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Thursday Confessions Anyone?
I home from work today, Alex is down for his nap and I'm bored (though there's a lot I should be doing).
My confession: I don't feel like I'm doing great in any area of my life right now. I've been trying to find a balance between being a mom, a wife and work. My new schedule is helping with the mom aspect but I still feel like the wife part needs more work and now that I'm only at work three days I feel a bit disconnected there. I'm spread so thin and it's hard to muster up the energy to improve things but I know I need to for my own happiness.
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LOL - we did this last month, like the same EXACT situation. Then I was five days late and freaking out, but we're in the clear and not doing that again! minus birth control that is, I'm sure we'll have sex again once next month :-P
Honestly, it's not that I'm opposed to having Baby#2... its just that my mind has been set on more selfish goals lately that it really hasn't been the center of my universe. Plus, I love having my attention focusing on Samma, and taking that away from her while she's so young to care for a newborn, I just don't feel that's fair to her... of course, all these reasons could change in a month, so who knows.
Granted, if by some act of the powers above leads to last night being a hole in one, well then so be it, and it was meant to be.
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A little over a year ago I had a big falling out (drama, lies, her punching me on a drunken rage, etc) with my BFF, we had been friends for about 14 years. I've been having a tough time lately and I keep wishing she was still in my life and then I think back and remember all of the horrible things she did and said and I try to suck it up and move forward knowing that my life will be better without her in it. But it's still hard.
I still feel this way about my former BFF who wanted me out of her life going almost 3 years ago when she found out the things I had written about her on TK. It's hard to forget about her -- we were like sisters growing up, and throwing away a then-22 year long friendship is just the hardest thing to let go of IMO. Sure, there was drama, but the hardest part now is her telling me that she's forgiven me for what was said, but she still won't/can't be my friend. It sucks, man...
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As I'm currently discussin with Mary on gchat, I'm completely makeup retarded. Like, I need a class. I never really learned how to do makeup. My mom hardly wears it, and when I was in college, there was always someone aroudn to do it for me. Outside of what I do everyday for work, I have no clue.
I hate my extended family right now. They are throwing a ***-fit about changing things for Christmas and it's hurtful and incredibly insensitive. All of the grandkids are getting married and other families are getting added in. We hanve to learn to be flexible, or we're going to lose Christmas all together anyway. Just suck to hear "well, we can't do it then, so you guys just might have to miss brunch again this year." gee, thanks fam.
Related to best friend drama- Best friend and best man got back together. After spending all weekend on the phone with me, sobbing and me reassuring her, having her parents fly out to CA, going back home to St. Louis- she went back today. WTF. I'm so beyond pissed I can't see straight. I've moved the move in date for an apartment, spent $400 on a plane ticket so I could be with her on her birthday, and now she's not even going to be there. She won't even answer my texts to confirm this- she's just posting on FB and Twitter. I'm seriously over her and her drama. I can't deal with it anymore and I am thisclose to cutting her out completely.
Stand up for something you believe in.
I have a bag urge to just spend money this week for no apparent reason...and on stupid things like:
I think it's super cute and I even have a coupon code for it...but do I really need a watch right now? Most definitely not!
And I know when I go to Sephora I'm going to want all kinds of makeup I just don't need!
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omg, I love that watch. I'm not usually a huge gold fan, but that is so freaking cute. Where is that from and how much is it?!
I could've written this myself. Word for word. (Except I have to unfortunately work full-time.) Other than that, I feel the exact same way. It's really hard. I don't have any advice as I'm struggling too, but hopefully we'll both find that balance eventually. *hugs*
I confess that I have been wearing my work pants unbuttoned every single day since I came back to work from maternity leave. All my pre-pregnancy pants and jeans fit everywhere but the waist. They zip all the way but buttoning gives me the most heinous muffin top ever. It's really frustrating. I'm now about 3 lbs from my pre-pregnancy weight but this little fat pad below my belly button has actually gotten BIGGER as my weight has gone down. What the hell?!
I know right!
It's from here:
http://www.lamercollections.com/collection/layer-and-stud-wraps/
and they also have a bunch of other cute styles!
They're not expensive...this one is $135. The coupon code for 20% off is LAMERSALTWATER. It's good until 10/31.
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OK now that has me wanting one of those watches...
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OMG, the black and teal one, SWOON. Rach, Scott might come after you if I buy another watch, lol.
LOL do it!!! There are so many cute ones!
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I know it's normal to go through this, I just feel like "okay it's been 8 months now, shouldn't I be more together now?!" And my "part time" is three 12 hour days, so I'm still getting 36 hours a week, and it's super exhausting but so worth it to have two extra days with Alex. It's been approved indefinitely - at lest through the end of the year and then I'll have to figure something else out.
Yeah, I'm really liking the Charcoal Teal Croco Layer Wrap.....
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This, I can't imagine having another baby right now and loving her/him as much as I love Alex. But like you said, if it happened it would be fine and obviously that'd be the way it's supposed to be. I always said I wanted my babies to be two years apart, which means technically we should be starting to try again soon which just seems crazy to me!!
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Those watches are fabulous! I think the niners are all going to have matching ones...
I confess that I am definitely in a spending mood. I have some errands to run after work because there are some deals I want to take advantage of for Xmas presents for other people, but I already foresee myself spending money on myself, too. This could be dangerous. And it's not a huge deal, I don't splurge on myself that often, but H never spends money on himself, so I always feel a little guilty or something.
To the mommies- I'm sorry you guys are feeling out of balance, and I can only imagine how hard it must be. But I will say thank you for keeping it real on here; I feel like so many moms are afraid to talk about how hard it can be, and I appreciate that you guys don't sugarcoat it. I confess sometimes it scares me a little bit, but I think more than that, it helps me anticipate what a big life-altering event it can/will be (although I know that I will NEVER be able to understand it/anticipate it 100% until I go through it). I'm sure you guys are all doing better at it than you think you are!!!
That's the one I'm drooling over!!!
This is completely me. I knew it was going to be difficult but sometimes it's just so overwhelming. Like right now with BFing. My goal was 6 months and we've made it to 8 months (Alex will be 8 months on Tuesday....W(here)TH did the time go?!) and I'm so over it. I'm tired of pumping at work more so than BFing at home. I don't mind doing it when I'm home with him because I like that quality time with him but I'm tired of pumping. He's eating way more than I'm making at this point anyways, so when I pump at work I'm only getting 7 - 8 ounces on a good day and he's eating at least 16 oz while I'm away from him during the day so it's like what's the point?! But then I feel like I'm being selfish and/or letting him down by not at least trying to keep it up but it's just as heartbreaking to put in the time and effort to up my supply only to be unsuccessful. I think I just need to give myself permission and not beat myself up for "failing" because really making it to 8 months is pretty awesome in and of itself. It's just easier said than done...
And with the 20% off it would only be $77!!!
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I think you should both definitely do it!
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You? are a horrible influence.
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I know:*(
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First, Genevieve, nothing's wrong with you! I feel like being a mother is INCREDIBLY challenging and my thoughts are pretty much consumed with parenting all day long (and my kid isn't even 5 months old yet!) If it makes you feel any better, you definitely don't come across as finding parenting hard; you give me the impression that it's a breeze for you!
And I too am terrified of the idea of having another, even though I want to have two children close together as well.
Christina, dude. DUDE! 8 months IS awesome. Breastfeeding and pumping are such huge commitments. They take dedication and they're a big ol' time-suck. I don't know if you're supplementing with formula or not but even if you're not able to make as much as he wants to eat, he's still getting SOME breast milk, and that's a great thing.
Pumping and breastfeeding are huge PITAs, in my opinion. I don't mind breastfeeding at home either (even though my nips STILL get sore sometimes), but pumping is getting annoying at work (although it does give me a nice break in my work day to sit down and read Harry Potter. I am a huge geek.) It annoys me most when I try to squeeze in a pumping session before bed. Always trying to make sure you're pumping or nursing within a set amount of hours to keep your supply up, constantly worrying if you're making enough..it's an enormous commitment! I want to make it to 6 months with Kyler and I know I'll feel guilty when I start to wean him at that point and wonder why I don't try to make it a whole year. But you have to do what keeps you sane, you know? You guys gave me a lot of great support when I complained about BF'ing on here a while back and I'm proud I've done it for almost 5 months now when I wanted to give up. Every month you can breastfeed is an accomplishment, and once you've exceeded your goal, that's just icing on the cake. If it's time for you to stop, then give yourself permission to stop. Alex has already had a great 8 months, you won't be failing him!
Seriously, it is, and you should totally not feel like a failure in anyway for being done with BFing, IMO.
I'm jumping on the mommy train, and in fact feel like I must be the worst mom ever. I just saw the reiterated statement by the AAP that kids under 2 should have NO TV time whatsoever. I have shows on for Phoenix almost all the time. Half the time, shes not even watching it, but if its not on in the background she stands at the edge of her playpen staring at me, screaming..and I can kind of only handle that for about 30-40mins before I give in. Its always things like Sesame Street, Blue's Clues, etc. but still, reading all this stuff makes me feel like I'm making her dumb. It would be different if I was a SAHM, because my job would be doing things with her, but I'm a WAHM, so most of the day I'm trying to do my job job while watching her. Its exhausting and makes me feel like I suck at both. And although I'm somewhat freaking out about how we're going to afford daycare when I have to get a new job in a few months, I almost think it will be better for her because of all the activities she'll get to do there...and that also makes me feel like a craptastic parent, since a daycare can do it better than me.
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I just did a big Excel project thing and my eyes are literally crossing.
I confess that the Niners are making me want to go shopping this week. Between the adorable Erin Condren planners, those AWESOME watches and oh, the grey Olivia & Joy purse from Macy's (I've had a tab open to the page all day. It's in the shopping cart, I have applied the coupon code, I just haven't pulled the trigger yet..). OH and Sephora. You guys are killing me :op
Well then, call me a craptastic mom as well, because I ALWAYS have the TV on for Sam, especially in the early mornings. Blue's Blues, Clifford, Sesame Street.... you name it, we're watching it. And honestly, I must have a craptastic daycare provider too, because she has a TV on with the same programming every morning I drop Sam off.
And sometimes -- SCANDAL -- she's in the room while we're playing video games, too! :O
The AAP needs to get over themselves.... we all watched TV growing up, and I don't think we're any worse for it. Just trust your insticts... you're doing a fine job.
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