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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Re: Vents/rants/confessions?
This is just not my day.
I set my alarm last night for an hour before I needed to be at work. This morning I woke up to the sound of my phone ringing, picked it up and it's H asking me to get on Skype (which is huge, we haven't been able to Skype in over 2 months!). I'm all excited until I see the clock and realize I have to be at work in 5 minutes (meaning my alarm either didn't go off or I turned it off while half-asleep). Had to tell H I couldn't talk and crossed my fingers he will still be available to Skype tomorrow.
Get to work 15 minutes late and had this really p!ssy lady and her screaming banshee child waiting for me. This kid did not want to take pictures and the mom refused to admit that it just wasn't going to work out that day. So I took pictures of him screaming, then had to listen to her complain that she hated them all- like it was MY fault they were bad. WTF lady, I told you I'd be happy to reschedule your appointment to another day when he's in a better mood and she said no! What the heck was I supposed to do?!
After all that drama I went to check my schedules at jobs 1 and 2 only to discover I'm double booked like 3 times next week and they didn't give me the only day I asked off for all of November!
I miss vacation.
67/200
I changed my name
Ventish
Annoying 17 year old boy who would not stop checking out my boobs last week is coming back today. He can't seem to get the contacts in now. UGH. I am not looking forward to helping him today. Not one bit. And of course there is no one else to help him.
Your baby is going to be perfect. Don't worry about that. As far as the other that is why I have avoided making plans with friend's of E's because their new baby is so not cute what so ever and I might say something awful.
I have a confession. H is going to be flying a different plane than he was originally assigned due to back issues. He has a great attitude about it, especially considering that he had to give up his lifelong dream of flying the first plane. I'm so afraid that he's going to really regret giving up his dream and hate flying the new plane. But I know my fear is irrational because he'll jus be happy that he'll be flying. I just feel so bad for him; he worked his ass off to get his first choice.
2. As the parent of a toddler, I understand how difficult it can be to work an unhappy child. When I took LO in to have his picture taken in August, he was having NONE of it. We'd put fun toys on the screen/set to entice him, but he quickly figured out how to get his toy without ever facing the camera. The photog realized that letting him push the button on an extra flash got him to participate AND smile. I was really pleased with how she was able to get him involved. I really thought we were going to come up empty handed. And, while that would not have made me happy, I would have really appreciated the photog trying but understanding that another day might work better. A photographer can try only so many "tricks" to get a young child to smile and cooperate. If it's not working, it's nobody's fault. You can't force a young child to smile, and if the child is *that* miserable, you can't even get serious face pictures. (This totally reminds me of a picture hanging in my brother's house. It is of his four kids. . . Three of them are posed nicely, looking cute. . . And then there is the female twin--writhing on the floor, crying and throwing a fit. She was less than three years old. There was nothing they could do about it. I love that they bought that picture AND have it framed and hanging up!!).
I hope your two jobs are able to get your schedule straightened out AND to get you the day off you requested. Didn't your two bosses talk you into getting the second job? They need to get their acts together!!!
Confession: DH got home yesterday, from a 15 day TDY to Iraq. We were apart for 15 months for his training/deployment and these past 15 days were just as difficult as the 15 months. I had to laugh at myself. LO was a bit of a handful (a BIG handful on several occasions) but the dog was my challenge. Oy. The first week, we were friends. The second week, not so much. After two middle of the night in the house poops, I learned my lesson. When he jumped off the bed, regardless of the time, I had to follow him. That meant I was taking him out on poop walks (we don't have a backyard, just a deck) between 3:45am and 6:00am (I typically get up at 8:00am). And, once back in bed, he'd snuggle up and fall back to sleep while I was wide awake. It felt glorious to sleep through the night last night!!! I am really glad DH has not had to travel much with his current job.
I was supposed to have people over my apartment on Friday for Homecoming - but, due to being busy the last four weekends and being out of town most of last week, my apartment is a disaster. I was stressing over preparing it for company - but then today, everyone bailed. I have never been so relieved to have people bail on me. Ever. Now I can just clean without worrying about getting my place company clean.
I'm taking DS out to a Halloween thing downtown tonight. My town is small [like, 50,000 people small - and it only has that many people because 22,000 are college students], so I don't think it'll be that overwhelming for him...but he's been freaking out around crowds lately, so I'm nervous. We'll try it and see what happens.
FWIW, I think it is normal to worry about how attractive your own baby will be. Most of the time, it is unfounded, but genetics are a gamble--you never know how your half will combine with your DH's. I had a few moments of concern before my LO was born. Part of what I think is funny is that I thought he was so darn cute (albeit hairy!) when he was first born. I look back at those first pictures now--and, well, for a newborn, he was cute.
And, I think it is really neat that your LO will have a cousin so close in age!!!! I'm a little jealous. My LO's cousins are 8, 8 (twins), 14 and 17.
What was his first choice, and what did they send him to? That really sucks. But really in the end, he still gets to fly, like you said.
I am glad that he got his assignment finally, when is your winging? That day is so fun.
I'm sorry they did that to him. Ugh.
Thanks Brandi! His first choice was the F-16, which he got. Is the winging the same as graduation? He graduated and got his wings in April, and shortly after found out he had a herniated disk. The whole summer had been a big question mark regarding his future in the jet. I don't want to get into the complete story, but it ended with him making the decision to give up his slot because his back just won't be able to sustain pulling 9 G's on a regular basis. We found out his new assignment last week, and while I know he's excited, I think he's still kind of mourning the loss of the dream. On the flip-side though, he's stoked to start flying again!
I swear the shorter ones are always more difficult for me too, and way more annoying. H got back from deployment in March, we had 2 different month long underways recently, and then he deploys again before the end of the year. I swear the month long ones are a million times more difficult and stressful because before they are even home you're stressing about how much to do before the next one, and it feels like since it's so short it should be like nothing. Deployments on the other hand are totally different because I just don't really think about him coming home until the halfway point.
ETA: One of Smudge's redeeming traits is, as you, dnbeach understand, is his sweet Boston Terrier face! (And that face is now pressed up against my leg in the hopes of getting some of my dinner!)
Haha I do know that face all too well!
I will never understand this supposedly logical and financial-savvy decision that a lot of women make when their husbands deploy. That is my vent for today.
H suggested I do this while he deployed and I told him hell to the noooo. Unless we're in a ridiculous "broke and no where else to go last resort" situation I refuse to move back in with my parents.
67/200
I'll ditto that. I had said it on MB before, but I just don't get it. I think it really depends on how you view your life in the military, but to me where we live is our home, it's not just a place that we stay while H is working. I work here and have friends here outside of just H, so I wouldn't think of not staying here when he leaves. I'll go back home to my parents for Christmas again since he will be gone again, but it just doesn't feel like my home anymore, so I can't imagine wanting to move back there just because H is gone.
I will fully admit that I could change my opinion on that once we have kids, but for now I don't get it.
In fact, DH and I were discussing what we would do if he were to deploy anytime soon. The conversation never included moving out of the area. Sure, it was a Godsend that I was near my family when I *really* needed them, but, honestly, I believe that was divine intervention. I'm still an adult and unless there are unique and "special snowflake" circumstances, I won't be moving near, much less IN, with my family. My sanity is worth the money spent on rent and utilities.
My vent has to do with the military allowing anyone with a pulse to run their finance departments. I have a feeling the government's decision went something like this "What do we need a CPA for when we have unqualified pfc Shumkatelly over here who will do it for 1/10 the cost!"
Oh man! I am really sorry. Thats a tough assignment to get, as you well know. I can't imagine how hard he had to have worked to have it change like that. :-( And yes, I meant graduation. Sounds like you guys had a rough summer.
Did he at least get to stay with jets? Or did they give him a cargo/tanker?
Thank you
He's got a great attitude about the whole thing, I'm really impressed by the grace he's had in handling all of this. I think he's a keeper 
We're just trying to take everything that comes at us with the idea that it'll be okay no matter what. Things could absolutely be worse.
Unfortunately he couldn't stay with a fighter because of the G's, but he was able to get into something that was near the top of his dream sheet, so that's really good.
And YGPM
Did I miss something?
We are still waiting on the BAH for October from the GI stuff. This is getting annoying. And I can't call for E because I'm not on any of his previous Military stuff. Its annoying.
Exactly. It's not college where you're splitting your time between two places. This is our home, and we are adults who are not going to run back to Mom and Dad when things aren't ideal. I feel like the "we are saving money" thing is such a common explanation...but I still don't see the logic in that at all. It's just a very immature decision IMO, and her DD just further proves that on her part.
I said I would never move back home during a deployment, but I slipped into a serious depression during this last one and honestly looking back, I scared myself. I'm hoping a big part of that was my BC (which I'm getting removed) since I've never had depression issues before. When H deploys again (and if were still across the country from family) I would more than likely move home so I'm not alone.
Whether or not I'd move in with family would be a different story.
Anyway, after going through everything during this last one, it's changed my opinion a little on people moving home. Maybe other people have the same issues as me, but are afraid to say it? Saying it's 'finacially-savvy' is the easy thing to do. I don't know, just a thought.
Well, that's entirely different IMO. Your health and safety were in jeopardy and you needed family around you. I understand I don't know everyone's situation and to each their own, but in my personal experience I know MANY girls who have moved back home when their husbands deploy just because they don't feel like hanging around...meanwhile they leave their pets behind, leave empty houses on base that could be filled up with families who really need them, etc., and then when the husbands come back they move back and expect things to pick up where they left off. To me, it seems like some of them are sort of taking a "time out" from real life and that's just not how life works. It just always seems like an immature decision.
I hope all is well with you now, I had a bad experience with BC as well, I refuse to ever go back on it.