Trouble in Paradise
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For those who asked for update....wish it were better...

He will be in Miami for several months. He deserpately needs the facial surgery since every bone is broken, but they can not do it until the other more serious complications clear. The long term prognosis is good in the fact that he probably will not be paralyzed, but they are worried about the brain bleed ( which has increased today) and how bad the head trauma is.

His neck and skull will have to be fused.

But , she stressed that the immediate issues are dire. He may not make it. The blood clots and brain bleeds are very bad and dangerous.As of today, He is now fighting an infection and has a fever of 103. He almost died the other day, and he still is not out of the woods yet.

I'm not feel so happy right now...:(



Re: For those who asked for update....wish it were better...

  • I'm so sorry, Mags. He has a really hard road ahead of him.

    Who is with him? Does he have an SO? I hope that she is also getting the support that she needs. This has to be so tough on both of them- as well as everyone else who cares about him.

    (((((big hugs)))))

    I agree with everything that muddled said. You should listen to her. -ESDReturns
  • His mom just rented an apartment close to the hospital...his dad and sister had to return to NJ for work and will go down regularly...

    the gf is a CUUUUUUNT!!!! and that whole story is just sickening. She has not called, visited, or contacted anyone...

    (my guess is and maybe it is just my evil thinking ways, but i think she had somethingto do with it!@!!!)



  • Oh no, I'm very sorry to hear this Mags. 
  • Aw mags, that sucks so, so bad. Right Hug Big zombie hug for you. I'll send up some T&P for you, him, and his family and friends.

    Oh, FFS.
  • I'm so sorry mags, I wish it was better news. Your friend is in my t&ps.
  • I am so sorry to hear this.  ***MAGS***

    Good thoughts and prayers going to the family and your friend.

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  • I'm so sorry to hear this Mags.  Hugs to you and T&P to him and his family and friends.
  • hugs back...

     



  • That sounds horrible and dicey indeed.

    I'll keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.

  • I'm glad his mom is able to be with him.

    Do you really think she had something to do with this? Or are you just looking for a place to direct your anger?  I can't believe she hasn't visited him!!

    I agree with everything that muddled said. You should listen to her. -ESDReturns
  • i just think all the circumstances are really weird...and why wouldnt she visit him, call him, ask her family if they need anything...etc...she lives in florida...that is who he was visiting when this happened...

    i just think something is fishy...it doesnt add up

     



  • That is weird. It's not even like she has to go out of her way or spend any money to check in on him. SO strange. I bet his mom hates her too.
    I agree with everything that muddled said. You should listen to her. -ESDReturns
  • i do know what they thought of her before this happened,,,they had only been dating for about 6 months and it was along distance thing....but i do know what they think of her now!


  • I am so sorry, Mags. Thoughts and prayers are with you and your friend.
  • I am so sorry. T&P your way!
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  • Lurker here..I just wanted to say my thoughts and prayers are with you all. My BF was also hit by a vehicle in 2009 and thank God after almost 5 months in the hospital made a miraculous recovery, Dealing with a traumatic accident such as this is especially hard. We were also only together 6 months when it happened and he had no family here so that made things even harder. I was there when he was hit but for some reason didn't cross the road when he did.

     I read about this mans accident the other day and it brought back so many rawmemotions. I can not begin to think how sad his mom is feeling, but please let her know that even though things seem so dire miracles do happen. I look at my BF every day and am still in awe that he is ok. There was a time I honestly didn't think there was a chance he would make it, but he  made it through 17 surgeries and multiple dangerous infections and several  blood clots.He just had his final surgery last month.

    The one thing I want to stress is tell her to talk to him. Even though T was heavily sedated they told me to talk to him as much as I could so I did. And the day he got out of the hospital we were talking about the whole experience and I mentioned some of the things I said and he looked at me and said "I remember that"...The nurses said they can hear talking and it might make her feel better too, I know it did me. 

    Also they may have a trauma victims support group at that hospital that she could check into. A social worker should be able to help her with the info if it is available.

    I will be praying for this man and his family.

     

    (I know not everyone believes, so I apologize if that offends you )

     

  • thank you for sharing that with me...

    it is good to hear that someone with similar issues made it through



  • So sorry you're going through this right now.  T&Ps heading your way.
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  • So sorry to hear this. {{{{HUGS}}}}
  • I'm so sorry. ((hugs))
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