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The mess after Sex
So my DH and I used condoms and I was on the pill before we were married. (yes we had sex before marriage). So now that we are married we don't use condoms anymore and now after the DEED is done the mess that comes afterwards grosses me out. Before he would just wrap it up in the rubber and toss it. Now we have to grab napkins and I have to try and position myself so it doesn't leak into my butt and i get that gross feeling (TMI, right?) It really ruins the mood, then I have to run to the bathroom and let the rest leak out.
Does this happen to everyone else? Or is it just me? Is it because I am on birth control still that makes it so semen can't fully go into the vaginal cavity so it just falls out? (remember I'm new at the semen insertion)
Please, Tell me I'm not a freak.
Re: The mess after Sex
A vagina is the same as any other vessel -- it can only hold so much fluid.
Keep a towel nearby to wipe up with; make sure you also pee right after having sex --- wipe well and you should avoid the infamous wet spot as well.:)
It's a wet spot. It'll dry. And you can wash the sheets.
Have wild and crazy sex, woman! Don't worry about the mess!
I was just as confused when this happened to me the first time I had sex w/o a condom! I thought something wasn't right because the guy would be confused if I got up to go clean up and I thought "what, am I the only one who's ever done this after sex?"
At any rate, I hate it. I can only lay there for so long w/o having to go into the bathroom and clean up. And even then, it's like a mad dash to get there because it drips out down my leg. ugh. I'm so grossed out by seamen.
Then stay away from Navy bases.
(sorry, I couldn't resist. It is spelled semen.)
haha! oops! I knew that, but I sometimes just type and post without thinking.
I go to the bathroom and push it out. I can't stand to lay there and let it drip.
I didn't realize you could push it out until I sneezed one time after sex! I needed tissues for both ends! Sometimes I envy guys and their mess-free pain-free sex.
ok good at least not abnormal lol! But I stayed in the bathroom until I finally could pee. Another question is this why do some ladies douche is this used to help clean you afterward? I've also heard some ladies get infections down there bc of too much moisture....is the semen capable of this?. I've heard suggestions of take a bath afterward and soak so everything comes out. Does pushing it out and peeing have the same affect?
Please for the love of God, don't douche or try to otherwise wash the inside of your vagina. It is a self-cleaning instrument and the mucous membrane is very delicate. You don't want to upset your pH balance.
I can't stand that companies still try to market douches to women and prey on their ignorance and self-consciousness. They're worse than useless and frequently cause infection.
I second this. The inside of your vagina is self cleaning so don't mess with it at all. The moisture issue is all on the outside, so just clean up the outside well with a clean cloth and you'll be fine.
Douches have no use anywhere near your vagina - human or otherwise!
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If the mess is that big of a deal then just go back to condoms.
I feel bad for of the poor, unsuspecting (or suspecting) husbands whose natural body fluid grosses out their wives. If our men said that some part of us grossed them out we would be completely offended!
It's just semen. It carries his sperm. It's a natural thing. Get over it.
I guess swallowing is totally out of the question huh?
But seriously, I just don't get where those that were surprised by this thought semen "went". I was new at this at one point in my life too but I did understand that what goes up must come back down.
Really? My husband knows I can't stand semen - I think it smells funny and I dislike how I'm moist and sticky after sex. He's not offended that I get up and wash it off. He gets up and cleans up his penis after sex too - I don't get offended that he wants to wash my fluids off either. I don't see bodily fluids as part of me, really.
To each his own I guess.
You can also use it as a face mask, makes the skin nice and tight! Why pay for botox when you can recycle sperm?
I'm with 'Alpine Eng...' this whole topic has been priceless!!...and the turkey baster,..well, i've had to dry my eyes!!!
To read this thread one would think that men ejaculate a couple of pints at a time ,...well perhaps they do 'everything is bigger in America', but here in Europe things are thankfully average as in about one teaspoonful at a time.
Personally, we keep a roll of kitchen towells by the bed and it's simple to fold one up and apply it to her *** as I withdraw, so everthing is contained while we laugh and chat and until she eventually gets up and makes her leasurely way to the loo.........
Thank you everyone for your advice!! We had been doing the towel thing. Putting something near the bed and of course afterwards me rushing to the bathroom and going pee! I would like to tell everyone I have a minor in comprehensive sex Ed which is teaching sex Ed in schools so it's weird to me that some posters think I'm a complete idiot when it comes to sex but I am very informed!! I know that what goes up must come down I was just making sure I was not the only one who was doing this the "wrong" way. Or if there were any cool tricks to to getting rid of the wet spot.
I appreciate all the responses! Thanks again,