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Re: Kids can't clean bathrooms?
I just figured you guys would have common sense and read from the story that my step kids would not tell their mom such horrible lies. If they were my kids and the roles were reversed there is no way that I would EVER wait to months to let that cat out of the bag.
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Yesterday my husband felt the need to tell me that he felt no sexual desire for me anymore. He feels like I have let myself go (which in all fairness, I have).
I was a horrible person when I was younger, but when I met my husband I changed for the better. Recently I had gotten sick and had to stay a week in the hospital, and I'm still struggling to get back to 100%. Between the medical issues and a few odd things that happened before that, I have felt the need to turn to God. I have never been a spiritual person until recently. I'm trying to work on my inside to become a great person instead of just an ok one.
Before yesterday I felt disgusting on the inside because of decisions I had made in my past. I feel like putting on makeup, and doing my hair, and working out is a waste of time, because it's not going to help who I am on the inside.
Now because of the comment that was made by him yesterday. I feel disgusting inside and out. Now I could start putting on makeup, and playing dress up but I have gained a lot of weight since we have been together. That was his biggest complaint. He said he doesn't know when it is going to stop, and honestly, neither do I.
He hurt me to the point last night that I almost divorced him. I mean that is being a bully right? You don't tell a girl on the playground that you don't like her because she is fat. He should like me for who I am on the inside right? I mean if he doesn't like who I am on the outside and the inside isn't enough for him not to care about the outside doesn't that really just make me a failure? I'm not really sure what to do. I don't feel like a divorce is the right thing to do because he was only telling me how he felt, but how can we ever have a sex life again? He doesn't want me because of my weight and I don't want him because I feel disgusting. If I lose the weight he is going to want me, but will I want him? I'm very turned off to his attitude about this.
Just a little over a month ago he was complaining I had no sex drive anymore, no it's back and better than ever and his is gone. I don't get it. Please help me.
That is my original post yesterday in case you missed it.
Yeah, I read your original post. And I stand by what I said.
You are LITERALLY too dumb to learn a lesson or understand what we're saying.
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
I never ever said my stepkids were anything but great. They are kids they don't always do what they are told but for the most part they are great. Also, I never called my husband anything though i did say i felt like he is being a bully. I love my husband and stepkids very very much. My husband said something that hurt my feelings. The only mistake I have made is posting it where you could see it because obviously you thrive on being bitchy. If you don't like what I posted fine it has nothing to do with you so ignore it. No harm no foul.
What lesson were YOU specifically trying to teach me or make me understand? I'm sorry I got a lot of advice I want to know what YOURS was.
So yesterday, the problems were so bad you were contemplating divorce, but today they're so minor that you can't make time for a counselor?
Hmmm.
If you really love your husband and step-kids so much, you'd try making an effort to keep your family from breaking apart two months after your wedding instead of just making excuses, or claiming we can't read, or claiming we're just misunderstanding you.
Why thank you, I take that as a compliment. Call me a cvnt next.
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
I literally, just posted within the last hour that I I'm going to look into counselling. So yes obviously you aren't understanding because you all keep repeating the same thing over and over when it is in the process of being worked on.
LMAO. Oh, Trista, you're so hilarious.
Are you this passive-aggressive in your marriage?
::raises hand::
oooohhh! I know, I know!. Pick me!!
I feel like a terrible person now. My 18 month old has to pick up his toys, put his dishes in the sink, throw away his own diapers. I also make him put away his toy at daycare when I come-- I don't let him just throw it on the floor and leave.
You bet your butt that he'll be cleaning up after himself when he gets older.
And PS, I loved cleaning the bathroom when I was little! it was the smallest room in the house!
My stepsons have an "everyday" list. These are regular chores: cleaning bedroom, putting away their laundry, etc. Then they have "for pay" chores. The paid chores can only be done after the regular chores are done. If one brother doesn't finish his regular chores, the other brother can do them and get the money. I'm not their maid.