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Update
Hello TIP,
Not sure if you remember me, but I posted a while back first about "D"H buying a gun behind my back, and then again about needing to kick him out:
http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/53532512.aspx
I just wanted to give you a much-belated update. He left of his own accord that day, and respected my wishes to not see me or the kiddos for a week. I then let him see them, but only with supervision and only a couple of times a week.
I decided to take him back.
Ok, just kidding, I filed for divorce in August. His behavior only got worse after separating (I never let him back in the house after that day), and he's a complete disaster now. He hasn't paid $1 in child support since he left in May, and still only sees the kids a couple of times a week and only for a couple of hours (he's legally not allowed to have them overnight because of his drug problem). He's done all kinds of sketchy financial things, including but not limited to draining our savings account, running up a HUGE credit card bill on a card in both of our names that I didn't know about, and buying himself a nice shiny brand new Harley to ride around to see all of the skanky women he's been sleeping with (by my estimation, he's slept with upwards of 30 women since June, ranging in age from 44 to 63! He's 41, btw.).
I truly appreciated your advice. The process wasn't perfect, but it definitely helped me make sense of all the chaos of kicking him out, organizing my finances, making sure I had all of the evidence I needed, and getting checked for STDs (everything was 100% fine, thank goodness...).
I'm moving on with my life. My boys have been an amazing compass for me through everything - if there's ever a decision I need to make, I just do what's in their best interest. The future is bright - I'm still relatively young (38), have a good job, and now my own little family. If I were to meet someone again someday in the future, fantastic, but if not, it's ok.
Thank you all again!
Re: Update
This.
Keep us posted and if you ever need a place to vent, you know where to come!