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Why do I let this happen? Vent
I'm hosting Christmas eve for MIL, SIL and BIL. Not a huge deal, but still a nice dinner.
We'll be home just the four of us Christmas morning and then see my parents in the afternoon. The other day I asked my mom who's house we were doing dinner at- she says" I'd assumed yours so the kids can show us their new toys and we can just bring all the gifts" I said ok. Why did I say ok? Why didn't I say "mom, I'd prefer your house b/c I'm hosting the night before and it's just.too.much"? She will help with the dinner, quite a bit, but it's just another thing to deal with......
I'm totally the type that volunteers for too much and then regrets it later and I've done it again. I may talk to her about switching, we'll see.
I also need to find a way to get SIL and BIL to host a holiday dinner. In the 6 or so years they've lived together, we've had one at their house. I do the rest and it's getting a bit old. They do always bring something, but honestly that's not the same.
Ok vent and pity party over... (for now)
Re: Why do I let this happen? Vent
It's not too late! Call your mom and tell her you thought about it and changed your mind.
I always tend to pick up the slack--I'm happy to let other people do things, but if no one steps up, I do. It sounds like you do that, too. The only way to get your BIL and SIL to host may be just to say that you're not hosting whatever event this year. Sucks, but sometimes that's just the way it is.
Ditto -- just call your mom and say upon further reflection it is just too much to host two big family dinners back to back like that.
ETA: but I understand because I probably would've done the same.
DD -- 5YO
DS -- 3YO