Starting Over
Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Re: Paralyzed by the past
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I keep in touch with my XH because we have a child together. If we didn't, and now that that our divorce is final and the house is in my name only, I'd block his number/email and say peace out.
You didn't have children and your annulment is over. Block and move on. Part of me thinks you secretly enjoy the attention.
Exactly, now that the annulment is over and we don't have children, obviously, I can block and move on. And I feel good about doing that.
The only reason I said that I would've probably gone back to him was because we were married (it's not like we were just dating casually), we had JUST taken vows literally weeks before, and I didn't want to just "give up on it." I honestly thought we could work through anything (and because of what I learned in counseling - I didn't want to see the relationship fail, and because I'm an eternal fighter, etc., etc.), but I realized that he had to do a lot more work on himself without me involved. Which is why I left. I'm not turning back nor do I have any intention to.
Thanks for the hard dose of reality ladies. You are all very strong women who don't put up with sh*t from their ex's. And I know I shouldn't put up with any from mine anymore.
Look, we really don't mean to give you a hard time. But we only know what you post, and most of us have "been there" in one way or another. We here on SO have all graduated from the school of hard knocks, and we just like to help others graduate and not drop out.
Good luck, and I hope that now you can completely block him from all commuincation and pretend he never existed.