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Re: Friday's Here!!!! Yay!!!!!
Either they do and they don't care or they don't know that and don't understand why "you're being so sensitive".
My ILs told Bill to press me for a prenup because I was a poor teacher. Well, they knew what LA teachers' made but had no idea that TX actually pays much better (still 37th in the nation but I managed okay). I told Bill to casually mention how much I make. They still think they're better than me, but that doesn't bother me quite as much as it used to.
Wow Lauren she really "disowned" her own brother?? Has your DH seen the post? I'm sorry you have to deal with that and I pray the relationship gets better. I can't imagine not having a relationship with my BIL, he really has become like my brother and I hope you get the same experience.
Chelsea - Best of luck! Hopfully it'll be a good trip.
They are fixing the roof on our building this whole week. It's really giving me a headache today.
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Lauren- Some people just act like people don't exist once they've done something disapproving (in their eyes), i.e. her only having one brother. I think it's weird as heck that people do this or try to erase history. Or trying to show someone their place, or their lack of a place. Not that I felt the need to reach out last month but yes I often wish we had a better relationship. My grandma and DH are pretty tight and while she was down the week before Christmas and I was working and he was home, they hung out and did all sorts of stuff together. I was jealous for a moment that he has that with my family but I don't have that with his family but I can't even be alone with my MIL.
I'm glad you and Chris have that book to look back on (not that you don't have the memories) but whenever you start to doubt things, you have it there in black and white. Or they do stuff like his sister did and you are reminded once again why you are where you are.
What I don't understand about my MIL is that supposedly her IL's weren't very nice to her and she was crying several years ago about how she didn't want to be that way. She didn't want to be the out-law. But yet, where are we? So I think some grow from their own experience and become in-loves while others think "Hey, I had to go through hell as a DIL, so my D/SIL will too."
That's what I worry about. DH's brother already has one child and if I read correctly I think #2 is on the way. I would think that grandkids/nieces and nephews would change things but I guess not. I just know that I would not want our future kids around the negativity. I can't erase the hurt that they have caused my DH, but I can do my best to make sure that our future family isn't hurt by it.
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The sad part is that this is nothing new to him. Growing up neither of them would admit he was their brother in school. They would say he was just some kid living in their house. I was so upset when I read this (he wrote it in a book of stories & poems - more in a way to say that you can't choose your family, but that's he's lucky to have another chance with the family he was about to marry into). DH didn't see it because he has defriended all of them, I debated about telling him but wanted to be honest (because I was so upset after I read it). He said he wasn't surprised and that's what I need to remember when I think about reaching out again.
Jaymi - You're so right. I think that's what was getting to me most was my family with DH during the holidays and wishing I could say the same between me and his family (or even between him and his family). As much as that book makes me cry (both happy and angry tears), it is such a great window on to what his life was like growing up. It reminds me to be so thankful for my family everyday!
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My heart just broke. I can't imagine growing up like this.
What is everyone doing this weekend?
Tonight, I'll be out late due to basketball, but tomorrow we're going to the Caravaggio exhibit at the Kimbel and it ends on Sunday.
I'm mad at myself right now. The little wheat rolls that I bought to eat my sandwiches on this week had white moldy spots on them so I didn't get to have all of my healthy lunch like I wanted. It also meant that I had to go down to the cafeteria to find something. Double yuck.
This is my position on DH's paternal side of the family. No one was there to "mama bear" for him while growing up, but you better believe he has one now!