Trouble in Paradise
Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Re: Bad first impression.
This. My father used his from Home Depot when he needed legal advice on adoption and the like. And I can tell you sure as shiit that it had nothing to do with signing up for the medical insurance. My father is a tricare eligible 20 year navy retiree. He doesn't need home depot's shitty insurance. lol He certainly wouldn't pay for it.
Click me, click me!
Exactly.
I called it when the Mr. was hospitilized. It's not my insurance--I have insurance but that's separate.
This was calling and having a nice-lady set me up w/ a local counselor and getting me 20 visits for free.
ok, I only read like the first two pages of responses, so forgive me if this has been said already, but this whole instant turn around "I just need a schedule" doesn't sound like the same you as yesterday. And I might just be projecting my own experience here, but I imagine at least some of this is your H talking.
Working through depression (or whatever the hell you feel like calling what you're going through) isn't a "fake it till you make it" kind of thing. Facing your feelings and facing who you are is f-ing hard and takes a lot of the "journaling-sitting-in-a-park-thinking-about-your-feelings-reaching-out-to-people-crying-in-the-bathtub" kind of work. Delegating your chores and working out might fix things for a while, but until you really figure out why deep down when you're having a tough time, you believe you're a "horrible person," the problems aren't going to go away.
If I can figure out how to get into counselling for little or no cost to me I am going to be more than open to the idea of talking to someone. I have spent more than my fair share of time crying and breaking down over my childhood. I have locked it up an throwing away the key, Even in counselling, I will NEVER talk about all of the things that happened in my childhood. It's something I have never even talked to my husband about. It's just something I feel is better left where it is. I know that this isn't going to settle well with the rest of the people in this forum, but that is my choice and after I finally stopped crying myself to sleep every night I just vowed to keep it buried.
What I would be willing to do in therapy is talk about ages 16 and up, that is the part that really bothers me, but isn't bad enough to need to be "buried", but it is where all the mistakes were actually mine and not just mistakes that people made me believe were mine.
Trust me I have been taking in all of the positive comments that people have been writing and I really do know something needs to be done, I just can't drop my whole life right this minute like suggested. People don't know how that would effect me right now. I will be looking into my options when it comes to a therapist and finding a therapist that I feel works well for me within these next 2 weeks.
You haven't even spoken to your H about it? Yeah... sooooo healthy.
And you can't drop your life this minute to go to therapy?! What happens if you no longer HAVE a life BECAUSE you didn't seek therapy. You sound like you're getting close.
Currently Reading: Don Quixote by Miguel De Cervantes
Ok sorry I must have missed that. I will look through mine while I am here today. Actually, I need to make a call to HR today anyway. It wouldn't hurt to talk to someone about all this medical crap I've been going through anyway, it's been stressful on it's own. So this is basically someone that I will talk to from my company that will set me up with a counselor of their choice? Or will I be able to choose from a list?
Exactly what I just said. It isn't 100% what someone wants me to do so they are going to criticize me about it. I don't want to talk about that part of my life, now that I am older I understand NONE of it was my fault. To me, I don't think it is worth bringing up memories from a painful part of my life. I don't think that is productive or do I feel like it's worth feeling like crap over something that I don't feel like crap about now.
Why should I have to agree or disagree with something I just said I was going to do? I spend time on here while I'm at work answering phones and doing other office stuff. I don't even take a lunch break throughout the day (even though I can) because that is just more money I'm going to lose at the end of the week.
aN EAP (if your company has one) is a 'company' that YOUR company pays to provide assistance to employees.
If there is one, your company pays, say $5k a year so that whenever one of their employees needs, they can talk to one of the counselors that's employed by the EAP. The EAP also will have tons of outside resources--they are good at hooking people up w/ in-plan shrinks/doctors/etc and they tend to have lots of information on things like support groups that are local to you.
My EAP set me up w/ a social worker/counselor and also pointed me toward support groups in my area. They also have things like substance abuse programs
I love the idea of going to a doctor and telling him what we will and will not consider and treat. Doesn't that sound smart?
"Hi Doctor so I'm coming in today to discuss my headaches but I refuse to discuss my patient history nor will we consider that the fall I took when I was 10 might have something to do with it nor do I want to hear that I have a family history of migraines."
::sigh::
Click me, click me!
um point taken....sometimes it just has to be dumbed down for me.
Thanks, I found the info for it. My company just started offering it.If anyone else is interested they also offer a personal health coach.
And you just put yourself down.
Stop.
I know you don't want to talk about it- I understand. But you HAVE to! This affects you in ways you don't even realize.
I'd be willing to bet money your "wild days" were influenced by your childhood.