January 2006 Weddings
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Re: Anyone still over here? (Monday)
I'm not steph but as far as I know, yes.
My club board had tons of drama, complete with an troll who had every one convinced they were real. They were SO scary too. When I first joined the knot I looked at posts there and then didn't come back for months when I found the Boston board and P&E. Heels and Ricks were on my month board.
I don'tlike the nest format at all. I think it is annoying to read chains of quotes.
RAWR!
Is anyone bored enough to help me try to home remedy Michael's anxiety? We just left the hospital from him having a panic attack this morning. He takes anxiety meds, and is going to see his Dr. tomorrow, but I really feel like part of the solution can be lifestyle changes. I admit that I know nothing about anxiety, and I struggle to relate and understand what he's going through, but I'm trying.
I hear that yoga can do good things...another subject I know nothing about. Are there different types of yoga? Any certain DVD's that would be a good starting place if I can talk him into giving it a try?
Nope. In crispy corn tortillas. GF and tasty!
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RAWR!
DX: PCOS/Recurrent losses/MTHFR mutation (compound hetero)
5 hysteroscopies/2 surgical
3 Inject IUIs = 2 m/c's and 1 BFN
IVF #1= BFP. m/c at 7w6d. Needed 2 D&C's and scar tissue removal. Mild OHSS
IVF #2 = BFP. Severe OHSS. 4 Drainings. TWINS!
Oh, Dmill, I'm sorry to hear that.
Anxiety sucks, a lot. I've dealt with it for many years and panic attacks are just the worst. You feel like you're dying, or at least I did. I'm going to send you a FBPM, give me a few minutes.
awesome, thank you! I feel like such a jerk because I just don't get it, but I want to try to help him if I can.
RAWR!
Thanks
that actually does make sense. The only time he really seems to struggle with it, is at work. He has no routine at work, and it's madness most of time.
Howdy! How was Nutcracker? Beautiful and perfect?
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Dmills, I'm sorry. H is going through anxiety stuff too. He's always had it, I just finally convinced him to talk to someone about it earlier this year. He doesn't have panic attacks (at least not that I know of), but he's just generally anxious/depressed. (The depression is very mild though.) That's a big part of the reason why he doesn't have his driving license, and I know it's really getting to him lately.
I feel bad, because I get frustrated, because I just don't 'get it'. At all.
Reddy- our drama was about the TTC bullshit. It was baby talk nonstop, and I pointed it out. Then I was a biatch for not caring about everyone's precious little gifts from God. Then someone complained about how her husband wouldn't make her the dinner she wanted. I said she was being petty, and then everyone jumped down my throat for not having sympathy for her because she was PREGNANT. OP then made some asinine comparison like "what if my child was stillborn. Would you consider that petty?! It's stressful being pregnant." Yup, she compared lasagna to a fvcking stillborn baby. (One of the girls on our board at that time had just had a stillborn baby, too.) So.....
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Dmill- I know this may not be up your H's alley (but you did mention Yoga, so..), but regular meditation has helped me a lot, specifically slow breathing exercises (which yoga also has). I try to channel my inner Buddha when I get panicky and breathe and remain Zen. I concentrate on how my body is the same, the world is exactly the same, whether I am (going through whatever is stressing me out) or not.
I use to have this little meditation card deck and it would have nature ideas to meditate about and calm your mind down. My favorite was the one where you pretend you are a pearl forming out of a grain of sand in an oyster. I've meditated so much on this, now I can close my eyes and think of the image and it really does calm me down.
I hope that didn't make me sound too crazy, but I do know the breathing part helps. Counting while inhaling, counting while exhaling, and making the exhaling twice as long as the inhale. You want to practice though, so you don't just pass out, I've worked myself up to my slow breathing now.
P.S. Yoga might be the perfect thing for someone who wouldn't see themselves sitting for long. Also, Tai Chi. Both have a very meditative approach while remaining active and social.
Holy novel!
It went well! Im exhausted and there were a few uh-oh's at dress rehersal (as I was under Mother Gingers skirt wheeling her out, she tipped over and was about to take a header into the ground until I caught the ladder she was sitting on with my head). The kids looked great though and they had a good time. So it was worth it
DX: PCOS/Recurrent losses/MTHFR mutation (compound hetero)
5 hysteroscopies/2 surgical
3 Inject IUIs = 2 m/c's and 1 BFN
IVF #1= BFP. m/c at 7w6d. Needed 2 D&C's and scar tissue removal. Mild OHSS
IVF #2 = BFP. Severe OHSS. 4 Drainings. TWINS!
DX: PCOS/Recurrent losses/MTHFR mutation (compound hetero)
5 hysteroscopies/2 surgical
3 Inject IUIs = 2 m/c's and 1 BFN
IVF #1= BFP. m/c at 7w6d. Needed 2 D&C's and scar tissue removal. Mild OHSS
IVF #2 = BFP. Severe OHSS. 4 Drainings. TWINS!
Thanks, ladies
Reddy, I'm going to try and warm him up to some of these ideas. I don't know if he'll go for it or not, but it beats the hell out of going to the hospital. Today was the first time he's had a panic attack, and I think it scared him a lot. I'm glad he's going to the Dr. tomorrow, but I'd really like for him to find some ways to control it on his own vs. medication, if at all possible.
Not at all, he drinks a shitton of caffeine, and honestly doesn't drink much water at all.
I hope this doesnt come off as insensitive like it did when I talked about my experience to Nuggs, but I had bad anxiety in college and they put me on meds but I only took them for a very short period of time because I felt like a zombie (and that honestly, mine wasnt anxiety that needed to be medicated. It was situational and other solutions would have been a better idea than meds, for me)
Caffine was a big trigger for my panic attacks so i cut that out. Also, learning to change my breathing. That along with recognizing the start of an attack. I would feel it coming and try to stop it. Showers helped. It was probably the relaxation of the water. And making a real effort to overcome it in my mind before it got out of control. That was the biggest thing for me. Knowing it was coming and convincing myself to not let it happen.
That being said, it is a really unconventional approach to it. I just decided in my mind that I was not going to let it be a problem anymore. And talking to people about what was bothering me. I found that when i let things build up, I would go crazy and the attacks would come. So thats why, even if its something small, if i just verbalize whats bothering me, i feel like a weight has been lifted and im not anxious about it anymore. However, thats probably why im so "confrontational".
DX: PCOS/Recurrent losses/MTHFR mutation (compound hetero)
5 hysteroscopies/2 surgical
3 Inject IUIs = 2 m/c's and 1 BFN
IVF #1= BFP. m/c at 7w6d. Needed 2 D&C's and scar tissue removal. Mild OHSS
IVF #2 = BFP. Severe OHSS. 4 Drainings. TWINS!
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So much better! I still have a lingering runny nose, but I think that's because of the weather more than anything. (It got really cold really fast here.)
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That's great! Being sick is the worst.
I feel like I should warn you guys that the "d" and "s" key stick on my keyboard. So my typo average might go up at work.
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Blue, it doesn't sound insensitive to me at all. I think we're a lot alike in the way we approach things. How you handled it, is exactly what I think everyone should be able to do, so that's where I'm struggling with being able to relate to him. I know that everyone is different, but I can't wrap my head around just not being able to calm down.
I'm going to suggest the idea of backing off the caffeine. Even if it doesn't help with the anxiety, it'll still be good for him. I can guarantee he'll be happy with the suggestion of verbalizing when he's pissed off. I have no problems saying what's on my mind, and he bottles everything up. If both of us start unloading, our house is going to be entertaining
Thanks, for the advice!
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DMill, sorry about your H, I have no advice, so I'll just offer support.
My club board is teh awesome. Nearly 2.5 years later it's still pretty active. Everyone is really understanding of the different stages and how it's just not for some. We've been lucky to avoid drama.
I'm so very unproductive today. It's almost embarassing. But I really don't care. Mostly, I want to sleep.
OH, AND WE'RE BUYING A CAR! Woo. 2008 Honda CR-V, fully loaded, freaking pristine condition. It's gorgeous. I loves it.
We'll just not tell H about this little fact, m'kay?
Congrats! What color?
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Silver. Exactly what we didn't want, but hey, the rest of the car is wicked, so, we'll work with it. It's a darker/bluer silver than both of our cars are now, so hopefully that will make it better. Plus, there's like, chrome and tint and stuff, so it's purdy.
We'll just not tell H about this little fact, m'kay?
Dmil- I'm so sorry to hear that. I think the advice reddy and blue gave were spot on. I have and continue to have trouble with random anxiety attacks. My biggest triggers are caffeine and overindulgence in alcohol and high fat foods. I've learned over the years how to spot a panic attack coming. I can usually stop them. I do have lorazepam in the rare instance where I get to the point of no return. Honestly, I think having the medication around also helps reduce my anxiety since I know I have a back up to breathing and guided meditation exercises.