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Bump c&p- Yes, Mommy Dearest!
WTF?
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Re: Bump c&p- Yes, Mommy Dearest!
Mommy Dearest? Because she expects her kids not to act like disrepectful heathens?
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Yeah, I still don't disagree with this.
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Are you implying that someone has issues with impulse control perhaps?
I'm on the same page as you...
An 8 year old isn't going to die if he's woken up at 3am to do a half an hour of cleaning. And hopefully it'll make the little ahole think twice the next time he leaves a mess.
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I'm okay with the waking of the 19 year old, even if I wouldn't do something like that personally. Hell, he probably just went to bed, lol.
But the 8 yeard old? That was mean and unnecessary.
I may also be thinking that it should be no surprise that a nineteen-year-old raised by someone with...umm.... lack of impulse control doesn't have the house cleaned.
I would probably wake my 8 year-old up at 3 am if they did something I considered extremely insane.
An 8 year old leaving crumbs on the counter doesn't make him an ahole. Especially if he hasn't been taught any better.
lol imoan.
You're going to get a reputation. First you throw your H down the stairs then you beat your imaginary 8 year old with wire hangers.
Fine! I take back the bit about the 19 year-old PP being the reasonable one.
Now I'm gonna go get me some pizza.
And THIS is how he's taught better.
Side-eye me all you want, Kuus.
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Sorry imoan. I'm completely with kuus on this one.
as opposed to, I don't know, parenting the kid during the day by doing something like glancing around the kitchen before he goes to bed?
(Iknow, on bedrest. But I don't think I" that far in left field to assume that bedrest mom still put the 8YO to bed, right? And was allowed to stand up enough to notice the house was 'trashed'. So...you make the kid scrub the grout w/ a toothbrush at 8pm not 3 am.
Hell, I'm the messy ADHD one in the house and even on migraine days, if I"m the adult in the house, I do a 'walkthrough' before I put Buffy to bed to make sure it's not 'trashed')
Something tells me this OP (in the link) has an issue with consistency. I imagine that she hasn't asked her children to clean up after themselves regularly and now suddenly expects it of them.
The 19 year old is grown (theoretically lol) and should know better.
I get it that waking them up at 3am is supposed to teach them "the hard way" about cleaning up after themselves, but I think its a little bit crazy. You can take away privileges or something, but doing it that way is just going to make the kids resent her for being a nut. It might also encourage them to not clean up to make some sort of statement.
My mom would take away privileges if my room was a sty or I didn't pick up after myself. Not getting to do what I wanted to do and getting punished was enough for me to remember to clean up after myself.
Yeah, getting an eight-year-old up at 3am to cope with what is, in the grand scheme of things, pretty frickin' minor is terrible discipline. So you're trying to teach your kids self-control, while displaying that you have none yourself, since you couldn't wait til the next day to vent your spleen?
I have zero respect for parents who do crap like this, and I'm not surprised when their kids are problem children.
July 3rd, 2012 ~ Hang in there sweetheart, we can't wait to meet you!
I'm leaning towards imoan with this one, honestly. If she was that p.o.'d about the mess. Then I would assume that she, when physically able, maintains the house to a certain standard. The 19 year old, is old enough, to notice that the house is in far worse condition than is considered the acceptable standard.
All the things she listed as having them do, take just a few minutes to do individually, pick up the clothes from the around the floor and put them in the hamper, clean the crumbs from the counter, (which would have prevented them falling on the floor, in the first place) and put away toys and books, when your finished with them. There was no reason for them to wait to do those extremely simple things. Had they done them during the day, there wouldn't have been a reason for them to be woke up at 3am.
And it's not like she beat them. I doubt they will be emotionally scarred from the loss of 1-2 hours sleep. This was a very surprising lesson for them, and I doubt that they will need to repeat many if any more times.
I think this sums up my opinion:
I think pulling an 8 year old out of bed at 3am is pretty shittty.
And, holy hell, why are you even pregnant??
Thanks BooKitty!
The only 34 year-old husband I see mentioned is from sunnyt154. The OP identifies herself as a single mom.
Did you get the posts mixed up? I did that a couple of days ago on TIP.
Lurking, but this.
ugh that woman...IDK. I just dont understand who takes care of the 2 year old when shes on bedrest all day and doesnt go downstairs.
poor kid.
why was she downstairs at 3am looking at crumbs on the counter. I feel really bad for her kids.
I was wondering the same thing about the 2 year old.