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I am so angry about this
My coworker has a friend who is pregnant with her 4th kid. She is 27 weeks.
She was told prior to this pregnancy not to get pregnant due to previous complications in every pregnancy that would not go away. She was on bedrest with every pregnancy and each child was born preemie.
But she insisted she wanted another child. She is a rich girl with a husband who neglects her to work running his company 24/7 and defines herself by being a mommy.
When she got pregnant, she was told to terminate by every doctor. She didn't. She was told she risked death for herself or her child. Still didn't.
So, she is now in the hospital with Placenta Accreta. Her placenta is attached to her blowel, bladder and pretty much every other abdominal organ. The doctors are giving her a high chance of dying during the delivery because it is so advanced. They are trying to get her to 32 weeks so at least the baby has a fighting chance.
I am just enraged that she is willingly ok with orphaning her children basically since the father has no role in their lives. And for what?
Re: I am so angry about this
I had no idea a placenta could just attach itself to random organs.
this is sci fi shizz for sure.
I also can't wrap my mind around this. Just last night H and had the baby or me debate of who would be saved. It was an instant decision that it would be me. 1. because I am awesome. 2. because I can not even go to a place where I think about my son not having me around. See #1 for reasoning.
Oh, for sure. I hear you. It brings tears to my eyes to think of my son growing up not knowing me because he is so young.
This woman's kids are all under 4. It would be devastating at any age though.
This is horrible.
Of course, amongst my radical pro-life Facebook friends she'd be hailed as a heroine in the vein of Tim Tebow's mother.
Yes. Please mark this as example one for why I cried like a crazy loon during Lilly's death scene in the Deathly Hallows movie. I'm tearing up just thinking about it again.
Seriously. I'm totally making a Noisy-esque "New Moon" face right now.
I bet her FUPA's name is Shane, like the gunslinger/drifter of literature.--HappyTummy
OMG. I just watched that Sunday night. I was ugly crying so freaking bad during the whole snape memory sequence but especially when she was telling Harry to be strong. And then when his parents came to support him as he faced Voldemort saying they had never left him.
Dude.
Wait, you would really rather you be saved than your child? I can't wrap my brain around that.
i agree with everyone's sentiments about the selfishness and shortsightedness of forging ahead with pregnancy after pregnancy despite the overwhelming medical advice not to due to very real life threatening risks that keep. happening(!!!)
and her invasive placenta growth is super freaky.
that being said, i couldn't stop myself from giggling at the unintentional hilarity of the 'blowel' misspelling, because at first i read it as blowhole, and was like WTMFSHE HAS A BLOWHOLE!! I could see how that could threaten one's life for sure!
i'm so stupid.
I am assuming she means if she was told in the pregnancy that it could cause death to her.
I love you, Katie.
Ohhhhhhh. Carry on, nothing to see here.
during pregnancy yes
Not when the baby was out- I would chose my children's life over mine in a hot minute.
I don't know why it is different in pregnancy. Probably because I don't "know" this baby yet.
"That chick wins at Penises, for sure." -- Fenton
I would. I would rather live and continue to be a mother to Jo.
Yeah, I'm sort of in this camp. Its not something that enrages me. Its very very sad for all involved and I feel for her and her little family. But placenta accreta (and in her case, precreta) is so exceptionally rare that she could not have seen that one coming. Maybe other complications but this one? No.
Yeah, I agree. I thought she meant a choose her over Jo scenario.
I am not a mom, and not planning to be in the very near future, but HOLY CRAP THIS SCARES THE BEJEEZUS OUT OF ME!
Placentas attaching to organs?! I'm reading a book now too where in the opening chapter a woman dies during childbirth. This stuff really still happens in this day and age? How does anyone have the balls to conceive a baby? I mean...you don't know if you are "high risk" or not til you get pregnant, right? Well, except for this dingbat that the original post was about. If I had 3 high risk pregnancies, I sure as hell wouldn't go for round 4. That's just plain stupid.
If I've learned anything from coworkers stories of friends, its that you don't get all the details.
I think its sad but I don't get the anger.
Yeah. My thoughts exactly. Is enraged really the right word? I get being side-eyey but angry?
For less then ten cents a day, you can feed a hungry child.