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AW Thursday
I don't have anything to AW at the moment :-( Except that I tried the red velvet molten cake at Chilis and it was so good! It has cream cheese in the middle!
I just wanted to ask everyone something. I went to go see a new doctor yesterday and I just really did not feel totally comfortable there. It was just that I felt like she was uninterested in what I was saying and I was a little annoyed that she answered a text message during our appt time. (She said it was just her husband being silly....). Well I feel like that text message could've certainly waited until after she was done talking to me. My records from my other doctor hadn't come yet, so there was a lot she really couldn't tell me yet because I had some bloodwork and other things done at the previous doctor. Would this bother you or am I just over thinking it?
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Re: AW Thursday
Sarah, It would absolutely bother me too. You only get to talk to the actual Dr for a few minutes usually and I think that time should be uninterrupted. I would either go with your gut and find a new Dr or go back one more time (once she has all the paperwork from your other Dr.) and go from there.
I have no AW other than I cant beleive its been over 6 months since my wedding. It feels so short and like a life time all at the same time.
I do have a question. Girls that are using FAM or NFP how long did it take for you to really be able to predict your cycles and know when you were ovulating. I am out of BC and either need to call the Dr and have a new Rx faxed in or just give this thing a shot and use other methods of protection.
Sarah, I agree. She shouldn't have even looked at her phone when she was with you! You don't get much time with your actual doctor and if she had your past records or not as a new patient she should have given you her full attention.
BL regarding NFP I know I started in Feb and got married in June so that was 5 cylces of charting before it was put in use. Most of the people I talk to say to do it about 3 so you feel comfortable. It's really going to be just as long as you feel comfortable enough to see the actual progression of your cycles. You will see when you O and those sort of things. Granted I'm pretty text book and have an easier time at it. Hope that helps.
Edit: My AW DH just found out he has off this Sunday. I know it's something small but with him working 12 days on and 2 days off it's great to have a random day to just be with him.
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Coming from someone who absolutely LOVES her OB/GYN, that would totally bother me too. I have my doctor's complete attention every time I see her and that is how it should be. Like everyone said to BL the other day, go with your gut Sarah.
BL, Ben made our reservation yesterday at 560 for next month for our 2nd wedding anniversary--SECOND! I can't believe it. I still remember my wedding like it was yesterday.
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Just do it!
Sarah,
While I have let my health go a little in the last few months, I'm happier that I'm not actually seeing my former doctor. When I sat with him in January, he kept talking about numbers from June even though I had been in September. What annoyed me the most was that he kept comparing January to June, not even bringing in September. I explained in September that my mom had just died and that we had been eating horribly because we'd had so much to do. When I showed back up in January, my bad numbers had gone down (though not June levels) and my good numbers had gone up (not quite June levels either). Combine this with the fact that he showed me no compassion and didn't even say "I'm sorry. Let's talk about how these things might affect your health and let's talk about your family history of strokes". Nothing. It bothered me so much that I haven't been back since. We're in the process of looking for a new doctor (stupid insurance) but I really did not like this guy after the appts. in September and January.
Sarah - I think that's a big problem and I would be bothered too. Bedside manner and comfort is almost as important as skill level, to me. I want to be able to talk to my doctor and feel welcome, and not like I am just an inconvinence.
And I really can't believe that she answered a text in the room with you! I feel this way about it - would you answer a text if you were having a 10 minute meeting with a client? Or in a quick meeting with a colleague? Nope, and she shouldn't either. Being a doctor is HER JOB... and she should be more professional than that.
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If you're looking for a new OB/GYN I have one i'd recommend
She's in Plano, next to willowbend mall. I've been seeing her since i got stateside...sooooo....4 years? 5? something like that. I love her. She's always VERY to the point, but still asks about how my family is doing (she did surgury on my mother 4/5 years ago). She's very informative, the only thing that scares DH - is that she can be kind of a feminist lol. She's a private practice, she just moved from the hospital - i dont know if that sounds like anything you're looking for.
If not - I would leave your new doc you just saw and go back to your old one
. That would ABSOLUTELY bother me. And the fact that it wasn't a professional text at that makes it worse.
I don't really have an AW - but i'm hoping to in a few hours
AW: DH was able to work everything out yesterday and now he only has to deal with one local store. We are back on for the anniversary floor install/nice dinner plan. I am really relieved. For those who care, BIL is getting a temporary demotion and pay cut. If in 90 days he can show that he is not an idiot, he gets his old job back. If not, he gets the boot.
Last night I was talking to my BFF about her halloween party. I really want to be a box of wine with a working spigot but I couldn't think of anything for DH to be. She said, what about cheese? Wine and cheese, cute...but then I thought about it more and he is going to be Velveeta - so we will be white trash wine and cheese.
Also - way to go Rangers! Clap, clap, clapclap, clap!!!!
Sarah - we talked about you dr already, so you know how I feel.
BL - My first cycle off of BCP was jacked. The second one was 26 days with day 13 ovulation and from then on it's been 27 with day 14 ovulation, so like Deepthi said, three months is probably good.
Leslie - Yay for a better day today!! ..and yay for BIL getting some discipline!
Ashlee - Might this potential AW you speak of be about buying your home? If so, yay!
I WISH! no
The condo we wanted - we put an offer on and the seller backed out. Something to do with kids or something - I dunno. As a matter of fact we're going to be renting one of FIL's two homes for a short time. Our lease is up on Halloween - so we move this weekend. I'm not too thrilled about it because FIL lives in one of the rooms when he works on certain projects. But we can't afford to go month to month on our current apartment. And there's no where around here - that i'd be comfortable living in - that does even 6 month leases. If we find a place we can't afford to buy out a lease. So we'll suck it up with renting from FIL.
Potential AW is work related. I THINK i know what's going on - but i find out at 10:30 this morning
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Sarah, that is 100% not ok. I would have been offended enough to say something right then.
My AW is that last night we got the ball rolling on a wedding in San Diego next year, with engagements to happen in Park Cities, UT this Christmas. I kind of ADORE snow, and I'm so excited about this I had trouble sleeping last night.
Sometimes, I must admit, I am really jealous of your job. I don't think I have been so excited about a work project that I have trouble sleeping. If I can't sleep because of work, it's not because I am excited.
Sarah - you know my thoughts.
Oh awesome. I know it isn't ideal but we did the same thing. We rented my parents townhouse while we looked for a house. It worked out perfectly because you don't have to worry about giving your apartment notice and then closing late (or in our case, early!) or other delays that might come up. Definitely relieves SO much stress from the process.
Good luck on the work related thing!
I sort-of relied on it right off the bat, but I think after 3-4 months, I could tell patterns pretty well. We also used backup though, to take the guesswork out of it.
Sarah - not okay, at all!
Leslie - I am so glad everything worked out! I was so sad for you.
I have no AWs... but I have an amazing brother. He's job hunting right now, so he is going to go sit at my house from 10-2 and wait on the a/c guy. I was so stressed about leaving work this close to the deadline, so I'm so glad he was able to help out!
I admit, there are parts of my job that are really flippin' cool. I would never complain about it, for sure.
But just so everyone knows... it's not all puppies & roses all the time. I feel like a counselor. Lots of emotional stress and hand-holding and being 100% on call all the time.
I used to almost be apologetic about my job... like feel bad because it's cool. I've figured out recently how unhealthy that is, and to be proud of how hard we worked to make this happen for ourselves. So now, I can just plain be excited.
Sarah, I agree with everyone too. So not cool.
My AW is we're going to the State Fair Saturday with some friends and I'm really excited. We got free tickets too! Also, it just so happens that a friend I haven't seen since the wedding will be at the fair too. So I get to see her which is pretty cool!
My other AW is I finally ordered our 2 canvas prints. I should get them in about a week!
GO RANGERS!
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Just do it!
That's why I said sometimes. Brides are crazy!
I love Thursdays! Such great things!
Chelsea - Do you have a email you check regularly? I wanted to ask you something.
Amanda - I love the new picture.
Leslie - Make sure you take before and after pictures for us.
Stpehanie - I was going to try and convince DH to go to the fair on Sunday... I've only been once so I'm still not over it.
BL - YGPM btw... Hopefully I can catch up with you tomorrow.
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Yes ma'am, but it's my business name and I don't think I'm supposed to share that here. I'll PM you!
Sarah I also agree with everyone else. A dr should give you their full attention. My dr got a page last appointment and all she said was excuse me a moment, stuck her head out, gave her pager to a nurse and came right back to me. I figured the page was a patient going into labor or something but the nurse never came back and the dr never missed a beat in listening/discussing my concerns. I would not be cool with them answer a text. Heck I get mad at DH if we are having dinner and it's just us and he answers a text.
Chelsea I'm also jealous! I know every job has it's "bad" but with as much "good" as y'all seem to have I'd be willing to trade! I wouldn't deal with the crazy brides very well though so maybe I should let you stick to it!
Leslie, I'm so happy for y'all! We are doing dinner Sunday night and going to San Antonio for the night next Saturday for our anniversary. I'm glad y'all are getting to spend it the way you planned. I'm also glad BIL got some kind of demotion.
The only AW I have is not really my AW but I'm just so happy for my Uncle (the one who married us). http://www.statesman.com/news/local/austins-robert-pitman-sworn-in-as-u-s-1893674.html?cxtype=rss_ece_frontpage
And I think we did agree on the name last night. He said it's a really pretty name and it has meaning so why not. I'm excited!! Not buying anything with the name on it quite yet but it makes me so happy he thought of it (with a little help from me)!
Sarah, that is definitely not okay! I hope you can get some answers soon! I am scheduling an appointment today with mine. Which I need a little advice from you ladies about something...
My sister and I go to the same OBGYN. Our doctor was pregnant about 2 months behind my sister. I went to several of my sisters appointments with her so we would all talk about what she was having and other baby stuff. About 2 or 3 months after my sister had her baby she went in to get her BC shot started and the nurse told her that our doctor had her baby at 39 weeks and 12 days later the baby died. I'm not sure what from. I saw her in passing at her office when I saw her nurse for some blood work, but this will be the first time I've actually seen her since her baby died. Should I say something along the lines of "I'm so sorry for your loss...etc." or not even bring it up?
Sorry that was long!
Leslie, I am so glad your DH doesn't have to go away for yall's anniversary now!! YAY...let the renovation begin!
I got nothing to AW...I'm excited the Rangers won last night though!
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I would say not to say anything unless she talked about her pregnancy with you during your sister's visit a lot. If she stayed professional and didn't bring it up then she's probably wants to keep it to herself. Otherwise, I don't think " Sorry for you loss would do any harm", but I'm one that doesn't handle those things well and it makes me super uncomfortable.
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If she didn't tell you directly, and therefore has no reason to believe you're aware of the situation, I'd err on the side of not saying anything.
From personal experience (I had a 2nd tri miscarriage in 2005), I know that I'd prefer it to not be brought up when I couldn't really talk about it. I hated when I'd be having an ok day, not thinking about it, and some well-meaning purpose would mention our loss and I'd then be miserable focusing on it for the next few hours. Obviously, her loss is different, and I can't even imagine how traumatic it must be... mine is just all I have to compare it to , personally.
It's super sweet of you to be thinking about her and praying for healing, but IMO, you don't need to say anything.
Thanks Sarah and Deepthi!
YAY for everyone's AWs or what-nots today! Oh ya and I'm off tomorrow too! YAY