Trouble in Paradise
doglove
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Friday Vents/Confessions/AWs or whatever
My vent is that my e-ring is being held hostage at the jewelry store. It's getting those beads/speed bumps in them and they technically didn't promise it until tomorrow, but the lady told me they are literally waiting until the last minute to do all the work. I have a work party that I wanted to flash it around tonight and I won't be able to do that.
Yours?
Re: Friday Vents/Confessions/AWs or whatever
AW: Christmas shopping completed.
Not really a vent but I don't understand people putting reindeer antlers on their vehicles. I just saw them for the first time yesterday and I saw 2 more today.
Wait, whaaaaa? Last time around, or am I missing something?
I am wondering the same thing!!!
Oh, lmao, I meant to put to XH.
Bummer, DL!
Vent: I have a headache and feel like I might be getting sick again. For the third time in a month. So aggravating!
AW: Just got a much bigger Christmas bonus than usual. Yay!
Confession: I'm judging one of my FB friends. He and his wife took their daughter to the mall to have pics with Santa... the baby was 4 days old.
http://pandce.proboards.com/index.cgi#general
We're kind of going out.
I found myself nodding in agreement to something Toledo wrote.
Armageddon is near, folks.
No, dude, the end. Yikes.
We're kind of going out.
I am floored.
Her kids are 3 and 6 months, uh, not 14.
Yeah that's right my name's Yauch!
We're kind of going out.
This is sad on so many levels.
JFC. I can't even. My mind is blown.
Um, and this one too.
I got really annoyed the other night over this post on MM about people who refuse to do Santa with their kid. Not because some people chose not to, I don't care. It was because of the people who were getting SUPER fvcking dramatic about how they're STILL bitter and scarred from when they found out Santa wasn't real. For real, these people sounded like they needed therapy for it. I can't even wrap my head around being 30 something years old and not coming to terms with the fact that your parents were trying to do something fun and nice and that there is a big difference between malicious lies and white lies to keep the magic of Christmas intact.
I fvcking hate people sometimes. That post was a perfect example of why. Some people really need to learn to pull themselves up by their bootstraps.
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
In that vein, my Aw is that holyshit how can my cuteass tiny baby be turning one a week from tomorrow.
I don't even think she realizes the emotional damage/harm it will do to her kids if she stays with a man like that. I honestly have no words after reading what she has written.
So what happens if one day he meets a girl who he likes better? And he's the one who files for divorce after living a double life for so long? I'd rather take control over my own life when the kids are young instead of sit around and wait for the other shoe to drop when they're older.
SBP needs counseling for herself.
This is where my head exploded and I had to say something. What happens when her H does what my mom's father did and simply walks out 10 years from now to be with his latest mistress? Her kids will be a lot more fvcked up by that than by mom putting her foot down now, when they're very young.
I seriously want to know how people get all fvcking melodramatic about how divorce will affect their kids?! It's not like it's back in the 50's where it was unheard of and you didn't want your kid to be the only one in his class with divorced parents. And honestly, from what I gather about SBP... it's less about not wanting to hurt her kids and more about getting to keep up this perfect life facade she loves oh-so much.
I loved in that post how she was getting snarky with someone about how she wouldn't break up her family over an empty email account. UMMMM... how about the earring in the bed, the fact that this has happened before, the fact that he didn't bother to parent until you read the riot act to him (and now you gush about what a great father he is?!)?! But yeah, focus on the empty email address because that one's MUCH easier to explain away.
It'll be awesome when he brings home the HIV and she gets pregnant again.
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
Yeah, I can kinda understand considering it's her first Christmas.
But in my head, it would have been better if mom and dad were in the pic holding their own itty-bitty 5 day old baby. But they weren't. It was just the baby being held by Santa. And Santa has this "WTF, OMG am I gunna break it" look on his face.
http://pandce.proboards.com/index.cgi#general
And oh my God, how does a grown azz woman still feel all bitter and resentful over having to leave some friends in her early teens. At this point, don't you 1) realize why your parents did something, even though you didn't like it as the time and 2) realize that most of the people you were friends with at 14, you most likely wouldn't have been friends with them now ANYWAY?
ETA: It just smacks of someone who didn't have any real tragedies in her life and feels she needs one to validate herself. Fvck, I'm less bitter with MY mom than SHE is. That's sad.
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
The SBP stuff is ridiculous and horrible and I don't even know what to say about it.
And every time I read a post about Floyd's marriage, I get really, really sad. I know that nobody's going to jump on her like they are SBP, for a number of reasons (and I so hope I don't start some board war over this), but I just want her to get out of that shittastic marriage so badly. I just want to hug her.
I agree with everyone who pointed out that sbp can't single-handedly hold her marriage together. I would be shocked if her H doesn't walk out at some point before the kids are out of HS, considering his track record. So far she knows of two inappropriate hidden friendships with women, a secret email account, and an earring in the bed. Plus his love of keeping secrets and his "you can't tell me what to do!" immaturity. I'm sure there's more, and whether she tells him or not, her actions indicate she's willing to put up with it so why wouldn't he escalate?
I'm curious about the earring in the bed--she said it was a year ago, so was it while she was pregnant? While they were TTC?
I put big money on the husband staying in the marriage as long as possible because affairs are more of a turn on than legitimate girlfriends.
This is precisely what I was coming in here to ask. The kid is six months old, so conceived last Sept/Oct, so there's a great chance it was prior to conceiving him. And they've had the earring sitting on a bookshelf since then and her mom/MIL never said, "Hey, that's my earring!"
She knows it's not the mom's, that's why she brought it up, yet she left it sitting out as a reminder for the last year+ of what he does to her. Does she think he feels guilty when he sees it? Please.