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Re: Therapy FYI
Hope no one took you up on that bet because you just went from being a broke *** to a broker one if they did....lol
Peanut and Kuus - my experience has been very similar and I have seen a lot of personal growth. I can't say enough good things about therapy.
If you feel like the damage from your childhood has been dealt with, then tell the therapist that, by all means. If at some point you stopped feeling like a victim of your childhood, you absolutely should say so. She'll still probably want to know what it was and how you got to that point.
Also, I'm wondering how you reconcile the statements that your husband may say things he shouldn't because he's a fvckface, but he isn't abusive. I'm sure you know that not all abuse is physical.
The fvckface thing was just a joke. He said something that hurt my feelings. It's not like he puts me down for everything I do, and it's not like he wasn't telling me the truth. Like I said, it was something that we talked about, and he admitted he was wrong for how he approached the situation. Trust me, physical abuse was not the only thing I got out of my childhood I also had plenty of verbal and emotional abuse as well.
There's a lot of evidence that they're highly effective, especially in PTSD and abuse situations. Not to armchair diagnose, but do you have PTSD symptoms?
Also, even the ones that focus on your past (since you seem to want to process some of it) won't force you to open up if you don't want to. Your therapy might be less effective, but if you want to draw a bright line, they'll let you. And then maybe someday you'll see how much therapy has helped, and feel a lot of trust in your therapist and finally get to unburden yourself. Or not, but starting somewhere with something is going to help a lot more in the long-run. I guess I'm saying don't be afraid to try.
"The meek shall inherit the earth" isn't about children. It's about deer. We're all going to get messed the fuckup by a bunch of cloned super-deer.- samfish2bcrab
Sometimes I wonder if scientists have never seen a sci-fi movie before. "Oh yes, let's create a super species of deer. NOTHING COULD POSSIBLY GO WRONG." I wonder if State Farm offers a Zombie Deer Attack policy. -CaliopeSpidrman