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Re: Ironic but so wonderfully relieving
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These are the times I think maybe forced sterilization isn't such a bad idea after all. Holy batsh!t crazy.
So wait, did your BF know you sent that picture? Were you like, "Hey boyfriiiiiend...I wanna get back at my ex. Can you whip out your weiner and let me snap a picture real quick? I want to send it to him to HURT HIS FEELINGS!"
Or, did you have a picture and think, "I know how to piss you off, you toolbox! How about a picture of the horse I'm currently riding!"
Either way, weird!
You sound really immature. Just reading how you had to tell us all the lies your stbxh was saying AND THEN you clarifying for us that they were lies....
Why do you have to justify yourself? If they are lies who cares? You know the truth and that's what is important.
But then the penis thing? Really??? That is not funny. That's dumb as fvuuuuck (now the Nest removes the word even when you use a v instead of the u??).
You're clearly not over your stbxh. What he thinks about you shouldn't matter.
For future reference, the best approach here would have been to ignore him.
Nothing says I'm happy and moving on like texting a penis pic
OP - you need help, real, serious help. Possibly even inpatient. I really hope you can absorb some of what's being said to you and get the help you need. This is beyond the type of support the nest can offer.
I've been seriously considering in-patient but I cannot take the time off from work or I will lose my apartment and my car because I'm just barely scraping to make ends meet. So until I can bank some vacation time or at least enough sick leave to take a few days, I have to keep on going through my days as is.
Uh, yeah. STBXH's was just a head. No joke. BF's is large and in charge.
You will lose all of those things anyway, if you continue like you are. You have to take care of yourself first, really.
Actually, no. The past 3 days in a row, I've been straight/sober. I'm trying to do better. I was just so angry and hurt by him that I snapped.
Well it's good to know you have 3 days under your belt. I would try to keep it going because alcohol and weed are really going to mess you up if you're on anti-depressants.
It might be causing you to act nuts right now. Either the withdraw from stopping or your brain trying to even it self out without those chemicals.
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Would you be able to get some financial help from a family member and use some FMLA time?
Even one week would help you out.
At this rate - it's just going to keep getting worse until you snap.
I hope you feel better soon. You are done with this man. Let him go. Move forward.
You are one of the lucky ones who has no ties.
If you don't want people to think that you do drugs, then maybe you should not behave in such a manor as to suggest that you are high.
this falls under abuse?
It's okay though, because she's not doing the hard drugs.
I actually think it does to be honest.
I am just amused that you think that most female porn actresses orgasm on film.
What the what? You sent a picture of your BF's what to your ex? Yeah, guessing you didn't get the response you'd hoped. Like a PP said, that picture is likely now circulating your entire former group of friends, and the rumors will be flying around even more now. I would have guessed by this behavior you were about 16. I'm shocked you're 27. Most adults don't behave like this, you really do need therapy.
Agreed! You are well quit of this guy. Enjoy your life with your new BF and work on yourself.
Do you have short term disability insurance? You would be covered under this if you went in patient to a mental health facility. I second the other poster that said you could use FMLA if applicable to your company.
Lurker here. Just wanted to chime in to say that you're entitled to unpaid leave under FMLA if you go in-patient. This means, even if you don't have any sick days, your job can't fire you if you take time off for health reasons - just ask your supervisor or HR about the company's FMLA policies, they should be able to give you the details on how to apply for this type of leave.
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Wooooooooow.
This sounds like something you'd read on the front page of the CrazyBitch Gazette.
Funny? Hilarious? Yeah, if you were in the movies.
I understand how it might feel great to "stick it to the man", but honey, that was NOT the way to do it.
I can't really say anything else that hasn't already been said numerous times.
Good luck.
I'm really sorry OP, but what you did is not funny in the least.
In fact, it makes perfect strangers on the internet worry for your mental health.
I can kind of understand wanting to "get back at" your XH and try to hit'em where it hurts so to speak. However, you probably didn't even phase him. In stead he has gotten under your skin so deeply that you are behaving irrationally and giving him all the ammunition he needs to point and say, "see? I'm glad we're divorced. She is insane!". Also, it would make those rumors that are floating around a little more believable. You do see that right?
Take FMLA at your job and get some real, in-patient help. You really can't afford to keep on like this, and the next round may be danger to yourself.
Since this message has gone around TB and likely the whole interwebs by now I think I'll comment.
You do realize this was SEXUAL HARASSMENT and you could face legal ramifications for that, right? Regardless of the crazy factor in thinking it was funny/justified/effective it was simply stupid. That sh*t could come back to bite you in the a$$ big time.
i fixed it for you.
AA and NA are free. People there have been where you are and understand. They also know the way out of this mess. GO! No excuses. Just GO!