Trouble in Paradise
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Re: Im new here & slightly troubled by my hubby..
Look, I think there's been some justified flaming that's been hard to take, but I also think you're in a pretty shitty relationship. I'm not sure why you'd want to stay with him. I stad by the advice others gave you before they dug up the info. I see we're in the same area, so if you want any local resources, let me know. I think counseling would be a good idea for you to help sort out how you got into this mess and what's the best course of action going forward.
(Also, I can understand how your wedding was so expensive. Our foor & beverage minimum was $7,800. Granted, we had ~90 people, but if I'd gone for a more expensive dress or if we'd gone with a different florist, better videographer, I would've been right there with you.)
Thanks for the post. I started therapy yesterday. Yes, our F&B min. was just about the same.
I understand some of the individuals post here however, some of them were just downright disrespectful. Esp. assuming I met my husband on a sugar daddy site etc. When I moved out to LA a gf of mine told me about it and I checked it out of curiosity. It just amazes me that people rather dig through the internet and try and find things out about someone, attempt to make a justifcation of all it and come to a very skewed conclusion. I disagree with the "justified flaming", I don't think anyone has the right to question the authenticity of my ring, accuse me of meeting my husband on a sugar daddy website, or call me a gold digger. If, I was a gold digger why would I give a *** about what my shitty husband thought and even post my issues on here? I genuinely cared about someone and thought he did too. I came here for support and guidance, not to have people make assumputions about me based on something else they read on some internet site that either is or isn't related.
I know my relationship isn't perfect. This is why I am in therapy due in part to myself and personal issues I need to work past.
I can appreciate your thoughts though and thanks you for reaching out.
I'm glad you've started therapy and I hope it's helpful.
Re: the justified flaming, it seemed like some of your perspective was skewed. As much as the flaming can suck, it helps people readjust their perspectives. That doesn't mean I think you deserved to have people question the authenticity of your ring or mock your wedding budget or anything along those lines. But I think what came out is that, whether it's true or not, to others you appear materialistic and/or out of touch with reality re:money. Maybe there's no truth in that, but maybe it's at least helpful to understand how you've come across. Look, everyone gets flamed on here at some point, but you learn from it and move on.
I truly meant that if you need/want help finding things in this area, you can ask. I don't know how long you've been here, so maybe you don't need anything. Regardless of the other things posted, I think he sounds like he's bordering on emotionally abusive (at a minimum) and I'd be concerned about how that might progress over time.