Starting Over
Starryfish
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
This is normal, right?
I am in my first exclusive relationship post divorce (D was 2.5 years ago). I have been dating him for 2.5 months. BF is super nice and treats me well, but in the back of my mind, I am waiting for him to turn bad like XH did or am waiting for the other shoe to drop.
I had my first therapy appt last week (to deal with my own issues), and she said this was normal and that it would go away with time. But I just wanted to double check that I am not the only one feeling this way.
Re: This is normal, right?
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Absolutely normal. It's tough but you can learn to overcome it. Just try not to give in to knee jerk reactions. (ie screaming "oh yeah? WELL F YOU!!" in response to a joke)
Thanks all. I just feel so insecure in the relationship since I feel like its "too good to be true" so something bad must happen....bc my xh and my relationship started off good but then ended up bad.
Yes, I feel like I walked around looking like this for the first few months.
We're kind of going out.
Hahahahaha! PERFECT way to put it!
I think it is totally normal.
I've been with my bf for a year and there are still something things that make me get a bit weird (like this past weekend I was in a funk because two years ago on that day I had to fill out a missing persons report for my then h and it's just a horrible memory associated with that day). I found that if I was honest with bf about what I am going through, he just lets me have my moment. Sometimes now he just knows by my expression that I am in that frame of mind and says, "Do you need some sweet nothings?" Which is his way of asking what he can do to take my mid off it.
It does get easier the longer you are with the new person, too.
They see us rollin'...they be hatin'.
I feel the same way. I've known my current BF for 10 years and we lost touch for quite a few of them while he was at war. We dated for like maybe 2 months back when we were 18 and he was 20, but he dumped me because he wasn't ready to settle down (neither was I at 18!) but he did tell me he had strong feelings towards me that he couldn't explain. He was quick to move on to another girl, but he was with them mostly for "booty".
Now that we are exclusive, he has been amazing to me and tells me he should have never let me go, is great with my daughter, etc. but I feel like one day he may change his mind.
I have no reason to think that as things have been great and we have talked about a future and he is ready to settle down finally...but I am the worst at over-analyzing. I know it is my own insecurities, but I hate feeling that one day he may find someone better. Darn these insecurities!