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Re: Really hurt by my father. Need Advice
Perhaps you should find a new place to vent.
Everyone has already said what I think - accept who your father is and stop expecting him to be more, and stop dwelling over these petty things that happened at your wedding and focus on living your life. Good God, it was 6 months ago.
I think a lot of good advice has been given here. Like the PPs have suggested, you need to deal with the underlying issues with you father.
With all due respect, my mom makes your dad look like father of the year. I can only imagine how she would have behaved if she had been invited to my wedding - which she wasn't b/c I cut her out of my life a few years ago.
I know the kind of person she is and I learned to stop expecting her to be different. She's broken, abusive and limited. I'm not and I choose to be different. You can choose how to handle your dad instead of letting it control you this way.
By the way - the day of our wedding, my husband saw me for the first time and said " um, you look nice". I teased him about it because he says more romantic things than that to me on a normal day and he later told me that he wanted to say more but he was very nervous in front of all the people. Maybe your dad felt the same.
Um, I was in this situation. My dad was outside helping the caterer load something (really dad? That is what I paid them for, so they would do it!). He is a great guy and was just trying to help them. Honestly it was NOT that big of a deal to me. My mom saw what was happening and jumped up to dance with me. My dad came running in all sweaty, without his tux jacket on & finished the dance. Wonderful memories!