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Is this normal?
I'm a lurker and this is my first post, but I could use some advice, and any that could be given would definitely be appreciated.
My husband and I have been married for four months, and were both virgins on our wedding night. My problem that night, and has hurt every time we've had sex. We do lots of foreplay, have used lubrication, all of the usual "fixes", but nothing has worked. I usually love the first half of sex, but dread the second. Is there anything we can do to make it not hurt, and maybe even pleasurable?
Re: Is this normal?
Awesome. Thanks for the advice. I have a gyno appt. in a couple of months, and if these tips don't work, I'll ask her what's up.
Thanks again!
When I asked my gynecologist about this same problem, he told me one thing: relax.
If you "dread" sex and anticipate it being painful, you'll tense up and it will hurt. Relax. Don't expect it to hurt before anything's even happened. One other thing you might want to try is a position that puts you in control, like being on top. You can go as slowly as you like, and get used to the feeling of it on your own time, which will make you no longer fear the pain of sex.
This was my same situation back when I first lost my virginity; nothing was wrong with me physically, I was just psyching myself out.
By all means, though, do ask your gynecologist just to make sure nothing serious is wrong.
1st half ???
I was sore after sex until swimming season started. Put two and two together and realized when I started shaving most of the scruff off down there. The friction and pain from sex went away.