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Re: Friday confessions
It was such a huge let down. We've been waiting for him to meet the slutty pumpkin for 7 seasons! I want a do over.
Throw in "drink a bottle of wine" (if its a weekend) and I do the same thing.
ITA with this. And I love JJ too!
A new video game came out. It's called Skylanders. It comes with these action figures that you put on this portal, and then they're playable in the game. It's obviously for kids, and it's obviously a huge gimmick to make parents buy the 30+ extra figures that you can put in the game as well.
I bought it. And I have extra figures. And I want more extra figures.
The game is actually fun, not JUST for kids. It has a good play style. It's a Spyro the Dragon game, which I always loved, so I am pretty much rooting for it. But I know I'm being ridiculous and buying into the crazy, especially when I'm at Toys R Us talking to a ten year old about which character to pick. Yeah.
Also, I got a seasonal job at Spencer's, but I only know via the email alert, and if the manager doesn't call me, I'm not taking it.
You're obviously seeing the ambitious ones coming through. I mostly go off of what my son tells me and my discussions with other parents who have teenagers right now. Of course there are bright and ambitious ones out there (my son being one of them, of course!
). I hear so much of what goes on in my DS's public school and it makes me cringe to think that these kids are going to be running the world one day. Although, I heard my grandma say that many times about my generation and I think we're okay, so maybe it's just the cynical old lady coming out in me.
My husband doesn't think we should get another kitty after our current one passes away. I think we should so I am starting to inundate him with cute kitty pictures so that when the times comes he'll be all "Okay, let's get those kids a kitty!".
His side of the family is also experiencing some TIP, but I cannot talk about it yet as it is still developing. On top of it, one of the parties involved in said TIP may no longer be in remission and this may be contributing to it.
A crush is not flameworthy.
What are you going to do about it? THAT is the part that could be flameworthy.
Right? I was disappointed.
Ughhhh, I also interact with college kids a lot (18-22). Some give me such faith in their generation, and others....eeeeeeeeeeee. I see a big difference between the freshmen and the juniors though, so maybe it's a maturity thing. Hopefully. One girl told me last week that she, like, picked her major because, like, she didn't have to study for, like, exams.
Even the ones who seem to have it together somewhat are doing terribly in their classes. I'm shocked at the GPAs. I can't tell if it's due to a total lack of preparation in high school or because they just don't giveashit because life will just work itself out. Maybe both.
Sorry to disappoint- I always hear how horrible it is to date coworkers.
We've actually had a "talk" about the situation. Right now, nothing is gonna happen. He's not in a place for it. Future? Who knows. I'm not waiting or stressing. Whatever happens happens. If someone else comes along for either of us then it wasn't meant to be.
In the meantime though, he's got a smile that can make me melt. Is that level of pathetic flame worthy?
I don't think you know what flameworthy means.
If you said you guys did it in the breakroom, that would constitute as flameworthy.
Thinking he has a cute smile, NOT flameworthy.
What about wanting to do it in the break room? Cause I think I just might ;-)
Hey, you can't WANT whatever you want! LOL There's this really nice lobby restroom where I work and....nevermind!
I don't find dating a co-worker flamful as long as you set rules about your relationship during work hours and continue to act professional at work.
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This makes me think of The Office
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Sometimes you just gotta give in to the cake. I gave in to a fairly large piece of homemade pumpkin pie last night myself.
Morty, teenagers are douchey as a whole and they say stupid shiit knowing it will piss off someone. I wouldn't assume that means they are wholesale more racist a generation. But it could be the area where you live.
For me, I have the complete opposite impression. There's no way I would agree that kids or young adults are more racist than they were when I was a kid. In my experience, they are decidedly less so. Considering my mother used to tell people we were half puerto rican because black and white biracial children were bad juju when I was a kid. And now, no one really gives a shiit aside from a select few who at least have the common decency to keep their mouths shut.
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Kuus-- I'm a fan of yours, so this post didnt' upset me too much. I'm from a mixed family (one parents is middle eastern) so your comment about burning the middle east to the ground was a bit painful. However, I don't live there anymore, and thankfully my middle eastern parent is very open minded and westernized. The rest of the extended family on that side... not so much. I'm not covered up and wasn't expected to, and I agree with you that many of the beliefs of that culture are ridiculous and I don't follow about 95% of it. However, let's not lump everyone into the same category please.
Ok, I feel better now. Still mad love for you though Kuus.
It must be where I live then. My son tells me story after story about things that happened at school and the majority of it has to do with race against race. My son's school is in an area where the surrounding neighborhood is very questionable (the cops are always being called for shootings and stabbings...mostly gang related). A kid got stabbed about a month ago during his lunch hour just outside of a deli that's a block away from school. The kid was Mexican and mistaken for someone from a gang because of the colors he was wearing. He was stabbed by a black kid in another gang. These two gangs obviously don't tolerate eachother.
Unfortunately, this is fairly common and unfortunatley I know more about gangs than I ever wanted to know.
Also, his advisor at school told him to always take AP and CP classes because he will never learn anything in the regular classes. The regular classes are constantly being disrupted by kids who don't care or start fights. The teachers in those classes are pretty much babysitters and don't get to teach very much. His freshman class was over 700 and now as a junior, there are just a little over 300 kids left because so many kids dropped out.
Kind of reminds me of the movie Freedom Writers.
I really wish I could afford private school!
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The violence and the gangs in and of itself isn't necessarily racist, but the other kids (read: not black) pretty much lump all black kids into a certain category based on what they see these gangs do. I'm not the only one that sees it and my son isn't the only one that talks about it. It's a real problem. I do see it among adults and I'm sure that's where most of the kids get it from, but seeing how the kids in these gangs act and talk only fuels the racism.
I'm probably not explaining it very clearly. I know it's racism, but I'm not doing a very good job at articulating it without sounding racist myself. To me, racism is attaching negative stereotypes to a race and believing them.
ETA: I guess my whole point was that from what I see, DS's generation doesn't look to be any better than any other generation. Racism doesn't seem to be much better in his generation than in older generations. My example of gangs is attached to more than just race, but violence and lack of education (most of these kids drop out of school). I honestly don't see kids that are in gangs in HS going on to college and having a respectable career.
And I don't see how that makes your son's generation equally racist or moreso than previous generations. Again, I'm likely biased because I am black but I'm telling you, I've lived and visited a shiiton of places in this country and I'm saying unequivocably I can clearly see how my children won't have it as badly as I did as a kid just as I didn't have it nearly as shiity as my mother's generation did.
Even just the difference between how my black mother's relationship with my white father was handled is markedly different from how my relationships with white men are is just such a huge difference that can't be ignored. The way people react to my children and their parentage as they go through school is just so very different.
I mean I guess it's an outside looking in type of thing but really, none of what you're describing suggests to me that kids are more racist now than they used to be or that we haven't made great strides in acceptance and tolerance for large groups of people. The problems are still there and will be for generations. But again, I just don't see how anyone can say that it's worse just because we have a gang problem in this country or because kids use shitty language among themselves.
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