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Emily523 · January 2012

pokepoke27:
Tofumonkey:
pokepoke27:

I'm really quite miffed that my best friend is almost refusing to buy a BM dress for my wedding. I know that there is a lot of uncertainty surrounding my wedding ATM, of which she is partially aware, but that's not the point.

The wedding (if I am still having it) is in June, and she has until probably the end of April to save up for a dress (oh - did I mention I got a dress for my little sister at GOODWILL for $6???). But, since she has a dress "that will work" she would rather use it (even though it's ugly) than save up a few extra dollars (we're talking $40 - $50 at most in 4 months) to buy one that actually looks nice. Oh - and did I mention that I told her that if she found a dress for more than about $10 or so that I'd help her out with paying for any alterations it needs? But she's got the money to spend $40 on TWO new pairs of panties. And she's got a collection of designer underwear that could rival any Hollywood princess.

I know that I shouldn't judge how other people spend their money and I know that I might not even be having the wedding - and it's not like I'm expecting her to actually spend the money on a dress until I know for sure the wedding is happening. But, really, you claim to be SOOOO EXCITED for my wedding but you won't commit to buying a dress for it? Even though you spent about the amount of money you would spend on a dress on UNDERWEAR?? Yeah, I take offense at that.

/end rant lol

Why would she commit to buying a dress she doesn't like for a wedding that you might not even have?
Because for 1 - we're still working under the assumption that we're having the wedding in June. For 2 - as I stated in my original post - I wouldn't have her actually buy the dress until I'm 100% sure that we ARE having the wedding in June. For 3 - it wouldn't be a dress she doesn't like. I've told my girls that they can pick out the style and shade of blue that they want. The problem with the dress she currently owns is that both of us think it's ugly, but she doesn't want to spend any money so she is going to wear it.
So yeah, I reserve the right to be annoyed that she told me she can't afford any dress at all from anywhere because she is broke, and almost in the same breath told me she spent $40 on designer underwear. Like I said in my original post - the dress I got my sister cost me $6 - but she can't even be bothered to look in the second hand shops. She just can't be bothered with it. I think most people would be annoyed at that attitude.

I haven't been around here for a couple weeks, but I flame that. I wouldn't buy a dress in January for a wedding that just might be happening in June. It's none of your business how much she spends on panties, either. That's just silly.

ashleynicoles · January 2012

YAY! You are SO close! I can't believe how quickly it seemed to go.

rpic81:
frlcb:
rpic81:
My days on maternity leave consist of me waking up around 10, watching about three hours of crappy TV, doing a tiny bit of housework, usually going for a short walk or to a cafe, watching more TV and nesting. H has been helping with the cleaning and cooking and not complaining. I seriously have zero motivation to actually get stuff done. I'm so lazy that I've found I'm quite content to sit on the couch all day long. I feel a bit guilty about the extent of my laziness.
Don't feel guilty, soon enough you will be wishing for time to be lazy back You are so close!

pokepoke27 · January 2012

Emily523:
pokepoke27:
Tofumonkey:
pokepoke27:

I'm really quite miffed that my best friend is almost refusing to buy a BM dress for my wedding. I know that there is a lot of uncertainty surrounding my wedding ATM, of which she is partially aware, but that's not the point.

The wedding (if I am still having it) is in June, and she has until probably the end of April to save up for a dress (oh - did I mention I got a dress for my little sister at GOODWILL for $6???). But, since she has a dress "that will work" she would rather use it (even though it's ugly) than save up a few extra dollars (we're talking $40 - $50 at most in 4 months) to buy one that actually looks nice. Oh - and did I mention that I told her that if she found a dress for more than about $10 or so that I'd help her out with paying for any alterations it needs? But she's got the money to spend $40 on TWO new pairs of panties. And she's got a collection of designer underwear that could rival any Hollywood princess.

I know that I shouldn't judge how other people spend their money and I know that I might not even be having the wedding - and it's not like I'm expecting her to actually spend the money on a dress until I know for sure the wedding is happening. But, really, you claim to be SOOOO EXCITED for my wedding but you won't commit to buying a dress for it? Even though you spent about the amount of money you would spend on a dress on UNDERWEAR?? Yeah, I take offense at that.

/end rant lol

Why would she commit to buying a dress she doesn't like for a wedding that you might not even have?
Because for 1 - we're still working under the assumption that we're having the wedding in June. For 2 - as I stated in my original post - I wouldn't have her actually buy the dress until I'm 100% sure that we ARE having the wedding in June. For 3 - it wouldn't be a dress she doesn't like. I've told my girls that they can pick out the style and shade of blue that they want. The problem with the dress she currently owns is that both of us think it's ugly, but she doesn't want to spend any money so she is going to wear it.
So yeah, I reserve the right to be annoyed that she told me she can't afford any dress at all from anywhere because she is broke, and almost in the same breath told me she spent $40 on designer underwear. Like I said in my original post - the dress I got my sister cost me $6 - but she can't even be bothered to look in the second hand shops. She just can't be bothered with it. I think most people would be annoyed at that attitude.
I haven't been around here for a couple weeks, but I flame that. I wouldn't buy a dress in January for a wedding that just might be happening in June. It's none of your business how much she spends on panties, either. That's just silly.

Please point out to me where I said I wanted her to buy the dress in January. Because I can point out to you where I've said more than once that I don't want her to actually buy the dress now.

" and it's not like I'm expecting her to actually spend the money on a dress until I know for sure the wedding is happening."

"For 2 - as I stated in my original post - I wouldn't have her actually buy the dress until I'm 100% sure that we ARE having the wedding in June."

And, correct me if I'm wrong, but FFFC means Friday FLAME FREE Confessions. So, a chance for people to admit to things and not get flamed.

I never said anything to her about the panties or anything. I told her it's fine if she wears the dress. But that doesn't change the fact that I feel hurt that she's "too broke" to spend money on a dress for me but not "too broke" to spend money on designer panties. It also kind of hurts that she won't even take the time to scour second hand clothes shops with me to find something that isn't hideous. And uh, it kind of is my business if she outright tells me about them. It's not like I went snooping through her internet history or anything.

snowyowl · January 2012

Confession - Throughout the week, I'm always thinking "oh, I should mention this in FFFC!" Then as soon as the post pops up, I can't think of anything. It annoys me. I want to confess stuff!

Tofu - When I read your post I was wondering I could think of a healthy alternative snack. Then I thought about when I want something salty and DH is like, "have an apple!" and I want to scream. He's only trying to help, since I'm always saying I need to eat healthier, but we just need to find our own way. My best tip is to eat well before grocery shopping. It makes it so much easier to be holier than thou to my future self about what I should be eating. Pshhh, I don't need to buy frozen french fries, I shouldn't be eating that anyway! Then I can be as mad at myself as I want later, but I am not going to go out to the grocery store at 8pm to get some when I'm craving them for dinner :P

knittknack · January 2012

MrsBini10:
Thing is I handle our budget and I know we really can't afford anything extra that isn't an absolute necessity. So I shouldn't have bought it and I know it. That's why I'm hiding it.

How would you feel if he did that to you?

notknitty · January 2012

poke- just ignore these people. They looooove some good drama - especially the kind that they can hide behind and just say they were only being 'helpful' and 'honest'.

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