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Hump Day Wednesday Confessions/Randoms

I may change my nest name.  Delete everything and start over, to maintain some semblance of privacy out there *waves vaguely*.  I use this nickname for too many things.  Any suggestions?

This weekend will be The Hunt For Pants That Fit And Are Cheap But Cute At The Same Time.

 

 

 

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Re: Hump Day Wednesday Confessions/Randoms

  • imagegaultry:

    I may change my nest name.  Delete everything and start over, to maintain some semblance of privacy out there *waves vaguely*.  I use this nickname for too many things.  Any suggestions?

    This weekend will be The Hunt For Pants That Fit And Are Cheap But Cute At The Same Time.

     

     

     

    Hey! I'm doing the same thing! I actually have to go into the office next week and have no pants that fit.

     

    image "Evolutionary game theorists...ignoring beebees on the nest since 2005"
  • imagegaultry:
    This weekend will be The Hunt For Pants That Fit And Are Cheap But Cute At The Same Time.

    Please let me know how this goes, I have such trouble w/ pants.

  • I've thought of doing that too, Gault, even though I've taken out all personal info now that I'm job hunting. I was pretty free with my online identity for a while. Anything I publish under my real name I don't care if potential employers find but I definitely don't want them reading my THIS COMPANY IS THE DEVIL rants. 

    My randomy stuff:  

    This week is dragging and I am burned out already - I kept thinking yesterday was Thursday. Fail.

    Mr. Bang and I have really been in a rut, and we NEED a weekend off - I am hopeful that we will be able to negotiate a weekend or at least a day with the little dude's mom. My remedy for our winter blahs would be a night away at a nice hotel and banging it out. 

    I'm hoping the Turbo Tax "refund estimator" is even remotely accurate because if so the government owes me a shitton of money. I know MM would frown on this but with everything going on right now (I need new brakes and possibly major dental work) getting a hefty refund would be a godsend. I'll be okay without it, but far more comfortable with it.   

     

  • I'm getting inexplicably frustrated with DH.  I want to pay off our loans which I can do... once we have all of our money pooled.  I could do it now in fact but then there wouldn't be much of an e-fund left and that makes me uncomfortable.  We converted all of my accounts to our joint accounts... so all he needs to do is go to the bank and close his checking... then deposit that in our savings.  Why is this so freaking hard?  I know he doesn't check the accounts as much as I do and I'm likely excessive with it, but ffs I want to be debt free and start getting serious on this down payment thing.  And I know he works too, but it's 7-3.  And he has TD Bank.  They are still open.
  • I took a sleeping pill last night and DH STILL fell asleep before me. It's annoying.
    I agree with everything that muddled said. You should listen to her. -ESDReturns
  • imagefeinicstine:
    I'm getting inexplicably frustrated with DH.  I want to pay off our loans which I can do... once we have all of our money pooled.  I could do it now in fact but then there wouldn't be much of an e-fund left and that makes me uncomfortable.  We converted all of my accounts to our joint accounts... so all he needs to do is go to the bank and close his checking... then deposit that in our savings.  Why is this so freaking hard?  I know he doesn't check the accounts as much as I do and I'm likely excessive with it, but ffs I want to be debt free and start getting serious on this down payment thing.  And I know he works too, but it's 7-3.  And he has TD Bank.  They are still open.

    How long have you been married?

    I agree with everything that muddled said. You should listen to her. -ESDReturns
  • I think I'm going to try to get a PT job on top of my FT one, just until I can take classes this summer. I figure I'll throw all money I make from a PT job at my debt to chip away at it while I can.

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  • I think I'm reaching the point of annoyingness (with myself and others) when it comes to excitement over the wedding.... that is still another ten months away.
  • I want stargazertechie to explain herself. 
    This is my siggy.
  • imagedoglove:
    I think I'm reaching the point of annoyingness (with myself and others) when it comes to excitement over the wedding.... that is still another ten months away.

    Eh, it's very sweet.  You're cute!

    Besides, we'd let you know (on TIP at least) if you needed a punch in the lady junk :)

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  • imageBowiesInSpace:
    I want stargazertechie to explain herself. 

    I doubt she will.

    image "Evolutionary game theorists...ignoring beebees on the nest since 2005"
  • I want to start planning a wedding, but I don't know where to start, so therefore I don't do anything.  I'm going to end up without any decent choices for a venue if I sit on it too much longer.

    We are also both on board with the 'let's not have a wedding' thing, but my mom is keeping us from actually not having a wedding.  She so much wants for us to have a wedding (she pretty much begged us to have one) and I will admit that we will be doing it mostly for her.  Secretly though, I'm glad that she's pushing for it because I have a feeling I might regret it if we didn't have one.  My feelings are mixed on the whole thing.  I think part of it is my age.  I feel like I'm too old to have a wedding...it seems too frivolous for someone our age. I feel like people will think we are being selfish and irresponsible by having a wedding.

    Ok...enough wedding stuff!

     

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  • imageBowiesInSpace:
    I want stargazertechie to explain herself. 

    Me too, I am still feeling so upset by learning that she is married from that post on FM from the other night.

  • imagegaultry:
    Eh, it's very sweet.  You're cute!

    Besides, we'd let you know (on TIP at least) if you needed a punch in the lady junk :)

    Thank you, yes please keep me in check.

  • imagedoglove:

    imageBowiesInSpace:
    I want stargazertechie to explain herself. 

    Me too, I am still feeling so upset by learning that she is married from that post on FM from the other night.

    Wait, what?

    WHAT?

     

    image
    Yeah that's right my name's Yauch!
  • imagelaptopprancer:
    imagedoglove:

    imageBowiesInSpace:
    I want stargazertechie to explain herself. 

    Me too, I am still feeling so upset by learning that she is married from that post on FM from the other night.

    Wait, what?

    WHAT?

     

    Yeah, that whole post made me sad. I want to know more too.

     

  • imageMuddled:

    imagefeinicstine:
    I'm getting inexplicably frustrated with DH.  I want to pay off our loans which I can do... once we have all of our money pooled.  I could do it now in fact but then there wouldn't be much of an e-fund left and that makes me uncomfortable.  We converted all of my accounts to our joint accounts... so all he needs to do is go to the bank and close his checking... then deposit that in our savings.  Why is this so freaking hard?  I know he doesn't check the accounts as much as I do and I'm likely excessive with it, but ffs I want to be debt free and start getting serious on this down payment thing.  And I know he works too, but it's 7-3.  And he has TD Bank.  They are still open.

    How long have you been married?

     

    4 months. 

    So yeah, it's not like his accounts are hanging out there for years on end. Our paychecks both already go in to the joint one.  I'm excessively type A about money management and will willingly admit that he's not really doing anything wrong.  He's just a procrastinator about bank things because let's face it, the bank kinda sucks.

  • I ran out of my super-most-important crazy med last night even though I thought I had at least two more nights' worth. So I'm all f*cked up and nervous and having tremors. DH filled it over his lunch, so I just have to wait for it to kick in, but I am not too great right now. I work at 3:30. I considered calling in but couldn't think of a reason that actually made any legitimate sense.

    Also, while I like my job a lot, I wasn't scheduled for Fridays, but I am now because some guy got fired. Not a big deal, it just means I work Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday nights, so I feel like I miss seeing DH for half the week. That's the one thing about retail that I hate. 

  • imagelaptopprancer:
    imagedoglove:

    imageBowiesInSpace:
    I want stargazertechie to explain herself. 

    Me too, I am still feeling so upset by learning that she is married from that post on FM from the other night.

    Wait, what?

    WHAT?

     

    Yes I believe this is the response:

    imageBlackBeans:
    imagedoglove:

    imageReturnOfKuus:
    ed:  Stargazertechie, what DH/FI?  I thought you recently left an abusive relationship?

    Ditto - what?

    (AE here...you both know me)

    She did leave the abuser.  And then she ran away and married him at Disney World.  She didn't elope because of the stress, she eloped because no one in her life supported her marrying someone who was (is) hitting her.

  • That was after she posted this:

    imagestargazertechie:

    what you expect and what you get in life are two vastly different things.

    I expected to buy a house with DH (at the time FI) and then get married witha  big Catholic wedding and 400 person reception shortly thereafter. What actually happened was that  his BFF died on Christmas day, and his mom moved in with us the 2nd week of January... and then died the 1st week of February.

    We ended up eloping 18 months after all of that happened.

     

    My point is, you need to learn to roll with the punches. Life isn't a Disney movie. It sounds like you do care about your BF, and you seem to care about his daughters. You need to either readjust your perspective, or walk away before everyone gets hurt worse. 

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