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Re: Ugh I feel so guilty
No, dramatic would have been me getting up in arms over what a stranger on the internet does with some cats I've never seen before. She didn't hang them from a tree in the front yard, she sent them to a shelter. Was it a good decision? No. Would I ever take an animal to a shelter? No, in fact, the dogs I've had in my adult life have come from shelters and it makes me sick to think of what happens to animals there. I guess I feel less strongly about this issue because I have human children, and can see a definite difference between them and my dog. Maybe my perception is skewed because of that, but I just don't get attacking a stranger for making a crappy decision. To me, THAT'S being overly dramatic.
Well said. I am really sad about this. Cats are my favorite!
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
Well said.
I didn't think the OP's choice had anything to do with children, and I don't think most of the responses have been "attacks." But she did a sh!tty thing, and came here asking to be placated -- about something that's a hot button issue for a lot of people. Frankly, I think things have remained relatively civilized. There would be far more vitriol had this been posted over on Pets.
So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past.
Next time you tell someone that their reading comprehension skills are lacking, you should probably be more careful when you respond. My response wasn't an attack at all. I just gave her some details of shelter life and said she was being selfish. The truth is not an attack. And I would hardly consider my response getting "up in arms". I was just hoping she could see maybe it wasn't the best idea, and perhaps pick those kitties back up.
No, it wasn't.
WHAT? There's a difference between humans and dogs? Well I guess I'm not a parent so obviously I wouldn't be able to understand this.
I didn't see one person who compared pets to children in this thread. A life doesn't have to have the same value as a human life for us to have a responsibility not to inflict unnecessary pain or suffering. Everyone has the ability to feel compassion and know right from wrong, whether they have children or not. I also don't believe that caring about animals makes you a bad person, particularly homeless animals.
As others pointed out, you keep conflating issues and injecting drama. You went from saying the OP couldn't put food on the table to now saying the cat isn't a kid so people shouldn't care so much. Neither of those applies to what the OP said or directly responds to the comments or arguments made by people against what she did. The OP said she felt bad and wanted someone to make her feel better and people have pointed out that, yes, she should feel bad and did make a mistake. Nobody has gotten nasty, gone below the belt, or attacked any of her other qualities, they've simply supported their opinion that what she did was wrong. That's within the topic of the thread and we are, in fact, allowed to have opinions you disagree with.
I'm injecting drama? How about all the people who don't even post here regularly who are jumping on the "SAVE THE KITTIES!" bandwagon, or maybe crazyincidents who went over to the crazy-cat-lady board to summon all the other crazy cat ladies over here for a group freak-out. Holy shiz, people, get a grip.
Also, if you are allowed to have opinions I disagree with, then I'm allowed to say that there is a HUGE amount of overreaction in this thread. Agree to disagree.
I believe she stated that she picked up a second job because she didn't enjoy living paycheck to paycheck.
- Martin Luther King Jr.
Another lurker chiming in...
In 2007--when I was carefree! Had no kids!--my husband and I bought a dog from a neighbor who had puppies. Yes, yes, I know...
Our little guy ended up having idiopathic epilepsy and behavioral problems...although he is wonderful with us, we can't trust him around other people that he doesn't know well.
Five years later we have two kids and busy lives. Is it convenient that our kids can't have friends over (someday, they are still really young)? No. Is it convenient that I routinely get up in the middle of the night to comfort a dog having a 30 minute seizure because they can't be completely controlled? Definitely not! Have I ever momentarily considered finding him a new home? Sure.
But our dog is part of our family and we committed to taking care of him. And as much work as he is, we love him and it would be a huge loss ifhe wasn't here.