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Intro
Hi there. I've been lurking for a while and I thought it was time to introduce myself.
I'm Lucy, 27 years old, separated from STBXH since April. I have my BF who I've been dating for 5 months. I'm just waiting on my attorney to stop dragging his feet and get me the final divorce papers to sign. It's almost over.
A little back story, I got married in 2009 after dating/living with STBXH since 2007. We separated in 2011. I chose to leave, I filed for divorce. I was just tired of it all. It was a loveless, controlling relationship. He purposely ignored me, wouldn't let me have friends, and he used me financially. I'm so much better without him and I'm happy that I left. I actually found out that he was cheating...but that's not even important anymore.
I met BF on OKCupid 3 months after I separated from STBXH. He is amazing and everything I've ever wanted in a man. He's kind and treats me wonderfully, and he's sexy. Ha. Our personalities just click and I couldn't ask for more.
I've been in therapy since I left my marital home in April. I'm working on my co-dependency issues with much progress and I feel like a better, more awesome person.
So yeah. Just wanted to say hey.
Re: Intro
Yeah, I know it was quick. I made an OKC profile to make friends and see what was out there and BF and I met on the terms of just hanging out as friends, since he was new to the area and didn't know many people. We clicked though, the first meeting and have been pretty much doting on each other since. I have been mentally checked out of my marriage since a few months into it, and I lived alone in my home because STBXH and I worked opposite schedules. It's been like I've been living alone without him for a while now, even though we shared a home. I guess it's just strange circumstances.
I've got issues with co-dependency but I'm really working hard at it. I've been progressing quite a bit and and feeling so much better.
Meh...while I'd normall be right there with you, Crazy, she's the one who left, so she may have been "over it" for a while before leaving, y'know?
Anyways, welcome, Liubot.
Except that she admits she has co-dependency issues.
So????
We're kind of going out.