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Is ML a magnet for crazy?
kisgettingmarried started out here. Even used buddha's art in her siggy.
So what is it that made her go to ML and choose that as her home.
Is it that there are other trainwrecks? Just more people? More posts?
It appears she has been self destructing over a period of some days over there including a post yesterday that she has apparently DD'd that broke things down by year.
All we get is a regurgitation of toot.
Re: Is ML a magnet for crazy?
i'm looking forward to when this post inevitably becomes today's miniboardwar. fun!
yes? i think so.
i won't lie, i was surprised the way k was embraced there. but of course now that she put allllllllll of her dirty laundry out to dry there last night, i'm curious to see what direction they go with her now.
Good. Maybe they will get off my back now.
Katie, I know you mentioned the snow plow thing, but I really don't remember that. What was her (first) story?
if this turns into a mini board-war i will have to shiv myself with a pen.
i have no idea why there is so much crazy over there. its sort of weird that the weirdos seem to find that place and just explode their big balls of a mess.
which leads me to believe that the new crazies are really old crazies that have just gone crazier.
or maybe i'm crazy.
They seem more accepting of the crazies and the losers, overall. There is something to be said for that.
ETC stupidity.
we are very excepting.
if you mean accepting, then you've nailed it. Bingo.
you're an enabler sara. admit it. We need to start an intervention for you.
And wendy, I don't really know what the new crazy details are.
I know a few days ago she mentioned she had Borderline Personality Disorder. Many people suggested therapy, myself included.
She complained about taking meds to deal with her husband's videogaming.
Then she posted about TTC and said that while her husband sucked in some ways, she wanted to have all her babies by him because he was a good father and she wanted all of her kids by one baby daddy.
But last night, she apparently put the whole catalog out there, by year. I don't know what that was.
its true. i do enable. i'm not sure what, but i'm sure its something. i'm very excepting of others.
i think her husband is not her baby bio daddy.
For less then ten cents a day, you can feed a hungry child.
oh that's right. she said they were almost done with the adoption.
And, um, if you get your wish on ML you betta share, bitcch.
We are a softer and gentler ML at night. It would have been MUCH different during the day.
Also I think that ML accepts people, lets them feel comfortable, then beats them down when the time is right. Isgettingmarried days are numbered the poor dear.
well, duh!
From the little bit I saw (I got there after the outline was deleted), current husband is not bio daddy. She was newly pregnant and then had a quick fling with some other dude. I thought I saw once that she said her son was already born when she got together with her current husband.
But, that is really all I have seen aside from the video gaming, xanex taking, want another baby now thing from the past few days.
yes, but they stay with you all the same.
We flame once and that's all she wrote. They are gone for good.
Um. She reposted it.
http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/62206712.aspx
Um, after that post, I think the answer to the question is clear.
I don't remember her. Did we scare her off?
fallin, she was complaining about snow blowing related to her H. Said he wanted to just shovel and everyone in MN had to have a huge freaking expensive snowblower and he wouldn't buy it.
Buddha made that siggy.
We all mocked her.
She went away.
I bet her FUPA's name is Shane, like the gunslinger/drifter of literature.--HappyTummy
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She already DD'd again.
Bethie, now THAT could start a board war.
But she PROMISED she wouldn't!
I vaguely remember the snowblower, but I think I wasn't around much for that.
You should definitely repost it.
She already did! You practically have permission.
we all fall down sometimes
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For those who missed it.
Among other things. I also have PTSD, paranoia and high level general anxiety along with OCD.
As far as background goes...I had completely trainwrecked my life up until I had DS. That's when things started improving.
For the disbelievers, a synopsis of split-second bad decisions I have made leading up to this point:
2004:
- Skipped school regularly in high school (still graduated with a 3.75 though)
- Only applied to 1 college (luckily was accepted)
- Signed a lease and got an apt with two friends that didn't have jobs
- Left my parent's house for good 3 mos before graduating high school (preferred couch crashing to dealing with them, bad situation as far back as I can remember). Homeless for 1 month until apt became available.
- Broke up w/ HS boyfriend to date jobless loser
- Spent life savings on a car and trip to London and apartment
- Worked 60 hr weeks to support self and roommates
- Quit jobs, started new jobs...6 jobs total this year
- Dropped out of college halfway thru first semester
- Quit 6th job
- Got married
2005:
- Got unpaid internship which cost me money I didn't have
- Ate from food shelf while supporting roommates
- Kicked roommate out
- Got new roommate
- When that roommate moved out unexpectedly, followed him to work and popped 2 of his tires
- Broke lease to move to better apt
- Adopted 2 cats
- Started school again
- Cheated on ex-H repeatedly
2006:
- Stopped school to work full time and make millions
- Did too many drugs
- Cheated on ex-H repeatedly
- Quit job, got a new job
- Quit new job to go back to school full time
- Moved into house w/ 8 roommates
- Moved into apt w/ gay friends and left house w/ no notice
- Moved into apt way too expensive
2007:
- Cashed out H's trust fund to live on
- Went back to school full time
- Attempted therapy and psychiatric eval and meds, took Abilify
- Cheated on exH repeatedly
- Ability = not good for bipolar = moved to NOLA w/ exH and 5 friends into a 2 br apt we had never seen and spent the rest of the $12k trust on the move
2008:
- No jobs lined up in NOLA = hungry, sucked.
- Abilify withdrawal = extreme depression = stayed in bed 1 month
- Left exH for someone I met at a bar and worked with for 2 wks, moved into their studio
- Stopped using birth control somewhere in there, found out pg 2 mos after leaving exH
- Took a bus back to MN at 2 mos pg alone, moved in w/ exH in condemned house
- Couch hopped, got jobs, food stamps, homeless but didn't qualify for welfare, finally got apt after homeless 3 mos (6 mos pg)
- Quit work at 8 wks pp to run an indie recording label
- Found IT job and made more $, stabilized
2009:
- Left exH after it was apparent DS didn't matter enough to get a job
- Stuck w/ too expensive duplex...moved into dad's basement
- Divorce finalized
- Cut off all mutual friends
- Started dating DH 3 mos after divorce finalized, stabilized.
I could go on but that's the abbreviated version.
I'm getting another bipolar evaluation soon....I've been cycling again and DH has noticed it and we just came off an awful manic period in which I cheated on DH emotionally with someone at work. And used as an excuse to start smoking again.
You could say my judgment isn't the best right now. I'd definitely say that.
Thank you for alerting me to the "band-aid" qualities of TTC and cats right now...I know they are band-aids. Sometimes you just want to feel better, you know? Trust yourself more? I don't trust my judgment 90% of the time, due to my history. I wasn't diagnosed bipolar until 2007, I was 22. It hasn't been that long and I still don't know how to deal with it and I really have no awareness of when I start to cycle and I feel BSC a lot of the time.
That combined with the anxiety, PTSD and everything else makes it really difficult to go to work, wake up on time in the morning, fall asleep at night, and just feel ok. It never feels ok.
So the band-aids are just me trying to feel better. I know they don't work. But sometimes I can rationalize them. I'm aware it's irrational really. Doesn't stop me from wanting to do it (I know it should. It doesn't. I'll be trying to figure that one out lol).
I got a referral today to a mental health center from my PCP so I'm going to call for an eval and start discussing treatment again. It's not something I'm used to yet and I hate admitting there is so much out of my control, which is why I never mentioned it here.
But since I really like being here and talking to you guys seems to help me figure out what's normal and what's not, I wanted to tell you. I don't mean to come across as a giant b!tch or condescending or anything like that. At all. I know sometimes I do, my communication sucks.
I don't have a proper foundation for relationships with other humans. I never got that foundation built when I was at the age where that stage of development is supposed to happen. So sometimes I don't know I'm overstepping boundaries. But I really don't mean to. I don't want to offend anyone and I really do like and appreciate everyone here.
I know I'm a trainwreck. It's confusing as , and frustrating as all get-out, and I am just hoping this helps you understand it better.
If you made it this far, congratulations, you're one of the very few people in the world who will ever know this much about me. If I hadn't talked to DH about all of this a minute ago I probably wouldn't be so open to it so I'm posting before I lose the courage to do it.
I won't DD (maybe even so I can remember things correctly when I'm fuzzier).
I bet her FUPA's name is Shane, like the gunslinger/drifter of literature.--HappyTummy
now, someone needs to get indignant and post this over on ML and the war begins.
People over there are already uncomfortable enough with a sara's post over there asking for it.