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Re: I Hate Today.
I think he gets it (he's 23 now) but unfortunately he lashes out when he doesn't get his way, and tries to manipulate Fran by playing the Child From A Broken Home card. It makes me apoplectic because the ex-wife clearly told him the wrong story of what happened when they split up.
Man, Wendy, that sucks. Sorry about the puking kids (good thing they're cute), and the assswipe HOA.
I hate today because I worked every day of the 3 day weekend, which makes it really annoying to come into work again today.
I also hate today because I hate estrogen. It is a biitch. I have been taking BCPs in advance of our IVF cycle and they are really starting to get to me. I almost had a melt down getting ready for work because my dress was linty, my hair wouldn't cooperate, I spilled beads from a necklace and my GDMF garage door opener doesn't like the cold so wouldn't open this morning. Most of that stuff is minor but it felt so tragic. So, eff you estrogen and eff you garage door opener.
11/11/11 = 5 years. Woah!
that really sucks Wendy.
I'm am so thankful that my father never badmouthed my mother (though he certainly had reasong to). I figured it all out on my own. I think this is a big reason I never badmouthed my son's father to him too, I knew he'd either figure it out on his own or he wouldn't, either way I don't need to get involved. I'm pretty sure my son has no idea (memory) that his father twice went a full year without seeing him, many times didn't pay child support and was a pretty craptastic father for a long long time. Luckily his father has matured and they seem to have a good relationship so he doesn't need to know he used to really suck, it benefits nobody,
I had a hormone induced day like that this weekend and t was ugly. Maybe it's because I only have a period like every six months or so, but man do I feel like my emotions are completely out of my control when i do have one. I become a whiny, needy mess.
I feel like I'm out of control. When something sets me off, I don't know how to come down. Last time I cycled, I was on a higher dose of estrogen and I firmly believe my husband should win an award for having put up with me.
Maybe I should start boxing lessons; I clearly have angst to work through.
11/11/11 = 5 years. Woah!
Hang in there Lisa.
Wendy - if it makes you feel any better, my Mom spent a lot of energy trying to make me hate my dad. Telling me he had an affair and walked out on us, that he would go to hell for what he did, etc. As a kid, I felt conflicted and confused. I loved my dad. Could he really be the monster she made him out to be? As I got older, I was so so angry at her for that. I resented her for saying things she had no business saying to a 9 year old. I recognized that a child could not possibly process that, or understand adult relationships. I'm actually still angry about it.
This won't help until she's older, but I've found laughter to be a very affective diffuser of negative bull. The first time she came home all upset because evil-ex-mil forced her to wear a skirt because "I'm going to teach you femininity so that you don't hate being a girl like Mouse does." It was so absurd I just started laughing so hard tears came. Just, what do you say to that? Refuting it gives it too much credence.
It doesn't suit all circumstances, but I don't think knowing how to deal with ridiculous comments is all that bad.
"The meek shall inherit the earth" isn't about children. It's about deer. We're all going to get messed the fuckup by a bunch of cloned super-deer.- samfish2bcrab
Sometimes I wonder if scientists have never seen a sci-fi movie before. "Oh yes, let's create a super species of deer. NOTHING COULD POSSIBLY GO WRONG." I wonder if State Farm offers a Zombie Deer Attack policy. -CaliopeSpidrman
Ugh, I'm sorry, Lisa. But seriously, I took kick-boxing classes at a local gym and TOTALLY loved it. It was fun to get some aggression out.
I really wanted to Kung Fu my hair straightener this morning, so maybe I should look into some professional training.
I was telling my aunt how much more affected I was by the estrogen in the BCPs than by any of the other meds, and she said that is why teenage girls are how they are.... estrogen. That makes me really scared to have a teenage girl.
11/11/11 = 5 years. Woah!
This!
Sorry about everyone who has to hate today. I can't even rank them in terms of shiitiness. I was like, Ooh...not being able to close on the house- that's awful. It would have totally f'ed us up if that happened because we closed on our buy and sell the same day. Then I read barfy kids and I know what it's like to clean crib puke and my heart went out to you. Okla's sucks because we all know that feeling.....etc and etc. So. everyone's today is equally sucking.
I have nothing except that it's really cold and rainy. And I'm up weight, and didn't make it on the treadmill today. Other than that, I've had plenty worse days.
Wow. That's really bad. Sorry Wendy. What sucks most is that it's beyond your control which has to be so frustrating. You can't make him stop doing that so then you just have to deal with the fallout, which can't be easy. I'd be anxious every time I'd drop him off wondering what I was going to have to deal with after. Ugh. Disgusting.
Holy crap. If J was in front of me right now I'd give him a kicking story to tell.
You're such a good mom for keeping calm and neutral. The thing about not missing Kevin would really piss me off. Because for him to say that just out of the bluw, you know he was coached.
we all fall down sometimes
brass and ballet flats
It was definitely out of the blue, because Connor always tells us both he missed us and asks if we missed him too. One time Kevin told him of course we would miss him, because how else could we make a Connor sandwhich (where we both hug him together which Connor this is the most hilarious thing ever) and Connor decided he was the cheese and we were the bread. So now when he comes back he always asks if we missed the cheese, except of course when the first words out of his mouth were "but I didn't miss you ham, I only miss my mommy and my daddy".
That's just sad. I know it's easier said than done I guess. But if B and I ever weren't together, and B had someone else that was a decent person, I'd hope E would have a good relationship with her. I would want him to have a healthy relationship with anyone in his life longterm. I would hope I'd be mature enough to understand that each relationship is separate and has no bearing on our relationship.
:-( How hard is it really to just put your foffing kid first in situations like that?? It's not like you guys would be getting back together if Kevin wasn't involved. It's not like you left J for K even.
I know it's not a laughing matter, but this is kind of a hilarious way to receive the news.
"That chick wins at Penises, for sure." -- Fenton
Exactly! No amount of singleness puts jarrod back in the running and Kevin isn't even the first guy I dated after J!