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Re: My husband's friends are being ridiculous! (sorry, long read.)
You didn't have enough respect for these people to even read the party invitation that they sent you. You keep throwing you wedding planning around like it was some huge deal (newsflash sweetheart - it wasn't, and the fact that you seem to think that the world should have stopped and that everyone should have stood around in awe of you while you planned a party speaks poorly of your character and personality), and you responded in an absolutely immature fashion to a letter that wasn't even sent to you.
And your husband is on your side? Either he's completely spineless, or you must rock his world something crazy in bed..........the guy sounds so whipped that I have to wonder if he needs you to dress him in the morning.
I've got to admit, I got a laugh out of the way you ended your note to him (Cordially, K) because there was nothing cordial about your response to him.
Everyone in this situation sounds pretty over the top and immature.
This is what I was thinking too. I have a feeling your husband is on your side simply because you would make his life a living hell if he wasn't.
With my group of friends we need to plan events like this 2 months in advance - we all have crazy schedules and this is how we can block the day off, find babysitters, whatever. I also find it very rude when at the last minute, one of my friends backs out for something ridiculous (like you not reading the invite correctly).
I think it?s time to grow up children.
That was my favorite line of your letter. It really does sum up EVERYONE in this scenario. You're all acting like idiots.
And you really don't understand why your husband's friends feel that you've made it clear that spending time with them isn't a priority in your life?
Wedding planning is not an all-encompassing event. I've been there. I had time to read emails AND see friends.
Your husband's friend is exactly right. You were rude when you just skimmed his email invite. You were rude when you decided to ditch the event you had RSVP'd "yes" to. You were rude when you failed to tell him you had decided not to go. You were rude when you failed to apologize for your oversight. Finally, the lengthy and snotty email you sent him in response was way over the line. As someone else said above, your response should have been a simple apology for your behaviour.
You sound very self-centered. No wonder his friends don't like you.
There is not much more I can say here. I cannot believe that you think you are right in this situation. What happened to common courtesy?
When you have to change your RSVP to a party (which you should not have done, by the way, your mom's party is the one you should be missing), you make a phone call and apologize. You tell them that you messed up and stop making excuses for yourself. Take ownership of your error and apologize. Stop being a drama queen. That gets old real fast.
I'm not trying to be mean, but your response was just as childish. A simple I'm sorry. Tell them that you had mixed the times. Let them know your husband still planned on attending and you are hoping you can make it next time because you do want to get to know them.
Honestly your insults and "opinions" were B*tchy and unnecessary. Not to mention now that your husband is dropping them and has no friends except you he will resent you for this. It seems your very pleased with your handy work here and this is exactly what you wanted to happen. His friend D is not so off base about you.
Why are all these communications through emails??
Is the art of speaking face to face a completely arcane skill now?
Good grief. You messed up. He got upset and responded childishly. You got defensive and responded childishly back. You're all children.
Grow up and try again.
Ding ding ding! We have a winner.
You are way wrong in this situation, and it is no wonder these people have continually excluded you from their circle. You sound like a pain in the a$$ drama queen. How is it that while planning your wedding, you can focus on nothing else except that? Do you work? How'd you manage to function there? Can you walk and chew gum at the same time? Your email was inappropriate, uncalled for, and childish and seems to be a direct reflection of your personality. You're quite a peach.