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  • image5000CandlesInTheWind:
    imageLadyExtravaganza:

    I guess it's just part of the same struggle I have been having since my own wedding. In my ideal world, EVERYONE would have to go to town hall and be legally married by a JP, and what happens in church would be entirely unrelated to your legal status. (Uh oh... Is my libertarian showing? haha)

    I agree. But then again, I've never understand how this doesn't fall under separation of church and state to begin with.  The sacrament is one thing, the legality is another.  (/steps off soapbox)

    Exactly!
  • image5000CandlesInTheWind:

    And unless you get divorced in-between, you're not "getting married" because you're wearing the big white dress and having a party.  You're already married.  IMO, you chose not to wait, and in doing so, you chose not to have the parties.

    FTR, I don't consider a private ceremony/destination wedding with a later reception to be the same thing, nor do I think someone who gets married by a JP and then has a religious ceremony to have their marriage recognized by their congregation falls into the same category. And I really don't mean to offend anyone. I mean, I'm not going to hate someone forever because they do this.

    You said this perfectly - I totally agree. Maybe also I think it was super annoying of BIL because it was over a year later when they had their church ceremony - and the whole shebang. If they had done the JP ceremony and then a few month later done the church/reception/white dress thing...it might not have rubbed the wrong way as much.

    LadyE - can I ask...which do you celebrate as your anniversary - the JP one or the church one?

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  • imagelburkey21:

    LadyE - can I ask...which do you celebrate as your anniversary - the JP one or the church one?

    We celebrate our church wedding as our anniversary. We didn't want to turn our wedding in to a big social protest, but we also didn't want to do anything we weren't comfortable with. Even now, very few people know that they didn't witness our "real" wedding.
  • imageLadyExtravaganza:
    imagelburkey21:

    LadyE - can I ask...which do you celebrate as your anniversary - the JP one or the church one?

    We celebrate our church wedding as our anniversary. We didn't want to turn our wedding in to a big social protest, but we also didn't want to do anything we weren't comfortable with. Even now, very few people know that they didn't witness our "real" wedding.

    I guess that makes sense - I'd probably do the same thing. Especially since most people don't know that there is even another wedding that they missed.

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  • imageLadyExtravaganza:
    imagelburkey21:

    LadyE - can I ask...which do you celebrate as your anniversary - the JP one or the church one?

    We celebrate our church wedding as our anniversary. We didn't want to turn our wedding in to a big social protest, but we also didn't want to do anything we weren't comfortable with. Even now, very few people know that they didn't witness our "real" wedding.

    This is totally out of left field, I know, but does anyone remember the wedding episode of Mad About You? Paul and Jamie get so annoyed by everyone inserting themselves in their wedding plans, they end up getting married the day before (I think it was) by Lyle Lovett, who's a JP.  And like a Con-Ed worker, if I remember correctly - they get married next to a manhole.  And then they find out later that he wasn't actually able to marry them, and since they signed the papers at their "wedding" with fake names, they're not legally married.

    Yeah, I know. Random. Carry on.

  • I would do it for a milestone anniversary but only have a few close friends and family and go somewhere tropical. So it would be more like a destination wedding.  We have no plans to do it and DH kind of thinks it's dumb but I think it's cute for an anniversary.
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