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Re: Confessions/Vents
Vent: I have a friend who is constantly whoring out my DH's tech. services to her family. "My Dad is having some problems with his laptop, do you think DH could look at it?" or "My sister's printer isn't working, does your DH know what's up?" It's irritating. He works all the time and goes to school too, so what would make her think he has time to be doing all this extra crap for free is beyond me.
Confession: DH and I plan on homeschooling the kids, and even though I'm in no way ashamed of that decision I feel like it's my "dirty little secret" or something. Probably because most of the time when I do tell people they look at me like I have three heads.
There is nothing wrong with homeschooling. My aunt and uncle did it, and their children are all very intelligent. The only worry I would have if I were to home school is that they aren't getting enough socializing. A lot of homeschooled children I have met tend to not know how to properly socialize with other people.
But! You are super social so I don't think there will be any issues there.
Vent: I HATE when DH leaves his xbox stuff and his ipad all over the living room floor. I have told him that he needs to pick up because I keep tripping on the stuff, but apparently his ears aren't working. I am just praying that I don't accidentally break something because I tripped on it.
Confession: I weighed in at WW last night and was down 2 pounds, which is amazing. The bad part? I went to Maggiano's to celebrate and ate a lot of bad food. haha
Your vent is something I have to vent about often as well. Makes me crazy. My boss is the worst about it. Hey jackwagon, you don't pay me enough to include my husband's services.
As for homeschooling, I think that most people don't know much about it. My cousin's wife homeschools her kids and they are pretty darn smart. They are also involved in church and a library group, so they get to socialize with other kids. I feel bad that their family gave them such a strong sideeye about it, but I think they are starting to see how the kids are benefiting. I give you credit because I don't think I could do it.
Confession:
Moving is now starting to scare me a lot more than I would like to admit. I am not a huge fan of change.
I am only about 70% packed and I told my dad I would be 100% by the time he got here Friday (tomorrow). I am wishing I would have taken off more time this week so I had a day to just relax and be lazy before having to be productive and pack.
Vent:
I am mad at myself for eating so terribly since Christmas. Its just so hard for me to eat well when everything in my kitchen is pretty much packed up. Blah, I know it will get better.
That's because people are stupid and have no idea of the benefits of homeschooling.
I completely understand. The plan is to get them enrolled with Sunday School/Youth Group at church from a young age so they have a social circle there, as well as enrolling them in a variety of teams, lessons, classes, etc. to increase their social circle. A lot of homeschooling parents actually form together to form co-ops in essence where the kids all get together and do things like fieldtrips, etc. Oakland County (where we're moving) actually has one of the highest homeschooling populations in the whole country. Babya said that there's a family right in our neighborhood that homeschools as well, so I'm excited to get to know them.
DH has a bad habit of leaving his stuff all over too. I tell him all the time that if Emma gets into his stuff, it's his fault not hers.
No joke! It's like they just assume that your DH is going to help them because they're married to you. I would never ask someone to do crap like that without offering to pay them, etc.
Thanks for the homeschooling comment. I'll admit, I always used to think it was really strange too. I think there's always just been such a stigma around the concept. My cousin's wife homeschools her kids as well, and up until the last few years I kinda' thought she was nutty. Clearly I've come around though! Believe me, there are days when I think "holy crap, I can hardly manage the day to day stuff with two kids, how in the world am I going to teach them too?" but I know that I'm still getting into a routine with the two of them and honestly...where there's a will, there's a way!
LMAO - that's so true.
Vent: Nothing to complain about at the moment. I may return to this this afternoon...
Confession: I'm embarassed by how much I want a baby and by how much I've already thought about it/planned (even though you can never really plan how everything will go). I'm also feeling kind of isolated since I don't really have a lot of friends, and most of the friends I do have aren't anywhere close to thinking about it. I'm also feeling guilty about wanting to be a SAHM and scared about how it all will affect our finances. *sigh* I even feel ridiculous confessing this because we aren't even going to start trying til next month. *headdesk*
Vent: I have to watch a 2 hour movie for a class. I'm annoyed but I understand it is an online class so this is potentially beneficial. However, the prof only listed the movie's website and said it's $4.99 to watch it. Ummmm... I found it for free on youtube, but thanks.
Confession: I'm overly excited for Chicago this weekend. I thrive on change. That's why I have difficulty having "favorite" things, or having "the usual" when I eat.
Ha! This is going over much better than I expected. I figured half of you might be like "Huh? Say what?"
Thanks for the support!
confession: I judge. - The only reason I judge is because I cannot do this. Both DH and I are BEARS IN HIBERNATION when we sleep and something could happen that we wouldn't notice (rolling on baby, for example, even with a pillow in between)
There is nothing wrong with being excited to have a baby! And it's not like you haven't set a time to start TTC. You and your H will know what is best for you and it will be a wonderful thing for you! Just be excited and not embarrassed!
My cousin's wife said on a really bad day she threatened to drive them to the public school and drop them off. Haha!
::shrug:: LOTS of people judge which is why I don't tend to talk about it much. It works for us and overlaying has never been a concern.
FWIW bedsharing is actually the norm in most of the world. Even in the US, having a separate room/bed for the baby is a relatively new thing. TBH I think you will be surprised if/when you have kids how lightly you sleep whether they are in the bed or not. I was a fairly heavy sleeper before and after he was born (even when he wasn't in bed with us) the slightest noise woke me.
For the record, we do so safely - i.e. no pillows by the baby, we don't drink, etc.
Same here Erin! It's made night time feedings SO much easier with Lily than it did with Emma. Emma slept with us as well, but we didn't start bedsharing with her until she was a little older.
Yeah, the family I nanny for has too small of a house for the baby to have a separate room but even if they did have a bigger space, I know they'd keep the crib in the room and the mom often sleeps with the baby. (Dad doesn't sleep with Mom because daughter has to have a room in the basement so he sleeps on couch in basement).
And I don't judge in a bad way... I judge because I think I'd be too scared to do it.
I can only imagine how convenient it is not even having to get out of bed!
This. It's honestly amazing how much you're still "aware" even when you're sleeping. I often marvel at how well I usually sleep, and yet if Lily makes the slightest move/noise I'm awake.
OMG yes the nighttime feedings are so much easier. Even H (who is not breastfeeding lol) has said he can't imagine what a PITA it would be to get up and go feed the baby then come back to bed.
Packing is a pain in the butt. I hated doing it last time and I know I'll hate doing it the next time too.
You shouldn't be embarrassed by that. I remember feeling the same way about a year or so before we started trying. I knew I wanted to be a SAHM but didn't see how it was going to happen. I felt like the time was going SO.SLOW and that it would never be our time to TTC.
Have you talked to your DH about your being a SAHM? Do you feel guilty because he's not totally on board? What are his thoughts?
This is awesome! Way to go! I saw a BILLBOARD the other day promoting seperate rooms and good baby sleep habits and I wanted to punch someone. There's nothing wrong w/ bedsharing. People are idiots.
Maybe that's my vent. I'm tired of people being judgy idiots.
Hahaha... glad to know that others have them!
We will be your friend
It's wonderful. With Emma, she was in a bassinet and I was exclusively pumping, so every feeding required getting out of bed, doing the whole bottle bit. It was exhausting.
With Lily, the breastfeeding aspect in itself has made things easier. For the first month or so she started out the night in her bassinet next to the bed and was just end up in our bed after her first nighttime feeding. Now I've found we all just sleep better if she's in our bed right from the start.
I'm curious about this... describe the billboard, please.