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Re: Thursday FFC
H didn't make the coffee last night (he makes it at night before going to bed) so there was no coffee this morning. Did I make it myself? No. I walked into the bedroom, wailed "there's no coffee!!!!" and went to take a shower, sulking.
I may be slightly too dependent on my morning coffee.
Before I had a child, I scoffed at people who couldn't stand to leave their kids and go out of town for a few days. I leave for 3 nights in Vegas on Sunday and got teary-eyed the other night because I don't want to be away from DD. So now I get it.
I am a hypocritical driver/road rager. I am guilty of some of the things I yell at other drivers about. I just know I'm a better driver than them, so I'm allowed to.
I have a paper due today and I haven't even started. I work so much better under pressure and procrastination is my middle name.
Someone's getting a little brother!
LOL, Dh likes to f with them and sometimes speaks to them in broken Spanish. The only Spanish he knows is from the construction job site.
I have no idea how I am ever going to do it. We're toying with the idea of taking an overnight trip to NYC in December but I can't stomach the thought of leaving B with anyone overnight. My biggest fear stems from someone else driving her around. I don't know when I'll ever be comfortable with anyone driving her besides DH and me.
Someone's getting a little brother!
I took the entire day off work and I have done NOTHING but play on the computer.
Ummm this kid isn't out yet and i'm with ya here.
we have a wedding in June in Philadelphia for DH's best friend from college. DH is a groomsman so we will be at the RD and then the wedding. H said "well we'll just go to my parents Saturday morning [sunday wedding] and drop the baby off and then go to philadelphia and have a nice two-night break."
Um.....the child will be a month old. I'm all about getting help and using family to help in the beginning and all that jazz. But I think I'm going to be sad at leaving my month-old baby for two nights and two days!! So I told him we would see how things were going but inside I was thinking "oh hell no. Your mom can come to the hotel during the reception."
Parents feel free to tell me if i'm being crazy or he is. (I'm fine with going to the wedding, it's the whole leave-the-infant-at-his-parents-90-minutes-away-for-two-days thing that is freaking me out.)
You are totally not crazy. If you are bf-ing, that can be your excuse not to leave the baby and have your mom or his come with you. I'd also be willing to bet your DH won't want to leave the baby either.
Your baby might not even be a month old, if you go a week late (most first time moms don't go into labor until after their EDD) you could have a 3 week old.
Biologically the first 6 weeks of a baby's life are essentially like a 4th trimester where the mom & baby should basically be together.
Nope not crazy at all. We didn't leave DD overnight for the first time until she was 4mo and even then I was constantly texting with my mom checking in on her.
ditto - your husband will feel differently once the baby's here too. Right now, its totally hypothetical to him; the reality will be very different. Your priorities will be different - especially when your baby is so, so young. You might enjoy taking a break at wedding for 2 or 3 hours, but no way would you want to leave the baby overnight at a month old unless you really, really needed to. We went to a wake and a funeral (in VA) for DH's good friend when E was 6 weeks old. My mom came and stayed at our house for 2 days. We were gone for ~ 4 hours for the wake and then another 4-5 hours for the funeral the next day. We thought about staying at a hotel so we wouldn't have to drive so much, but really couldn't see leaving DD over night or frankly, asking anyone else to do all the overnight feeding that were needed at that age.
Becky...mine is 18mos and I have gone away for 2 nights with her staying with DH. It was horrible, I knew she was fine, she was with DH, but it wasn't easy. She's also never spent the night without DH or I and the only time sleeping out of our house was on vacations (with us). I.don't.leave.my.kid. Seriously i very rarely do things without her and typically if I have too, she's with DH. I think in 18mos she's stayed with someone 3 times for a few hours.
I am part of a team whose topic was selected to be presented at a national conference in April. This is a great professional oppotunity for me, but I don't want to go because unlike last time, I don't think DH can go, so I will have to leave both DH & DD at home. DD will be 15 months. I am trying to figure out how I can bail gracefully...
Yep, I agree with all of this.
Okay so thanks, now I feel more normal, haha.
Not crazy... Evelyn has never spent a night without either myself or DH and she is 19 months old. And, I have only spent 1 night away from her since we brought her home from the NICU. I love my mom and my MIL but I am not ready for DD to be gone overnight.
I have another fun one- when I hear a song by LMFAO on the radio, I don't change the station, I turn it up.
DD knows the words to the refrain of Party Rock Anthem and we sometimes make up our own words to the song around the house. Such as:
Party rock in the bath tonight!
Everyone just have a good time,
And we're gonna make you lose your grime,
Everyone's just have a good time!
hahahaha. I dont really like LMFAO but that is really cute.
I have another fun one- when I hear a song by LMFAO on the radio, I don't change the station, I turn it up.
I was on my way home yesterday from a meeting in Canton and LMFAO's latest song came on. I cranked up the radio since I was in DH's Jeep (nice speakers, an amp and a sub) and started screaming and dancing "I'M SEXY AND I KNOW IT!!!"
I am sure I looked like a complete fool but I was laughing at myself and had fun. Haven't let loose like that in a while and it felt incredible!
DD has been spending the occasional night at my Mom's since she was probably 4-5 months old, and I've never had a problem with it. I'm definitely happy to see her by the time she gets home the next day, but it's never a struggle. To be honest, I think it's good for all of us. DD has an incredible relationship with my Mom, they treasure the time spent together, and DH and I do appreciate the chance to go on a date, celebrate a special occasion, or just sleep in the next day.
I've been on a handful of short trips while DH stays home with DD - a few single overnight trips at the spa with my Mom and sisters, a trip to Tampa with some family members - and they were all fine. I was happy to see DD, but it wasn't terrible. I've never worried about her safety or quality of care when DH and I both go somewhere, but something about knowing she's with him makes it easier to be away for a few nights.
The first really rough time I had was 2009 when I went to Ireland and Scotland. We spent weeks leading up to that trip getting our wills and guardianship in place, and thinking about worst case scenario for long had me utterly stressed out and a total wreck. The trip to Vegas in April was another rough one. I actually cried because our flight home was delayed and we were going to get home so late that I'd have to wait until the next morning to get DD from my sister's house.
This trip is 3 nights in Vegas with my Mom and DH will be home with DD, so I think I'll be okay, judging by past experience, but I am going to miss my girl somethin' fierce.
Well at 36+ weeks pregnant, you definitely have passion in your pants and aren't afraid to show it, show it, show it!
They are two (I think it is just two?) goofy-ass guys. Their songs get into your head and they make me dance around like a fool.
Kathryn, here is the link to their other song, Party Rock Anthem. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KQ6zr6kCPj8
I would have linked it to the 'Sexy and I Know It' but that video is NSFW. They are shaking their stuff a little too much for work viewing in the other one.
I also put the video on Kathryn's FB wall, along w/ a clip of DD singing it...
never mind...
My FFCs. First I got SO pissed at DH on Halloween because as soon as I got home from work he announced that he was sick and going to bed. I know it's not fair to get mad at him for being sick but he left me alone to feed DS and myself, and get him in his costume, and answer the door every 5 seconds and it was too much. *I* can't just crawl into bed when I'm tired or don't feel well and assume that someone will take care of DS, so I don't think DH should either. He normally helps a lot with DS and that's great, but I still do so much more. AND if I hear him complain about being tired one more time I will lose it! He has gotten up with DS at night maybe half a dozen times since he was born.
While I am happily excited about having another baby in the hopefully-not-too-far-away-future and am always imagining what it will be like with more kids, I was kind of devastated to hear DH say he never thinks about having more kids because right now he doesn't want anymore because he's so frustrated and overwhelmed. I don't like being on such very different pages.
The other one is work related. I feel like I'm being left behind with these new people and new technologies we're using. And I'm stuck doing maintenance on the same project for the past 7 years. It's time to move on but I just can't pull the trigger on it.
BFP#1: 01/10, M/C 6w -- BFP#2: 06/10, M/C 5w -- BFP#3: 09/10, DS born June 1, 2011
BFP#4: 07/12, M/C 5w3d -- BFP#5: 12/12, EDD 08/18/13
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