask I am 27 and he is 28.
We are friends with another couple and they are engaged. I know this is rediculous, but I cannot help how I feel. I have been begging him to pick up archery since we first started dating and he kept dragging his feet. She brought it up once in passing and the next day, we were at the archery range purchasing bows for ourselves and he bought them bows as well. Is that a little weird or is it just me?
Also, I have been asking him to go to some of the historical houses by us on a weekend for years now but he always would rather do something else. He usually goes along with what I want to do so when he says no, I don't push. This past Monday was Columbus Day and my husband had off, but I did not and her fiance did not. She called and invited us to go to a historic house and garden with her, her son, her mother and grandmother that day and he actually went! He only seems to do this for her. I trust them both and know that nothing will happen, but I can't help being jealous. Am I being ridiculous or do my feelings have some validation here?
I just don't want to sound like a jealous wife, especially not jealous of a friend. She was one of my bridesmaids and her and I are truly good friends. Her fiance was the best man at my wedding. I feel terrible about where my thoughts are going.
Ok so i have a confession. I didnt think he would go since he wont go with me, so i told him just because I can't go doesnt mean he cant. I did not for one minute think he would actually go so i did not think twice about telling him he could! I cant now tell him that i am jeaous.
Re: For safekeeping
I love this post.
"No she said that she would love to learn to shoot a bow and arrow. while we were discussing different forms of weaponry we use. She did not bring it up as a group activity. "
Where is this?
And is archery a popular hobby for double dates?
More safekeeping:
Sil advice please.
I need help. My husband and I have been married since May and dated for 2 years prior. I?ve always liked his family and thought that I was close with them. He has a sister my age and I always thought that we were good friends. We texted a lot, talked a lot, even started a book club together. What?s the problem? Well dh and i argue. Well we used to argue a lot. About stupid things. Come to find out that he was complaining about me to his ds the entire time. He would say things to her like ?I wouldn?t wish my life on anyone? he accused me of using him as my ?whipping boy? to her. He ran to her every time we disagreed about anything. Fast Forward to a couple months after our wedding. SIL deletes me off of her family list on face book. I asked her if she was mad at me and she pretended like she had no idea what I was talking about. So I just told her that was fine, but I hoped if she did have an issue with me she would tell me about it. Fast Forward a few weeks. DH and I get into a huge fight about him badmouthing me to his sister. He stays with at his parents for the weekend. SIL deletes me off her face book completely. And so does her dh. (pretty sure that was her doing) DH moves back in with me and tells his sister that they need to take a break from each other so we can work on our marriage and that her actions were not acceptable..blah blah blah? basically that I?m family and that?s not how you treat family. Somewhere in all of this I sent his sister an email trying to get things out on the table so we can talk about them and she responds to my email?but sends it to my husband. Still won?t talk to me at all. So obviously things are not ok with her.
It?s been two months since they stopped talking and about four months since I?ve talked to her. Now they have a family get together in about a month that I do not want to go to. I do not feel welcome or part of their family. I am so hurt by this. I thought my sil was my friend as well as my family. But apparently I was wrong. I feel like she couldn?t wait to be rid of me and was so happy when dh stayed at his parents house that she jumped the gun and just deleted me. I don?t think that she wants her brother to be married to me and apparently she told him that she didn?t want me at family things she has at her house. My husband says that if I don?t go to his family things that we are going to have to split up. He isn?t understand that I don?t feel comfortable going there. I need some advice.