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Mediation today
I can't believe those posts from 3 months ago, lamenting that my marriage might be over, were even me.
I went to mediation today with ex. We're trying to avoid needing lawyers since we haven't been married long and don't have children. Wow did it bring to light our issues! I think he harped on about how we need to split the utility bills for the condo I haven't lived in since August for about 10 minutes. His main reasoning was because my clothes are still there. What?!? Ok, it was slightly more complicated than that, but still. Basically, it was a fantastic reminder of just how irresponsible and unreasonable he is. We made it out alive and will still not need lawyers, thankfully.
My post from a couple days ago, about new BF with baby-mama-drama, plus posts from a while ago about H, just remind me that being in the thick of a relationship makes it really hard to see it for what it is. Getting distance from both will be really good for me.
Re: Mediation today
The new "bf" didnt have baby momma drama. He straight up told you he was going to bang his ex (and wanted u to be ok with it). Come on.
Power through your mediation.
Get some counseling.
It will be okay if you dont kid yourself about reality.
Holy crap. I just read your "crazy dilemma" post (how'd I miss that when it was going down?).
Yeah, ITA with Derniermot. Get through the mediation, head straight to counseling and take a long break before you start another relationship.
Gawd, I hope you ended it permanently with that rebound guy.
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I just read the "Crazy Dilemma" post. Are you stupid? Do you actually have intelligence issues? Because I don't even know why that was a "dilemma" and something you needed to run past other people.
Please stay out of a relationship for a LOOOOOOONG time. You have shytty character judgment and you should probably work on that.
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
OP - no one is saying any of this to be mean or catty. I really think its to shake some sense into you. I bet IRL you are a really truly good person who is just hurting alot right now and none of us want to see you be acting a fool and making your life tougher during an already difficult time.
((hugs))
You need counseling ASAP..
I'm glad that mediation gave you some perspective.
Be good to yourself.