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hey girls. sorry again for the lack of caps. my phone apparently does not function well with the nest.
long story short i just received a text from matt that basically says that hes not sure he wants kids anymore. im pretty much devastated and stuck in class till 7. pretty much im a mess. i dont know where this came from and i know i shouldnt talk to my mom or friends about it until i talk to hin and figure out whats upm
i dont even know what to say right now.
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I don't want the whole world.
The sun and moon and all their light.
I just want to be the only girl, you love all your life.
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This. Have you been talking about the pregnancies in Juneville at lot? Maybe he's just having a panic moment. Hopefully that's all it is. You definitely need to have a good, long talk about it though. This is a big issue for couples, and you need to find a solution that you both can live with. I just can't get over how he sent you this in a text, as though it was just a random update on how his day is going! Tons of hugs and T&Ps to you, Dana.
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weve talked about kids in the past but noy any time recently. ive been avoiding it because i didnt want him to have anything else he could stress about. ive barely even been mentioning my neices.
as much as it hurts me to think this it almost feels like hes trying to give me a reason to leave him. i thought things were going really well...
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I don't know that there's anything more that I can say that the other ladies haven't. I can't believe that he sent that message in a text instead of in a face-to-face conversation. Based on what you've told us, it seems so out of the blue, that it makes me wonder if something sparked that sentiment in the moment, but not necessarily in the future. I really hope that once you both get a chance to talk about it, you'll be able to work out each others feelings regarding someday having children.
Thinking of you and sending you lots of virtual *hugs*!
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I can totally understand why you'd be a mess--I would be too! That's some pretty important stuff, and I can't fathom why he'd put that in a text message rather than tell you in person. It's unfair of him to spring news like that on you out of the blue, unless it had to do with an earlier conversation. Like the other girls said, I hope this was a knee-jerk reaction to something rather than a true statement of what he wants. I'm sending TONS of T&P your way!! Hopefully you two can talk about it when you get home tonight work things out. I seriously hope he's not trying to give you a reason to leave him (as you suggested) because that would be a horrendous thing to do to someone.
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Wow, that is not cool at all that he would a) blindside you like that and b) tell you in a text!
Honestly? You probably don't want to have kids anyway until his issues with alcohol are under control. So I would just calmly ask him where that new stance came from. Have a conversation about it, and then agree to reevaulate later.
I'm so sorry he sprung that on you!
Pretend I said the above too. I don't even know what to say right now. Hopefully the two of you can sit down and have a calm conversation and try to figure all of this out. I'm sorry he blindsided you with a text like that!!
Thinking and praying for you!
T&P for you! I'm just going to echo what most people have said. This is hopefully a knee-jerk reaction to something that happens. I know DH has them all the time, especially about kids. I think you just need to talk to him in a calm and rational way. Lay it all out and get to the heart of the matter.
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