Trouble in Paradise
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It can't be just me. Right, guys?!
Um...there is a crazy poster on another Nest board who does and says crazy things and no one calls her out on it.
Now, I do not have kids, but please tell me that it's not appropriate for a GF to be spending the night at her BF's place when they've been dating less than 3 months...while the guy's young daughter is there.
Also, please tell me whether it is scary or awesome for a man to tell you that "you're the one" after less than 4 months. I would run for the hills if this happened, but she seems to think it's awesome.
No one is calling out the BSC, so maybe I'm the BSC one?
Re: It can't be just me. Right, guys?!
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sounds to me like you're just jellus!!
I'm with you.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I think this is par for the course for most Nest boards. I'm pretty sure there are crazyass regs everywhere, where the other regs are just so used to their craziness they don't bother anymore.
But no, yeah, that b*tch sounds nuts. And it's really juvenile for someone who has a kid to be like that, for sure.
Me too. She posts lots of crazy and gets very defensive when she is and has been called out so I think people just tip toe around it.
How young is his daughter? If she's a baby, I don't see that big of an issue with it (other than WTF is he dating someone so seriously with a baby if it means that he just ended a relationship). If she's old enough to wonder who the woman staying in her house and spending time with her dad is, then I don't think it's right. My son and SO were introduced after 2 mos of dating. He was 11 and knew we were dating. I didn't want him to feel left out and like I was living a completely different life without him involved.
I don't see an issue with a couple that's dating to declare that they have found 'the one' after 3 mos...maybe they just know. As long as they don't rush into getting married right away I don't see anything wrong with it. I think it's better to get your feelings out there than to hold them in.
He does not have primary custody...he sees her not very frequently. At 3 months, she spent the night and the entire weekend with BF and young daughter. This wasn't a "sneaking in and out while the kids are sleeping" thing. This was like, "hey I'm your new mom!"
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Yup, pretty much this.
Then I agree with you. She's nuts and so is he. If he sees his daughter infrequently, then he should be spending quality time with her without his girlfriend. This woman should not be acting like the girl's new mom either.
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My vote is she's a crazygonuts. And she may or may not be my sister. Yikes.
Do you have threads for us?
I'm just a lurker on the board she usually posts on...I hate to out her or start anything. Should I?
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~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Obviously is Starting Over. That's where all the mess is.
This is not the only red flag in that relationship anyway. He took her to the kids soccer game after maybe a month of dating and didn't introduce her to the kid's mom. So they sat "glaring" at each other from across the field. I told her that I did not think that was a mature way to handle things and that her BF sounds like a creep.
We're kind of going out.
Ding ding ding! She mentioned in a thread last month (at three months of dating) that she was thinking about moving in with him, and needed advice about breaking her lease and stuff.
ETA: Alright, fine. Someone called her out on this here. But no one agreed with the caller outer.
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I'll out her.
http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/59184175.aspx
And isn't this the same girl who called her ex and his new gf 60 times in one night??
No...I forget that one's name, but she disappeared right after that happened and hasn't been back. I checked. I love a good trainwreck.
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Ah, I was wondering if that was her. I haven't been following her closely, but something else she wrote today made me wonder.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I honestly don't think I realized the board was THAT "let's blow sunshine up each others a$$es". But yeah... it appears to be.
"Hey, someone is making some really poor choices here, especially involving kids, but HEY - she is in luuvvvv and since that's what we all want, let's not tell her any differently! Weeee!!!! And where DID I leave my puppy? Oh, over here on this rainbow!".
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
It definitely skews to the "positive light" side of things, but like broc said, it's certainly not the only board that head pats its regs.
That relationship does seem to be moving very fast, particularly with a child involved.
BF and I just didn't see each other on weekends for the first few months because he has his son Sat-Tues. His son is almost 3 so in the long run, he probably won't really remember life before Gocky (me) but we still didn't want to rush things or push me into this kid's life too quickly.
It's 9 months in and BF and I, having been friends for a long time before hand, are quite serious, but I have not spent the night at their house when the little dude is there. Nor has the little dude ever spent a night at my house. You just can't race full speed into things when there are kids involved, IMO.
Wait, you heifers always leave out the good shiit.
He was pissed because his daughter didn't call him? Like that made him pouty and shiit??
::headdesk::
I call manipulative doucher.
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http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/58019935.aspx
I think it would be just as bad for a baby to wake up with some unknown man in the house. Almost worse...
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Oh man, I had missed that one. WTF is the matter with this woman? How do people who make poor decisions always seem to find each other?
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