I am so angry about this

Novemberrocks · January 2012

A high chance of death isn't the same thing as your typical high-risk pregnancy. I think it's way different than the cancer example too, unless you had cancer (and knew it) and opted to get pregnant instead of getting treatment for the illness. It sounds like she was told be health professionals that she was looking at extreme risks and disregarded sound medical advice.

lanie30 · January 2012

Meh its very sad. I just don't get anger.

CaliopeSpidrman · January 2012

AngieP900:
I'm still shocked at someone having 4 kids in present times. We just reached 7 billion yo.

I'm just going to sit here next to Angie.

ChristinS · January 2012

Really? I mean, someone with 3 kids is told they have a good chance of dying if they get pregnant and they choose to get pregnant anyways. You don't get someone feeling anger towards them? I mean, I'm at least somewhat disgusted by it.

EastCoastBride · January 2012

ChristinS:
Really? I mean, someone with 3 kids is told they have a good chance of dying if they get pregnant and they choose to get pregnant anyways. You don't get someone feeling anger towards them? I mean, I'm at least somewhat disgusted by it.

Agree. I get where winged is coming from on this. This woman has a history of complications, was told not to get PG again, and she choose to do it anyhow.

FallinAgain · January 2012

I think it's really stupid, but first, I'm not in her shoes or know what her choices or decisions were. Second, I rarely get enraged at things that don't affect me, unless they are so beyond the pale, e.g. Jerry Sandusky.

lanie30 · January 2012

I guess I sort of think pretty poorly of the friend tossing out this information at the office for people to be enraged over without all the details (she doesn't have all the details, no one does).

I don't have all the details. I don't really want them. I just find it unbelievably sad.

FallinAgain · January 2012

lanie30:
I guess I sort of think pretty poorly of the friend tossing out this information at the office for people to be enraged over without all the details (she doesn't have all the details, no one does).

I don't have all the details. I don't really want them. I just find it unbelievably sad.

And clearly casting her "friend" in the worst possible light. If NEY made me sad for young women getting married and having babies too early, our stint on Relationships has made me sad about how many women will publicly bash people they call "friends." That may enrage me.

AngieP900 · January 2012

FallinAgain:
our stint on Relationships has made me sad about how many women will publicly bash people they call "friends."

This makes me sad too.

ChristinS · January 2012

That's a woman for you! And I'm kind of amused at all this "we don't know all the details, we can't judge" business. That's what we do here. We judge. Details be damned.

lanie30 · January 2012

ChristinS:
That's a woman for you! And I'm kind of amused at all this "we don't know all the details, we can't judge" business. That's what we do here. We judge. Details be damned.

Indeed, but I try not to judge people who are likely dying using 3rd removed details.

ChristinS · January 2012

Oh you and your "lines" Lanie.

WendyToo · January 2012

AngieP900:
FallinAgain:
our stint on Relationships has made me sad about how many women will publicly bash people they call "friends."
This makes me sad too.

Do FB friends count? Because I am FB friends with people I would not call actual friends and have definitely been guilty of making fun of some of that. It's really more a collection of "people I know" than friends.

AngieP900 · January 2012

WendyToo:
AngieP900:
FallinAgain:
our stint on Relationships has made me sad about how many women will publicly bash people they call "friends."
This makes me sad too.
Do FB friends count? Because I am FB friends with people I would not call actual friends and have definitely been guilty of making fun of some of that. It's really more a collection of "people I know" than friends.

Nah, FB friends don't automagically make someone a real friend. That's safe.

wingedbride · January 2012

First of all, I am not sure why you equate anger with enraged. Those are two very different emotions. Both lanie and fallin are repeatedly saying I am enraged over this. Maybe you define emotions differently, but I certainly think there is a big difference between those two.

Secondly, I am not sure how you make the jump that my coworker was bashing her friend. She was sharing information about her, but not in a negative light in her eyes. Like I said, she is a friend as well. I mention her as coworker just to illustrate that this was something we just spoke about now, which is why it was on my mind. But this was a friend sharing with another friend the details of a condition that worries her. She is not angry at the friend. She is sad and worried.

FallinAgain · January 2012

WendyToo:
AngieP900:
FallinAgain:
our stint on Relationships has made me sad about how many women will publicly bash people they call "friends."
This makes me sad too.
Do FB friends count? Because I am FB friends with people I would not call actual friends and have definitely been guilty of making fun of some of that. It's really more a collection of "people I know" than friends.

I'd say no, but if it's someone you hang out with and called your friend (and if it's a BM, like many of the ones people complain about here), then I think bashing them on the internet, or to co-workers, or to people who don't like them doesn't reflect well on you.

FallinAgain · January 2012

wingedbride:
First of all, I am not sure why you equate anger with enraged. Those are two very different emotions. Both lanie and fallin are repeatedly saying I am enraged over this. Maybe you define emotions differently, but I certainly think there is a big difference between those two.

Secondly, I am not sure how you make the jump that my coworker was bashing her friend. She was sharing information about her, but not in a negative light in her eyes. Like I said, she is a friend as well. I mention her as coworker just to illustrate that this was something we just spoke about now, which is why it was on my mind. But this was a friend sharing with another friend the details of a condition that worries her. She is not angry at the friend. She is sad and worried.

Dude. Your OP used both "so angry" and "just enraged." I'm quoting you.

Maybe the rest of it is your interpretation of the info your co-worker shared but talking about this women in terms of a "rich girl" neglected by her husband who "defines herself by being a mommy" and being "willingly ok with orphaning" her kids sounds pretty bashy to me.

MadameS · January 2012

Whenever I hear about stories like this, I pull out my Jump To Conclusions mat, and I assume that the woman in question loves to be a victim. That's the only reason I can figure that this situation would happen.

Novemberrocks · January 2012

One of my professional skills is making judgments based on incomplete information. I'm really good at it.

wingedbride · January 2012

FallinAgain:
wingedbride:
First of all, I am not sure why you equate anger with enraged. Those are two very different emotions. Both lanie and fallin are repeatedly saying I am enraged over this. Maybe you define emotions differently, but I certainly think there is a big difference between those two.

Secondly, I am not sure how you make the jump that my coworker was bashing her friend. She was sharing information about her, but not in a negative light in her eyes. Like I said, she is a friend as well. I mention her as coworker just to illustrate that this was something we just spoke about now, which is why it was on my mind. But this was a friend sharing with another friend the details of a condition that worries her. She is not angry at the friend. She is sad and worried.
Dude. Your OP used both "so angry" and "just enraged." I'm quoting you.
Maybe the rest of it is your interpretation of the info your co-worker shared but talking about this women in terms of a "rich girl" neglected by her husband who "defines herself by being a mommy" and being "willingly ok with orphaning" her kids sounds pretty bashy to me.

lol. did I use enraged? ha. oops. I have a flair for the dramatic sometimes. It goes back to that WINGED SMASH joke I make. I guess I should be a little clearer about my true emotions sometimes instead of trying to be funny.

But all of those are my interpretations. They are bashy. But they are all my bashy.

CaliopeSpidrman · January 2012

Please call a repairman because Fallin is broken. Hopefully she's still under warranty.

FallinAgain · January 2012

I have gotten soft and squishy over the last year. I'll still call things ridiculous, but I don't have it in my to be angry at someone who is such a tragedy.

CaliopeSpidrman · January 2012

Remember how we didn't have to vote for Judgiest and instead had a category for Second Judgiest? I don't even know if you could win either category anymore. I hope this fills you with shame. You're like a shell of your former self.

Zaitel · January 2012

wingedbride:
FallinAgain:
wingedbride:

First of all, I am not sure why you equate anger with enraged. Those are two very different emotions. Both lanie and fallin are repeatedly saying I am enraged over this. Maybe you define emotions differently, but I certainly think there is a big difference between those two.

Secondly, I am not sure how you make the jump that my coworker was bashing her friend. She was sharing information about her, but not in a negative light in her eyes. Like I said, she is a friend as well. I mention her as coworker just to illustrate that this was something we just spoke about now, which is why it was on my mind. But this was a friend sharing with another friend the details of a condition that worries her. She is not angry at the friend. She is sad and worried.

Dude. Your OP used both "so angry" and "just enraged." I'm quoting you.

Maybe the rest of it is your interpretation of the info your co-worker shared but talking about this women in terms of a "rich girl" neglected by her husband who "defines herself by being a mommy" and being "willingly ok with orphaning" her kids sounds pretty bashy to me.

lol. did I use enraged? ha. oops. I have a flair for the dramatic sometimes. It goes back to that WINGED SMASH joke I make. I guess I should be a little clearer about my true emotions sometimes instead of trying to be funny.

But all of those are my interpretations. They are bashy. But they are all my bashy.

Even I knew were you were coming from and the feeling. Of course I don't quite know EXACTLY how you feel about this co-worker but you know. She seems to have some serious mental issues to go on and not just get pregnant but to GO ON with it. I pray that the mother comes out alive for the sake of her children

ReturnOfKuus · January 2012

Maybe the eventual new stepmom will be smarter. That might be a blessing for the kids.

FallinAgain · January 2012

CaliopeSpidrman:
Remember how we didn't have to vote for Judgiest and instead had a category for Second Judgiest? I don't even know if you could win either category anymore. I hope this fills you with shame. You're like a shell of your former self.

Deep, deep shame.

CaptainSerious · January 2012

FallinAgain:
I have gotten soft and squishy over the last year. I'll still call things ridiculous, but I don't have it in my to be angry at someone who is such a tragedy.

OMG! Are you pregnant?

FallinAgain · January 2012

CaptainSerious:
FallinAgain:
I have gotten soft and squishy over the last year. I'll still call things ridiculous, but I don't have it in my to be angry at someone who is such a tragedy.

OMG! Are you pregnant?

HA! No.

TSD · January 2012

AngieP900:
I'm still shocked at someone having 4 kids in present times. We just reached 7 billion yo.

In my town of Stepford, this is the norm. Strollers passing my store have stadium seating. I'm like a pariah with an only.

Fancy07 · January 2012

But she insisted she wanted another child. She is a rich girl with a husband who neglects her to work running his company 24/7 and defines herself by being a mommy.

As a lurker, you seem to be obsessed, with the, what did you call it a few days ago? Oh, yeah. The richey-rich.

You and MadameS, love to brag, don't you?

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