Trouble in Paradise
Motzie
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Wednesday Confessions.
I let H buy a kids toy for us the other day, or for our yet to be conceived spawn I should say. I came around the corner at Target and he was staring at this play and skoot pirate ship. It was not for an age range of any kids we were shopping for. I told him to put it in the cart. After the great Batcave debacle of 2009, I wasn't about to argue.
Also, our Christmas tree has been in the stand since Saturday night and we've yet to decorate it.
Re: Wednesday Confessions.
I got misty-eyed when Abby got her shots today. She was flipping out and I felt so bad that we had to go through it, but its for her own good.
The confession? I took a lot of pleasure in comforting her in her blanket afterward. She snuggled in and I just loved cuddling her to make her feel more safe. I don't like to see her in pain, but I do like the snuggle fests afterward.
It's officially taken me 5 days longer (so far) to read David Copperfield than it took me to read War & Peace. Granted, I haven't had a lot of reading time lately and I've been sick so I've had a difficult time concentrating when I DO get reading time... but I feel like a loser.
ETA: I just checked... David Copperfield is 950 pages while War & Peace was 1200+. I thought David Copperfield was a LOT shorter than W&P. I feel better about this now.
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
I have been rather unimaginative in my Christmas shopping this year. I just stuck to lists or cop-out gifts like candles. I almost feel like I should enclose an apology for my laziness.
I sent the little dude's mom a Christmas card & ornament. I suspect I'll live to regret this olive branch, but I have to see her soon (little dude's birthday is right after Christmas) and I know Mr. Bang wants us to get along and allegedly she has been reasonable lately. So we'll see. I'm trying to be the bigger person. (I am already the bigger person, literally speaking - this woman is tinier than BBE.)
I go through years like that. Try not to beat yourself up too much... things are on lists because those people truly want them. I'm also the person who REALLY wants gift cards because I don't get to shop for myself often and I enjoy it. Sometimes people just want the things they want! Don't feel badly!
This year was a mixed bag. I felt like I had some really thoughtful gifts for H and my sister (we do stockings for each other... and I think her's is pretty rockin' this year). But my mom... I feel like nothing was good enough.
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
I am a Christmas hater this year, and DH is too. I'm so worried about making time for everyone else, that I'm really struggling with it being more than just another day or craziness and exasperation.
Last night he said that Thanksgiving (which we hosted at our house) was the best Thanksgiving that he had ever had, and the only day in a really long time that he's been able to enjoy and relax.
lol! I'm sure you found it just as relaxing!
I'm dating again.
May I ask why you always spend the holidays with FI's parents?
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
Is this confession-worthy? Sign me up then.
One thing at a time, man.
Yeah that's right my name's Yauch!
LIKE
Agreed!
Man, tiny people are SO evil.
I honestly really enjoy seeing that trip at Christmas. It's low key and I really like his family. They have always welcomed me as if I was family and there's no pressure to spend tons of money on gifts or spend endless time together. There's a park right near FI's house that has a bunch of hiking trails so when we go, we take the dogs and hike a lot through the snow. It's small town PA, which reminds me of college. I get to see FI's friends, who I really like as well.
My family generally does the same thing every year. They pretend like Christmas is going to make everyone so close, they get together and spend hours and hours together drinking and scratching lottery tickets. They replaced presents with buying a huge roll of scratch tickets hoping every year to "win big" and then never even make half of their money back. There's so much disappointment and then it turns into a huge fight at the end of the night because everyone is drunk and upset. Not my scene at all.
I have never felt any pressure to go to see FI's family for Christmas. Every year we make a decision to go there together so it's not like FI assumes that's what we'll do. Did I give that impression? We equally see my family thoughout the year - just not on holidays. It seems like everyone in my family always treats me like the bad guy because I left a toxic situation when they didn't. They may not think that, but I guess that's how I feel. I still struggle with guilt for leaving, that I'm working on in therapy.
Yay!!
Is it the choir guy?
LOVE and want details!!!
My confession is weird - I have no idea why this is but I get fuss and broc mixed up.
OMG! I used to all the time back in the day too!
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
Nah, just her ... most tiny people I know are awesome, you and my tiny sister included. This woman packs a surprising amount of crazy into a very small person.
And I may be a little jealous of her tininess, especially after having two children and still having a six-pack. I have no babies and no six-pack.
All the awesome is sure to cause some confusion. I'm just glad I no longer have to try to remember people's old SN's to remember who they "really" are.
I logged into our checking account this morning and there was less than a $1 left. Whoops. So glad I'm getting paid tomorrow.
Actually, I would rather cook for 20 people than drive 4 hours on a holiday and be stressed over what time we are leaving, are we spending as much time as we should be and the guilt trips... oh the guilt.
My confession is that I'm totally being a baby about Xmas. H's plan is to see his family on the Eve and then go over like, ASAP on the day, and I want to take my sweet time and go over at noon.
When I say ASAP, he's like, hey we can totally bring breakfast. BIL & SIL are staying over @ MIL's house, so with the ages of their kids they're going to be up by 6. Joaquin doesn't even wake up til 7 most mornings, so we'd really be waking up, demolishing gifts as quickly as possible and climbing in the car without so much as a Lambie pic. Ughhh.
No choir guy. Maybe next quarter. lol. Thanks, guys! I need some fun.
You are prettier AND you have a soul. So I still think you win.