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Grrrr
My bff's boyfriend was a total douchebag on NYE. He kept referring to my DH as a p*ssy for not drinking as much as the other people. He was calling everyone names. He was nothing but vulgar and nasty. He was a *** to my bff. Even though I have a fear of big dogs and his dog was biting people (not breaking the skin but biting nonetheless), he refused to put his dog up. My bff said she was going to put the dog outside and he started talking down to her about it being HIS dog, etc.
Sadly, him being a jerk is more the rule than the exception. I've offered my bff a place to stay. About a year ago, I encouraged her to really examine her relationship. I have told her in the past that he is not good for her.
This afternoon I got a text from the bf saying that he was sorry if he made me mad. So far I haven't responded. I know that he sent the text because my bff told him he needed to apologize.
I really want to send something back saying I'm used to him being a *** and I don't know why bff is even with him.
In the end, I love my bff too much to do anything to make things harder on her. I'm just reminding her that she always has a place here if she needs it.
Re: Grrrr
I'm sorry. The situation sucks, you know that. There's nothing you can do about it, you know that too. I guess that's why it sucks.
I have a good friend who is married to the world's biggest toolbox-douchelord combo. And she is just chomping at the bit to TTC too. I never thought she'd double down on this turdpile, but there you have it.
She has never said why she stays with him. I know she has a problem with they way he acts. She apologizes for the way that he acts or the things he's said. She calls me crying because of things he's done. I've told her that he's emotionally abusive.
She's a great catch. Smart, funny, sweet, cute.
On the other hand, I stayed with my ex-husband when he was abusive. So I know that she might not even know why she stays.
can you at least snap the crotchout of the passive-voice-non-apology.
Because really, he shouldn't be apologizing IF he made you mad, he should be apologizing that he made you mad and for his bad behavior.