International Nesties
Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Re: Do you have any big plans for 2012?
Moving back to the States. Four years overseas, two countries, and two children later... I find it a bit weird that we are going right back to where we started from. Somewhat full circle and somewhat the awkwardness of leaving at one phase in life and having to readjust in a totally different phase in life.
Thanks for all the support ladies.
DH and I haven't been very happy for awhile. He never talks to me, is always on his computer, watching tv or playing on his phone. He is constantly telling me I'm wrong about whatever and his way/belief is the correct way. He gets very upset with me over small things, like spending 10chf over at the grocery store (we're not cash strapped, so its not this).
Money is a huge issue, I don't work and he has never understood the concept of his money is actually ours. I never have any money and constantly have to ask for 20chf, etc. When I quit working he was supposed to be transferring some money monthly into my bank account, but that happened once. He finally got me a credit card of my own. It's ridiculous that he does that even though we have the money.
I told him I couldn't live like this, I'm not happy being in a relationship where I'm ignored except for when he wants sex (and I really don't want to have sex since I'm not happy with us). He's been sleeping on the sofa.
I'm trying to figure out what to do, I'm going back to the US in Jan. for three weeks, I hope that gives me time to clear my mind.
Sending hugs to you ktkl.
We are going to try out fertility treatments for our last gasp hope of getting pregnant in 2012. If it doesn't happen after 3 rounds of IVF, then we're going to give up and relish our dog ownership & more money that we'll have.
We're going to go to Paris for my MIL's birthday, try out a new spot in England with the dog some time in early spring, in the summer, we're going to be celebrating my parents' 70th birthdays by going to Rehoboth beach for two weeks. I haven't done a beach week in years so I'm excited about it. We'll follow that with a few nights in NYC. I have tickets to the see hockey at the Olympics. And we're going to try to make it to Barcelona at some point for a 4 day weekend in the early autumn.
Pineapples I hope you find success with the IVF. I'm really hoping for you. Along with the other girls struggling with infertility issues.
For 2012 I'm hoping H and I can manage to have a more successful year then last relationship wise. We've come a long way but we still have lots to work on. I'm planning to go back to school to finish my degree. Summer we are hoping to have our church ceremony.
As far as travel we have nothing planned. DH might go to Germany on his own to see family. I would like to fly to south Georgia to see my Grandma. Maybe Florida to see a friend of DH's.
No TTC for us. That's still a 4 year away conversation. But I'm hoping we fill add a little kitten to our family. My grandma breeds Persians for showing and next summer it's my turn to finally have one. However, after that all future kitties will be from a shelter. This is just a bond I would like to have with my grandma while it's still available to me.
2012 Reading Challenge
Now Nesting from Chicago, IL My nail blog:
ktkl, I would seriously recommend couples therapy. If nothing else, it's a neutral forum for discussion. In my case, it didn't work out, because XH decided he would rather split up than go for therapy, but at least it had a resolution. And in the meantime, searching for someone who could meet with us in English at least gave me something to focus on, so I didn't feel so helpless.
Moving to a new apartment
Splitting up all of our assets
Filing for divorce on Oct 26
On the travel front:
Carnaval in Rio in February
Boyfriend is coming to Oslo at Easter!
And I'm seriously thinking of saving up to go to Greenland in September.
Realistically we'll both keep studying and looking for work while hoping for a miracle baby while I keep working on my health, body and fertility and look forward the future.
Loppy & Pineapples - I hope 2012 is the year for you re babies!
Ktkl - sorry to hear things are rough, I hope your time away helps.
well its kind of end of 2011 for us - but it'll cause big changes in 2012
we move into the new house next week - so that'll be HUGE for us
new daycare for G and I'll be moving from 3 to 4 days a week, makes me nervous just thinking about it, but it'll be good - and hopefully now that we have moved - a MUCH shorter commute - yay!
and I'm looking forward to a trip back to the states in July to see family
Getting a second car. DH passing the CPA exam and getting an awesome job so I can SAH. Trying to take minibini to Ethiopia to meet DH's family. Trying to stay married (easier said than done of late).
TTC is way WAY in the future for us. Like years. I got Mirena put in yesterday and that should help avoid any future surprises like minibini. Much as I love him, pregnancy was very hard on my body and our relationship and we were not ready to have a baby and no way are we ready for more anytime in the foreseeable future.