Trouble in Paradise
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Constantly discouraged, venting only
Sorry.
But this is just the last straw. My direct supervisor is always making me feel... less superior or she continually reminds me of my low status (in general and at the company).
She isn't directly saying or doing anything. It just side comments she makes, or the way she approaches my ideas ("well, I'm not so sure about that idea" but when someone else higher up has that idea, it's freaking fantastic).
I'm really discouraged and I always feel like she wants me know I'm at the bottom of the totem pole.
I just want to tell her, "I get it. You think you're better than me. That's cool. But stop being so smug about it."
This has just been one of those days.
Re: Constantly discouraged, venting only
I'm sorry, Pedantic. Bad bosses are so frustrating.
Ice cream always makes things better. Sorry you're having a sucky day. A lousy coworker/workplace is never anything fun to deal with. My nightmare coworker left for the day at 11, thank God. I was afraid I was going to start throwing random office supplies.
I usually glare sternly through the wall, sometimes accompanied by the middle finger. It makes me feel better.
I say a lot of things under my breath. It's slowly getting a little louder each time though. One of these days she's going to hear it. I can't wait. When I walk downstairs, I'm separated from her by cube walls, where I tend to flip the middle finger a lot. It does kind of make you feel a little better!
I'm not sure if this will help Pedantic, but it certainly has helped me in similar situations. I once experienced an almost identical situation, as far as the side, brush-off comments to imy deas that would later be expressed/ brought to higher ups as her own ideas. I know not exactly the same, but it was equally as infuriating!!
SO I started to keep a (secret, very hidden) file of these examples, including date, people involved, actual example, etc. Even though private, the compilation of the incidents was a tiny bit gratifying to me.
A) I was going to bring this list to the higher ups one day when I'd had enough. SEE?!?? See what she's been claiming as her own thoughts?!
-----what actually happened-----
C) Keeping the list made me feel a bit better, as I would somehow release a tiny bit of frustration while I was recording. Also, I am able to look back at the list whenever I start to feel frustrated with my current employment situation, hence dissapating any and all frustration. Last and best: I was also able to turn a couple of list items into pretty great jokes among friends/ former colleagues.
Good luck; it sucks, I know!
Welcome to my club of frustrating horrible bosses
. I know I don't know you and I more of a lurker here. I have learnt to focus on the positive and laugh at the negative. My one big positive is that I am normally off for 3 weeks Dec/Jan Holidays and next year I have a 4 week trip to Africa. That is one of the big reasons I haven't left yet.
If you document, a la miniroller, make it Jane Goodall observation style.
It just makes one feel better.
4:32-The alpha female, "bondimbo" entered the room and approached her underlings. Her arms were clearly stating she was aggressive although her facial expressions were held tightly in the "BFF" look.
/DEAD