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I am married to the Grinch!
Last night DH complained that he had to buy presents for any adults. He said that they are old enough, have jobs and can buy whatever they need - why should he have to get them a gift? I tried to explain that it's not about what people need but showing that you care.
His response was that if you don't know someone well enough to know what to give them that you shouldn't be giving them a present. I pointed out that we never know what to get his mother and he said it was a prime example - he shouldn't have to buy her a gift!!! His own father doesn't buy his mother gifts -- DH's sister buys gifts for MIL and then gives FIL a bill.
Then today, he is going to the bank. I asked him to get some cash for the daycare provider. He thinks we shouldn't have to tip because we haven't been there very long or if we do that we should take however much we would give if LO were there for a year and divide that by the number of weeks he was there and basically give them $27 and CHANGE to split among 3 people!!! Even though they care for our child for 9 to 10 hours per day and gave us a cute little mug with LO's picture on it.
He is a total Scrooge and Grinch.
And the worst part - he doesn't even have to buy gifts for anyone but me (which he plans to do on Christmas Eve even though a lot of what I wanted is not available locally and the thing I wanted most is now sold out). I pick out and purchase all of the other gifts!! All he had to do was drop some things in the mail today that were already wrapped and labeled.
Bah Humbug!
Re: I am married to the Grinch!
I married a Scrooge too, I know how you feel. DH is so cheap when it comes to presents. This is the first year that I am not working so all presents have to be bought with his paycheck so he has more say in how much we spend. We ONLY bought 3 gifts, for the nephews and niece, and only spent about $10-15 on each. I am so embarassed! I know it's the thought that counts, not the amount, but still, we can afford more than a $10 gift. In past years I just used my own money for gifts for my side of the family so we didn't look so cheap.
And what makes me really mad, he signed up for a Secret Santa gift exchange at his work and spent probably $30+ on small gifts for a person he barely knows.
And I'll be really surprised if I get anything for Christmas this year from him. I didn't get a b-day present this year either. I don't even have a job and I still managed to buy him a gift to open on Christmas.
Aspen Marley ~ 12.22.11
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Me three.
When I told H what his mom wanted and the cost his first response was " can we just get her the bracelet". I was like no you don't buy someone an empty charm bracelet.
For me its annoying because H never exchanged gifts and for the first few years of our marriage told me not buy for his family so I didn't. When we moved back I started buying for his mom and sisters but thats like pulling teeth ( see example above). H hates buying gifts or being involved in it at all. The only gift he gets is mine as well.
Now certain people mention when they don't get gifts which annoys me but thats another post.