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oh, KB, I hope you know how loved you are here. {{((HUGS))}}
Ahh, no I'm not familiar with Abby. I thought maybe the unders changed color or something exciting.
"Once I got a bath bomb that, once exploded, filled the tub with confetti. Little sharp metallic pieces of confetti. The product description said nothing about confetti. Oh look, there's a tiny, sharp metallic blue star stabbing me in the labia. HOW RELAXING. " - NoisyPenguin
Sorry to hear that Kristen.
maybe she should be a morman and then she could have magic underwear.
(mucho, not KB, I'm not sure magic underwear would help KB, although they are magic...)
"Once I got a bath bomb that, once exploded, filled the tub with confetti. Little sharp metallic pieces of confetti. The product description said nothing about confetti. Oh look, there's a tiny, sharp metallic blue star stabbing me in the labia. HOW RELAXING. " - NoisyPenguin
The magic underwear might kill her libido, she might be relieved.
KB, I'm so sorry things are bad. I'll let you motorboat me when we GTG in NYC...does that brighten your spirits?
Mucho likes purple nails and purple cupcakes
I'm sorry Kristen.
Apparently Kevin's mom wants us to send some sort of engagement announcement to massive amounts of family that we're not inviting to the wedding. That's rude, right? Is there any way around this?
ETA: Now I feel like an ass for talking about wedding stuff, I wouldn't have mentioned it except I thought you weren't going to say any more KB.
KB- take everyone out of it and pretend it's just you. Because ultimately, you have to be able to wake up with yourself and feel authentic. Happy. Whole. Yes, there are other people in your life you love, care about, etc, but everyone else will deal with whatever you decide and be just fine. What will people say? Will it matter? If you live a life where you don't feel you're getting what you need or want, you're not going to be able to help feeling resentful and that shows up on people. It permeates everything you do. So, as Pauly D says, "Do you. Do. You." If staying feels truly authentic, that's what it is, but if it isn't, disappointing people isn't the worst thing in the world- they'll be fine. And it's not really up to them to be disappointed.
November- E is older than Miles and could sit in his own shiit every day. Be grateful daycare does this deed for you. I wish I had that situation. I can only hope being in camp 5x a week this summer will help him. Or sitting in shiit will become bothersome to him.
Oh KB, I know that limbo well. I hadn't made up my mind until I said "I think I'm going to leave N" out loud to a friend. Then it clicked and I had perfect clarity. I hope you find that moment soon.
Don't worry about what others might say. This is about you. No one can say shiit about whatever you do because they're not you. You deserve to be happy. So does your husband. You both deserve to be with people who 100% want to be in this. You're both worthy of whatever you need to feel loved. If you can't get that from each other, there's no shame in it.
Husbands should be like Kleenex: Soft, strong, and disposable.
I believe the knot etiquette would agree this is rude. Tell her you're going all emily post and just ca't bring yourself to do it.
Yeah, no.
Eff that. I'm not going to be the bad guy who tells his mom no. He can handle that. I told him the only way was to invite them (and be prepared for the cascade effect of 'oh if you invite x then you have to invite y too!')
*hugs KB*
*Cops a feel*
You're welcome.
Love you.
I hope you don't really think that. You're not staying in a bad relationship with a douchebag and playing little immature games with him to try to get some kind of upper hand that's impossible with a guy who doesn't give a shiit.
Youre in a hard situation because you just don't know if the good you have is good enough for longterm happiness. I think a lot of people question that. When I almost married my ex, I had nagging thoughts about our compatibility and what I could live with and what I couldn't...and I tried to talk myself into just being able to love enough for both of us. I sort of knew I deserved more/better but I was too afraid to start over and really find someone more compatible on all levels. Granted he was also a diick where YH isn't but whatever. Point is, I would've married him and been miserable. He cheated and broke up with me but I think of how close I came to being in a marriage with someone I would just feel mediocre being with and I'm so thankful that didn't happen. It takes a strong person to even consider the alternative in a serious way like you are.
A girl on my local with 2 kids M & O's age came out to her H a few months ago and then her parents. She thought her kids would take everything so hard but they're handling it awesome. Her parents not so much but she said she's never felt such relief in all her life to finally be living the life she feels she was meant for. But she didn't know she was gay until she fell in love with a woman. She just knew something didn't feel passionate in her marriage. Anyway- you only get one life and it's not that long. You deserve to be happy.
Not anywhere close.
You're kidding, right? That is so far from the truth it isn't funny. I am so, so sorry you're going through this, honestly.
I bet her FUPA's name is Shane, like the gunslinger/drifter of literature.--HappyTummy
Gah, Kristen, my heart breaks for you. That feeling... that unsettled feeling, about anything, is just the worst.
I really think Moo is on to something with saying things out loud. I feel like that definitely creates clarity.
Anyway, I am sorry. And you are not Floyd. And, Pauly D's words of wisdom in this thread are just awesome, for so many reasons.
For less then ten cents a day, you can feed a hungry child.